Sad please anyone help me...

madsters1

your mom
I am SO sorry to hear about your moms diagnosis. I cannot imagine standing where you stand.And yet more than likely one day I will. To watch someone you love suffer and in your heart of hearts know that what you're seeing is the possible beginning of the end is really rough. Please remember what a dear elderly lady once said," none of us will get out of this world alive." What you will see is like a baby being born, a soul squirming it's way out of it's earthly body. If we know Jesus Christ as OUR Saviour, we will leave this life and have everlasting life with Him waiting for us.
I have been newly diagnosed with breast cancer. I have to tell you that I would definately want to know about my own health. It's most certainly your decision, but she has the right to know so that she can be prepared emotionally and in all other ways for whatever lies ahead. My heart goes out to you. God bless you in your decision and journey.

alexandria54

AnneBehymer said:

ok you two
Do you not realize that having both of you as friends hearing your problems and being able to pray for you helps me because it get my mind off of my cancer and treatment for once it not all about me. I am glad I have connected with you two wonderful women and I know your both are always lifting me up in prays please don't stop telling me when you are not feeling well or when you are having a hard day I want to be there for you I will tell you if it becomes to much I love you both have a great night.

Anne

Oh Anne, you put a smile on
Oh Anne, you put a smile on my face this morning. My sister got put in assisted living yesterday and I purposely stayed away and let her adjust and let them do their job. I must create a distance between us in a healthy way because I realized something two days ago and that is that I have become totally codependent with my sister. Not a good thing. It's actually making me sick, physically and mentally, so I'm getting help with that with my therapist. I am so proud of my other sister with breast cancer. She had her infusion yesterday and there was a lovely woman there who looked healthy and pretty but her breast cancer had gone to the liver and she told the nurse she wasn't taking the infusion. She wanted to give up. When the nurse walked away the woman struck up conversation with my lovely sister and she asked her what she would do and Tracey said, "my daughter and grandson would hog tie me and drag me in here so giving up is not an option for me." She then said to the woman "you look so beautiful and healthy, don't you want to find out if there is a miracle waiting for you?" Long story short, the woman called the nurse and took her infusion and my sister has a new friend. I love this story. I have to go now to go to my therapist before work. I have so many people praying for me and two new friends in Tina and Phyllis and it's keeping me going. I know it's corny but you all are the wind beneath my wings. Thank God. love, nadine

teenadee

madsters1 said:

your mom
I am SO sorry to hear about your moms diagnosis. I cannot imagine standing where you stand.And yet more than likely one day I will. To watch someone you love suffer and in your heart of hearts know that what you're seeing is the possible beginning of the end is really rough. Please remember what a dear elderly lady once said," none of us will get out of this world alive." What you will see is like a baby being born, a soul squirming it's way out of it's earthly body. If we know Jesus Christ as OUR Saviour, we will leave this life and have everlasting life with Him waiting for us.
I have been newly diagnosed with breast cancer. I have to tell you that I would definately want to know about my own health. It's most certainly your decision, but she has the right to know so that she can be prepared emotionally and in all other ways for whatever lies ahead. My heart goes out to you. God bless you in your decision and journey.

God be with you
Thank you for your kind beautiful words. I as well would want to know about my health but if you would meet my mom, you would understand why this is the best decision we could make for her. She knows she is ill but not to the full extent. My mom is a very panicky, anxious women, she has always been this way and to tell her full details of her health would literally destroy her and possibly kill her that way. She would give up. I have spoken to doctor's, oncologist and they feel this is best for her as well. She doesn't need to know every detail that her bones are being somewhat eaten by cancer. It is extremely hard to tell her everyday when she asks 'will I get better' and I say yes momma you will get better but it gives her hope and light in her eyes. What keeps me going is to believe that there is a beautiful peaceful life called heaven and that when it's our time, we can see our loved one's below. I love my mom with every part of me and I do whatever I can for her. I will pray for you and wish you the absolute best.

teenadee

AnneBehymer said:

ok you two
Do you not realize that having both of you as friends hearing your problems and being able to pray for you helps me because it get my mind off of my cancer and treatment for once it not all about me. I am glad I have connected with you two wonderful women and I know your both are always lifting me up in prays please don't stop telling me when you are not feeling well or when you are having a hard day I want to be there for you I will tell you if it becomes to much I love you both have a great night.

