Writing this through my tears-from Kateel

TerryV

Peace in your decision, Kateel
I am so sorry that it has come to this decision for you, Kateel. I know how heartbreaking this is. My brother-in-law and I went through a similar choice for my ex-husband 2 years back after he suffered somewhere between 7 & 13 strokes. It isn't an easy decision.

I believe that at this point - Bill has left and gone to be with our Lord. The life support is only maintaining the shell that once was Bill. Still not an easy decision though.

My prayers are that you have peace, Kateel. Wrap the memories of your time with Bill around you and hold them close.

Terry

unclaw2002

Kateel,
My thoughts and
Kateel,

My thoughts and prayers go out to you, your family and to Bill. These are such difficult times for those of us left behind but I can feel your love for your husband and how you want to do the right thing.

We faced something very similar with my dad when he developed a severe infection that could not be treated - at the time he was still on a feeding tube but he was slipping in and out of a coma and the feedings were not being assimilated by his body and he was puffing up like a balloon and it caused him much discomfort. After speaking with the Hospice nurse, the doctors and then discussing it as a family we decided that we would not force feed him with the feeding tube. We still gave him water and other fluids and tried to get him to eat what he could. When we made that decision we knew it was only a matter of time before he would pass away but they made sure he received pain medication and was comfortable. After we stopped the feeding he actually became more conscious and seemed much more comfortable and spoke --- his body was trying so hard to absorb the nutrients it no longer needed that he wasn't able to have any comfort. Although, letting him go was the hardest thing any of us had to do I know that it was the right thing. He told me several days before he passed I am so tired I want to go ... and I held his hand and kissed his check and told him I loved him and it was okay he could go to heaven we would take care of mom.

I cried and I kept crying and was so worn out like you --- I still miss him so much - but these days I am more likely to smile when I feel sad and remember him it isn't easy and I am crying as I write you and there will always be an empty place. And my mom told me the other day she keeps his picture by her bed and says Good Morning to him every day and Goodnight when she goes to sleep. God bless you and hold you in his arms.

Hugs and prayers,
Cindy

rose20

I can't even imagine...
Kateel, I can't even imagine having to make a decision like that to stop life support. I'm so very sorry. I know it is your faith in God who is giving you the strength. My heart goes out to you. Keep talking to him as I'm sure he hears you.
I was by my dad's bedside when he went on to be with the Lord. We talked to him and sang to him. He never opened his eyes but at the last he opened his eyes and looked at my mom and then he was gone.
Will be praying for you.

francma

Kateel Prayers and thoughts with him, you and family
Kateel

You are proving your strength and love for him. This is what he would want you to do....to be at rest and peace with Jesus. He will always be in your heart and watch over you now. God Bless you and give you more strength to carry on with your life.

Fran

rmitchell

Bill
I am so sorry. My prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time.
Reba

json_2011

Deep prayers for Bill and
Deep prayers for Bill and you , Kateel. I can not begine to imagine but we all must go through. I know he was grateful for haveing you and him to you. God bless you.


Jason