Bad news from the hospital - mets

LeeinLondon

I just received the news that MRI result show mets to my spine (hence my neck pain), and my ribs. This doesn't affect my treatment much, but there goes my good mood

sangora

So sorry to hear this
When you started talking about back and neck pain I was afraid this was the case. I am sure you were as well. This seems to never end. Know that there are many holding you up in our arms and are praying that you and Chantal can have some peace as you continue to make your journey. Sam

TerryV

So sorry, Lee
I'm without words.

Prayers, lots of prayers, to you and Chantal! Hugs as well.

Terry

hopper52

Sorry for the bad news
Lee and Chantal,

So sorry to hear about the mets. I myself am getting really tired of going to the hospital to receive "more bad news". The pain I can keep in check thus far with the meds. The eating and such I have some resembalance of control although most of the time the "no appetite" sign is up, but I think that may be getting a little better the further I get out from surgery. But the "unexpected" or "new information" is what throws me for a loop mentally. I mean I started April as a Stage IIA eligible for chemo/radiation and surgery. Now I'm 6 months from diagnosis and I'm stage IV, I've had two major abdominal surgeries and a heart catherization in the last month. I'm wearing a "wound-vac" drainage pump for the abdominal incisions.Amazing little piece of machinery.

With all that being said I really empathize with you, Lee. Bad news is never good but I guess the best we can do is press onward and deal with it on day at a time.

Remaining in my prayers man

Michael Daniels
Brandon, FL

Wpturner05

Lee and Chantal,

Regardless of what you know may be down the road for you, knowing how this story will likely end - it never makes it easy to hear. There comes some comfort with just status quo - EC with liver mets, stage IVb, no cure, no surgery, palliative only. We know all those things, yet when we hear of progression it hurts, it's scary. I find myself wanting to scream and cry and beg for it to stop, slow down, give us a little more time to live and have a glimmer of our life back. I pray the day that our peace and acceptance is fully in charge of our days.

I know today and the coming days will be hard, but I also pray that you will come to a peace and acceptance that allows you to embrace the life that you are living.

We are sad with you and weep with you.

Love completely and deeply . .

Sincerely,
Whitney

bingbing2009

So sorry
Lee and Chantal,

I am so sorry to hear this news. Although I don't post often, I read this site daily, and I feel as though I know both of you. You have definitely touched a place in my heart.

I'm not even sure what to say. All I know is that you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers daily. I wish you many, many days of love, life, and laughter. Enjoy everything to the fullest!

Sending you lots of love and hugs,
Melinda

rdraetta

bingbing2009 said:

So sorry
Lee and Chantal,

I am so sorry to hear this news. Although I don't post often, I read this site daily, and I feel as though I know both of you. You have definitely touched a place in my heart.

I'm not even sure what to say. All I know is that you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers daily. I wish you many, many days of love, life, and laughter. Enjoy everything to the fullest!

Sending you lots of love and hugs,
Melinda

Sorry
Better days will come your way just one step back ,, we will go foward each and every one of us Prayes always RD

cher76

Keep positive thoughts
Lee and Chantal,
I am so sorry to hear of this new development. Rickie has had bone mets pretty much from the beginning. Hopefully you can get the pain meds under controlI and move on from there. Our doctors had told us that he could possibly have radiation for the bone mets if they got worse. We were lucky that after a few rounds of the chemo we are on now they seemed to "resolve" were the words they used. They were in both his lower and upper spine and sternum. So don't give up hope!
Take care,
Cheryl

BMGky

We offer up prayers for you
We offer up prayers for you all. BMGky

Wife of patient 50378

Lee & Chantel

...........Your in my thoughts.
Sal

jax568

Wife of patient 50378 said:

Lee & Chantel

...........Your in my thoughts.
Sal

Strength and love
So sorry to hear...you two are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sending you strength and love.

Jackie

paul61

So sorry to hear the latest news
Lee,

I am so sorry to hear the latest MRI results. I know when we get news like that it is like a kick in the stomach. I hope they have some positive ideas about how to deal with it.

You and Chantal are in my prayers daily

Best Regards,

Paul Adams
McCormick, South Carolina

Laura23

paul61 said:

So sorry to hear the latest news
Lee,

I am so sorry to hear the latest MRI results. I know when we get news like that it is like a kick in the stomach. I hope they have some positive ideas about how to deal with it.

You and Chantal are in my prayers daily

Best Regards,

Paul Adams
McCormick, South Carolina

So sorry
Prayers for strength and peace, and lots of hugs coming your way.

Laura
Wife to Luis

jojoshort

Sucker punch
You must feel like you've been sucker punched. Lee and Chantal, we are holding you close in our hearts. I don't really know what mets to bones entails, but from others' posts perhaps it's something that can be managed? I so wish to send you all the peace you can muster at this time. A break for you both would be nice.
Big, deep breaths. We are here for you.
Xoxo
Jo-Ann

NikiMo

Sorry to hear this
Lee,

I don't know what to say, except that I am sorry you have received this news. I hope that your medical team can work on something to relieve the neck pain.