Anne

2 smiles for my 2 amazing wonderful friends. I will tell you how I'm feeling Anne always. I am getting a bit better and trying to take it easy. This pneumonia has knocked the wind out of me. I hope you are doing better today. I was wondering this past week why the Oncologist hasn't put my mom on Chemo - I wonder if Chemo does not help with bone mets? Would you know? They are giving my mom an IV drip every 3 months to try to regenerate the bones but I wonder about chemo. I can't ask her Oncologist about Chemo because there's no way she could handle this talk. I wonder if it is because she's too weak? too much wondering.... Have a great night and praying for you every nite. luv you!

teenadee

alexandria54 said:

Oh Anne, you put a smile on
Oh Anne, you put a smile on my face this morning. My sister got put in assisted living yesterday and I purposely stayed away and let her adjust and let them do their job. I must create a distance between us in a healthy way because I realized something two days ago and that is that I have become totally codependent with my sister. Not a good thing. It's actually making me sick, physically and mentally, so I'm getting help with that with my therapist. I am so proud of my other sister with breast cancer. She had her infusion yesterday and there was a lovely woman there who looked healthy and pretty but her breast cancer had gone to the liver and she told the nurse she wasn't taking the infusion. She wanted to give up. When the nurse walked away the woman struck up conversation with my lovely sister and she asked her what she would do and Tracey said, "my daughter and grandson would hog tie me and drag me in here so giving up is not an option for me." She then said to the woman "you look so beautiful and healthy, don't you want to find out if there is a miracle waiting for you?" Long story short, the woman called the nurse and took her infusion and my sister has a new friend. I love this story. I have to go now to go to my therapist before work. I have so many people praying for me and two new friends in Tina and Phyllis and it's keeping me going. I know it's corny but you all are the wind beneath my wings. Thank God. love, nadine

Sweet Nadine
First I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo sooooooooo proud of your sister. She did an amazing deed and it will not go unnoted. The good lord will take care of her. Nadine, I am glad you have put some distance with your other sister. I know it is extremely hard but you have to for your own health.. This past week I have been on sick leave from work with Pneumonia. My body took a beating this past month with my mom's results and this is it's reaction. I am taking antibiotics and feel pretty weak but I will get better, it is no comparison with what our families with Cancer are going through. You have to take care of yourself for your family. I can strongly relate to how you were feeling these past few weeks and I almost flipped out emotionally - actually not almost I think I did. Good nite Nadine, god be with you and your family and I pray for you's every night. luv ya Tina

alexandria54

teenadee said:

God be with you
Thank you for your kind beautiful words. I as well would want to know about my health but if you would meet my mom, you would understand why this is the best decision we could make for her. She knows she is ill but not to the full extent. My mom is a very panicky, anxious women, she has always been this way and to tell her full details of her health would literally destroy her and possibly kill her that way. She would give up. I have spoken to doctor's, oncologist and they feel this is best for her as well. She doesn't need to know every detail that her bones are being somewhat eaten by cancer. It is extremely hard to tell her everyday when she asks 'will I get better' and I say yes momma you will get better but it gives her hope and light in her eyes. What keeps me going is to believe that there is a beautiful peaceful life called heaven and that when it's our time, we can see our loved one's below. I love my mom with every part of me and I do whatever I can for her. I will pray for you and wish you the absolute best.

Tina, thank you for your
Tina, thank you for your beautiful words as always. I swear I am losing my mind. We are all losing our minds and until you are going through it with a family member, or God forbid, yourself, you just don't get it. These stories on this site help me and I am praying all the time. Sometimes I feel so crazy I'm actually embarrassed! I always thought I was the sanest person going. Every story is a little different but the suffering is all the same. We are all doing the best we can and somehow we'll get through. At least I'm hoping so. Tina, I am so sorry you have been sick. Please get well, we need you!!! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo and P.S. I am there for you! And Bubblegum3, I'll put you in my prayers as well.

AnneBehymer

alexandria54 said:

Oh Anne, you put a smile on
Oh Anne, you put a smile on my face this morning. My sister got put in assisted living yesterday and I purposely stayed away and let her adjust and let them do their job. I must create a distance between us in a healthy way because I realized something two days ago and that is that I have become totally codependent with my sister. Not a good thing. It's actually making me sick, physically and mentally, so I'm getting help with that with my therapist. I am so proud of my other sister with breast cancer. She had her infusion yesterday and there was a lovely woman there who looked healthy and pretty but her breast cancer had gone to the liver and she told the nurse she wasn't taking the infusion. She wanted to give up. When the nurse walked away the woman struck up conversation with my lovely sister and she asked her what she would do and Tracey said, "my daughter and grandson would hog tie me and drag me in here so giving up is not an option for me." She then said to the woman "you look so beautiful and healthy, don't you want to find out if there is a miracle waiting for you?" Long story short, the woman called the nurse and took her infusion and my sister has a new friend. I love this story. I have to go now to go to my therapist before work. I have so many people praying for me and two new friends in Tina and Phyllis and it's keeping me going. I know it's corny but you all are the wind beneath my wings. Thank God. love, nadine

hope
It sounds like you finally found hope in what your sisters are going through and sometimes that hope can change our lives. I am glad you are stepping away and letting the nurses help your sister with the brain injury you can only help so much before it takes a toll on you. It sounds like your other sister is going to be a good friend to her new friend together they can fight. My chemo is done in a room by myself which is fine for me because I am a little shy around people I do not know. You sound so much better today I am very happy for you. You are always in my prays

Love
Anne

AnneBehymer

teenadee said:

