A little kindness goes a long way....remembering those who exemplified it.
I want to share my appreciation for those on this board who showed love and respect to me and others over the years. Many of you have challenged me in ways that forced growth and understanding, but you did it in such a kind way, or humorous way, that connections were made and friendships blossomed.
When we share our stories on here we are stepping out, trusting strangers to be kind in response, with what we hold near and dear whether it be our faith or our choices. Occasionally there are times when that trust is broken, harsh words are exchanged, feelings are hurt but we learn quickly who is to be trusted and who is not.
Many of us have our less-than-wonderful moments because we are vulnerable to the emotions that a cancer diagnosis brings and we lash out or act like jerks, but my guess is that most of us are not really jerks IRL; we're just scared or angry or frustrated.
I want to remember a few who went beyond normal decency and never faltered publicly to show love and kindness toward the rest of us:
Nanuk, Bud, was so near and dear to my heart. His loyalty and love, generosity and kindness knew no bounds. He had my back. Always. He touched my heart so profoundly when he drove over 600 miles out of his way to come visit me in Northern Minnesota on his way to Texas for a colonpalooza. Thankfully before he died we were able to spend some heartfelt moments on the phone and I was able to tell him how much his friendship meant to me and that I would see him on the other side. He didn't believe in all that but he never once faulted me or shamed me for believing. Ever. He never condemned me for anything I believed in. Bud was a true gentleman.
And then there was Kerry--ever the lady who embodied grace no matter what horrific personal crisis with which she was dealing. Her love and concern for others was tangible through her posts as was her courage. It was my loss that I was not able to travel to Texas to meet a great lady.
Sweet Baby Girl Andrea was the epitome of youthful will and energy and focused determination. You always knew when she breezed into the discussion because her spirit was a force to be reckoned with 'til the very end. She as going to get her Masters Degree if it was the last thing she did.
Kimby made us laugh and lighten up. Her humor and upbeat attitude was infectious and drew us to her like bees to honey. She was the kind of woman that I wanted as my BFF. She rocked these boards bringing such a uniqueness that has yet to be duplicated.
There have been many others; and though I do not mention them that doesn't mean they weren't significant, au contraire, each has been.
And to those still here, I thank you for bringing your own distinctive flavor, your willingness to share your stories, your lives, your struggles and your victories. It is no small feat. I hope we can collectively respect and honor each
others story. It is something I can aspire to following the example of Bud, Kerry, Andrea and Kimby.
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