Niki

unclaw2002

Lee,My dad was the patient,
Lee,

My dad was the patient, but I understand how news like this can take your mood away even though we all know that the cancer keeps on marching while we hope for some breaks that give us that precious time we all cherish. You and Chantel are such brave and strong people and have faced so many hurdles already. Some days it is so hard to explain to others why news like this hits us so hard, another day we might just say ok just another day --- but today wasn't just another day for you.

As a Stage IV patient we hope for time, pain control and the ability to have some quality of life while the monster attacks us. One thing that helped my family with some of these issues, the thought in the back of our minds that the cancer keeps on growing, was to have those "good days" plans. Things we loved doing together, trying to plan some fun escapes - even day trips or a ride to have a cup of coffee in his favorite coffee shop or a visit to the neighborhood book store. We even worked on some bucket list items, the outlandish the things we could never afford and some things we could do. We talked and spent time together. Now I know some folks just retreat from their loved ones, some get angry, some get depressed and sometimes everyone in the family feels all those things at the same time and sometimes everyone is feeling something different at the same time. This is such an emotional roller coaster.

But my dad did try hard to not let the cancer define him, not let it control him. And that is easier said than done when your days are filled with medications, doctor's appointments, and pain. When the cancer spread to his liver they gave him months to live --- he lived almost 12 months from that date. We had wonderful visits, holidays, anniversaries and made many wonderful memories. The picture in my profile is the family in New Orleans for the 2010 Christmas holiday and a special family meal at Commanders Palace.

I urge you to build those memories with Chantel and your family. Unfortunately, we know the ending to the story --- but we can pack years of living (a Sherri saying) into the time left to us because we have been given the ironic gift of knowing we don't have forever. Those memories help me deal with the loss of my father and most importantly I know that he knew how much we all loved him and we knew how much he loved us. Do I wish we had more time? Yes. But do I regret the last years of his life? No - we were thankful for every day we got.

Lots of hugs and prayers,
Cindy

lilrusty

Sending Prayers To You
Lee and Chantal we have you in our hearts and prayers.

AngieD

unclaw2002 said:

Lee,My dad was the patient,
Lee,

My dad was the patient, but I understand how news like this can take your mood away even though we all know that the cancer keeps on marching while we hope for some breaks that give us that precious time we all cherish. You and Chantel are such brave and strong people and have faced so many hurdles already. Some days it is so hard to explain to others why news like this hits us so hard, another day we might just say ok just another day --- but today wasn't just another day for you.

As a Stage IV patient we hope for time, pain control and the ability to have some quality of life while the monster attacks us. One thing that helped my family with some of these issues, the thought in the back of our minds that the cancer keeps on growing, was to have those "good days" plans. Things we loved doing together, trying to plan some fun escapes - even day trips or a ride to have a cup of coffee in his favorite coffee shop or a visit to the neighborhood book store. We even worked on some bucket list items, the outlandish the things we could never afford and some things we could do. We talked and spent time together. Now I know some folks just retreat from their loved ones, some get angry, some get depressed and sometimes everyone in the family feels all those things at the same time and sometimes everyone is feeling something different at the same time. This is such an emotional roller coaster.

But my dad did try hard to not let the cancer define him, not let it control him. And that is easier said than done when your days are filled with medications, doctor's appointments, and pain. When the cancer spread to his liver they gave him months to live --- he lived almost 12 months from that date. We had wonderful visits, holidays, anniversaries and made many wonderful memories. The picture in my profile is the family in New Orleans for the 2010 Christmas holiday and a special family meal at Commanders Palace.

I urge you to build those memories with Chantel and your family. Unfortunately, we know the ending to the story --- but we can pack years of living (a Sherri saying) into the time left to us because we have been given the ironic gift of knowing we don't have forever. Those memories help me deal with the loss of my father and most importantly I know that he knew how much we all loved him and we knew how much he loved us. Do I wish we had more time? Yes. But do I regret the last years of his life? No - we were thankful for every day we got.

Lots of hugs and prayers,
Cindy

Lee and Chantal
Oh, I just hate that you had to hear this news and I hate it even more that you didn't get to enjoy a few more days of good mood and feeling better! That said, maybe with the docs having this information, they can figure out a better way to manage your pain to give you more good days. Hang in there. Praying for you and Chantal for strength to get over this new hurdle.
Angie

Ericalynn

Thinking of you Both!

Lee & Chantal,
All I can say is that you are loved and I am hoping you (& the health care team) can manage your pain! Hoping you can fined a smile
(Did Daisy visit yet?)
Love you both
Erica

ritawaite13

So Sorry
Lee and Chantal,
I'm saddened by your post. We also got bad news today but I will definately pray for you both. I pray for your doctors to find some pain management for you and for strength and comfort for Chantal.
Rita

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