2 smiles for my 2 amazing wonderful friends. I will tell you how I'm feeling Anne always. I am getting a bit better and trying to take it easy. This pneumonia has knocked the wind out of me. I hope you are doing better today. I was wondering this past week why the Oncologist hasn't put my mom on Chemo - I wonder if Chemo does not help with bone mets? Would you know? They are giving my mom an IV drip every 3 months to try to regenerate the bones but I wonder about chemo. I can't ask her Oncologist about Chemo because there's no way she could handle this talk. I wonder if it is because she's too weak? too much wondering.... Have a great night and praying for you every nite. luv you!

there could be many reasons
there could be many reasons why her onc has not started chemo I would ask. Since I do not have cancer in my bones I am not sure how they treat it. They had to start me on chemo right away because I was truly dieing inside. The path report showed that I already had tissue dieing inside me. I did not realize how close to death I was because I was working fourty to fifty hours a week and then all of the sudden in the hospital. So there was no waiting for chemo for me or I would have died. Talk with her ONC and see what their plans are for your mom regarding treatments.

Anne

teenadee

alexandria54 said:

Tina, thank you for your
Tina, thank you for your beautiful words as always. I swear I am losing my mind. We are all losing our minds and until you are going through it with a family member, or God forbid, yourself, you just don't get it. These stories on this site help me and I am praying all the time. Sometimes I feel so crazy I'm actually embarrassed! I always thought I was the sanest person going. Every story is a little different but the suffering is all the same. We are all doing the best we can and somehow we'll get through. At least I'm hoping so. Tina, I am so sorry you have been sick. Please get well, we need you!!! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo and P.S. I am there for you! And Bubblegum3, I'll put you in my prayers as well.

sanity out the window
I truly lost my sanity on NOvember 17 2010 as this is the day my mom's doctor called me at work to advise me that my mom now has bone metastasis from her thyroid cancer. My reaction was complete loss of control shaking crying hysterically and picturing her funeral. It is almost a year later and really my sanity has not improved but with the help of you, Anne and this site, I have been able to cope some times. My body has reacted now so it has scared me because like anyone I cannot afford to be sick and I have to be well for my 3 young boys and my amazing wonderful husband. I also have to be well for my ailing mom to give her the injections daily. I now talk to myself when I feel myself loosing control which is hmmm maybe every other hour and I say STOP or you will get yourself worse. Helps a little but not fully. I'm just babbling now I think... I hope your sister is settled and you are keeping some space for yourself and your immediate family. I hope you are finding strength. I am constantly praying for all of us. Last night I felt awful so I just said GOD HELP US ALL PLEASE. xoxo You can always write to me on e mail as well. Wishing you a good day.

teenadee

AnneBehymer said:

there could be many reasons
there could be many reasons why her onc has not started chemo I would ask. Since I do not have cancer in my bones I am not sure how they treat it. They had to start me on chemo right away because I was truly dieing inside. The path report showed that I already had tissue dieing inside me. I did not realize how close to death I was because I was working fourty to fifty hours a week and then all of the sudden in the hospital. So there was no waiting for chemo for me or I would have died. Talk with her ONC and see what their plans are for your mom regarding treatments.

Anne

chemo
I cannot believe all that you have been through Anne and I am so relieved that the chemo has worked for you. I know you've told me it's made you the person you are today, but no person should have to go through the things you have gone through and I know god is watching over you always. I wish they had caught your cancer sooner but this is the wish of many I know - you are in remission now and you will keep it up. I will pray hard for you on Thursday and when you can let me know how things go. Luv you Anne and eternally grateful for all you do for me.

AnneBehymer

teenadee said:

sanity out the window
I truly lost my sanity on NOvember 17 2010 as this is the day my mom's doctor called me at work to advise me that my mom now has bone metastasis from her thyroid cancer. My reaction was complete loss of control shaking crying hysterically and picturing her funeral. It is almost a year later and really my sanity has not improved but with the help of you, Anne and this site, I have been able to cope some times. My body has reacted now so it has scared me because like anyone I cannot afford to be sick and I have to be well for my 3 young boys and my amazing wonderful husband. I also have to be well for my ailing mom to give her the injections daily. I now talk to myself when I feel myself loosing control which is hmmm maybe every other hour and I say STOP or you will get yourself worse. Helps a little but not fully. I'm just babbling now I think... I hope your sister is settled and you are keeping some space for yourself and your immediate family. I hope you are finding strength. I am constantly praying for all of us. Last night I felt awful so I just said GOD HELP US ALL PLEASE. xoxo You can always write to me on e mail as well. Wishing you a good day.

I don't think anyone with or
I don't think anyone with or who is helping someone with cancer has any sanity left. It take so much out of use as we fight or helpping some one fight so keeping our sanity is the last thing we can worry about. It's a fight even if you are not the one fighting you are helpping your mom (or sister) fight so hard and I tell people all the time my mom was not the one told you have cancer but because she is helpping me it is like she has it also. Don't worry about your sanity we can find it later when we are all done with this fight lol.

Anne