Take your wife to ER/UC and get fired.

Rague
Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
in Breast Cancer #1
Well as I have said - I had a colonoscopy last Friday morn. Hubby took me up for it (had to have a driver sign before I got knocked out). Thursday and Friday are his normal days off. "Things" didn't go as expected (nothing nasty found) and I was in very bad pain from it (hurt as bad as my C-sections did or worse - definately worse than mast.) I refused to let him take me to ER/UC Fri. night but did agree that I'd go Sat. morn if not better. Well he called his work Friday night and told them he probably wouldn't be in Sat. morn as he had to take me to ER/UC. He did take me up to ER/UC. He went in yesterday morn (Sun.) and was told there was no work that day. This morn he went in and was told that he wasn't reliable and so not suitable to remain working for the company. Since working there he has taken a total of 3 days off in over a year - the first was the day of my surgery which was Oct 21, 200 (Son took the day after to bring me home), a few weeks ago he took a day to go get meds for his broncotiis and then this Sat. to take me to ER/UC. Really 'unreliable' (yes I am being sarcastic).

When one door closes 2 others open so ----

(No my medical care has nothing to do with having health care insurance through this company - they don't offer any - I'm a veteran so my care is through VA.

Susan
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  • mwallace1325
    mwallace1325 Member Posts: 806
    #2
    Susan I'm so sorry
    I'm so sorry you have to add this to the stack of cr*p you're both dealing with. It seems like this should be some sort of law suit in the making for you but then it might not be worth it. Perhaps he should talk with an attorney specializing in this kind of thing. To say he's way better than his employer is an understatement.

    Hope it all works out in a positive way real soon.

    marge
  • MAJW
    MAJW Member Posts: 2,510 Member
    #3
    So sorry..
    Susan, I honestly don't know what to say...just that I hate that you are having more heaped upon you and your husband...I'm with you...when one door closes...thankfully your health insurance wasn't tied into his job...
    Wishing better days ahead for you..
    Nancy
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    #4
    Susan.... I am soooo very
    Susan.... I am soooo very sorry that this happend...unbelievable!! I am very glad however, that it has no bearing on your medical insurance coverage... Did your husband ever file for FMLA??? If he has, you have some recourse in this... just as an FYI... I too believe when one door closes others open... keep your chin up... I'll be thinking of you!!

    Hugs,
    ~T
  • mom62
    mom62 Member Posts: 604 Member
    #5
    No No No
    They can't do that. He has the right to the family leave act. He can take (I think) up to 6 or 12 weeks unpaid (or use vacation or sick) for that purpose. They don't have to be all in a row either. I think he should talk to HR and expain this to them. I'm not one for lawsuits but he has a good one there........
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    #6
    Susan....
    I'm so sorry, this is completely unfair! And just an additional stress for you both.

    Yes, another door will open and I will pray that it will happen very soon.

    Hugs,
    CR
  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    #7
    CR1954 said:

    Susan....
    I'm so sorry, this is completely unfair! And just an additional stress for you both.

    Yes, another door will open and I will pray that it will happen very soon.

    Hugs,
    CR

    What?
    So sorry, Susan. This just seems wrong, especially since they gave the reason of him not being reliable and his absences have been minimal and related to your health care. I hope you and your hubby will check out your rights. I also hope he'll find another job soon.

    Best wishes,
    Suzanne
  • seof
    seof Member Posts: 819 Member
    #8
    FMLA
    Check into FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) I think his boss is wrong, but check into it. My Sister's husband had a hard time for the 6 years she was a survivor because of monthly trips from Corpus Cristi, TX to Houston for her treatments. It was usually a 3 day trip because they had to get there the day before, do treatments all day, then home the next. He had to leave one job because the boss was not supportive of him refusing the advances of a female customer, then he had trouble finding someone who would hire him as soon as he said he would be taking off once a month for his wife's treatments. Employers are not as supportive as they should be...until it happens to them????

    Sorry you have to go through this on top of everything else. seof
  • pinkkari09
    pinkkari09 Member Posts: 877
    #9
    Yikes Susan, sorry to hear
    Yikes Susan, sorry to hear this. One thing to remember, there's a reason for everything, so hopefully what's behind door number two will be a better job or a more flexible one so he can be there for you without consequences.
    Mountains of Love,
    ~Kari
  • pinkkari09
    pinkkari09 Member Posts: 877
    #10
    pinkkari09 said:

    Yikes Susan, sorry to hear
    Yikes Susan, sorry to hear this. One thing to remember, there's a reason for everything, so hopefully what's behind door number two will be a better job or a more flexible one so he can be there for you without consequences.
    Mountains of Love,
    ~Kari

    Forgot to add, not sure
    Forgot to add, not sure where you live, but where I live, this is unlawful. Might want to look into that. Let us know what you find out. Your in my thoughts and prayers!!
  • meena1
    meena1 Member Posts: 1,003
    #11
    pinkkari09 said:

    Forgot to add, not sure
    Forgot to add, not sure where you live, but where I live, this is unlawful. Might want to look into that. Let us know what you find out. Your in my thoughts and prayers!!

    That is awful! Well, when
    That is awful! Well, when this happens to one of them, maybe they will realize how bad they acted. Sorry, your hubby lost his job.
  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 Member Posts: 2,729
    #12
    So sorry this happened. I
    So sorry this happened. I hope he finds another job fast.
  • dyaneb123
    dyaneb123 Member Posts: 950
    #13
    Marcia527 said:

    So sorry this happened. I
    So sorry this happened. I hope he finds another job fast.

    He should call the labour
    He should call the labour board and talk to someone about this. It sounds like he has a legitimate case to sue them .
  • aysemari
    aysemari Member Posts: 1,596 Member
    #14
    That seem so uncalled for
    Susan,

    that is unbelievable, have those people never heard of an emergency?

    Good thing your husband found out now, rather than putting years and
    years of work and effort into this company and have them turn their back
    on him. It is just as you said, another door will open..

    Please try no to stress yourself out over this, you have enough to cope,
    I know easier said than done. But I can't help it, I care about you.

    Hugs,
    Ayse
  • phoenixrising
    phoenixrising Member Posts: 1,508
    #15
    I must be very naive because
    I must be very naive because this world continues to stun me. I hope you are able to pursue this wrongful dismissal and your husband finds something much, much better. What an ignorant thing to do!
    jan
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    #16
    phoenixrising said:

    I must be very naive because
    I must be very naive because this world continues to stun me. I hope you are able to pursue this wrongful dismissal and your husband finds something much, much better. What an ignorant thing to do!
    jan

    Susan,
    I think this sucks so
    Susan,
    I think this sucks so much. And I agree, it is worth looking into wrongful termination. I am not a "Go Sue Em" kind of a perosn but in this case I think you and he should persue this. Three days and all for your healthcare, it's just wrong.
    Stef
  • DebbyM
    DebbyM Member Posts: 3,289 Member
    #17
    taleena said:

    Susan.... I am soooo very
    Susan.... I am soooo very sorry that this happend...unbelievable!! I am very glad however, that it has no bearing on your medical insurance coverage... Did your husband ever file for FMLA??? If he has, you have some recourse in this... just as an FYI... I too believe when one door closes others open... keep your chin up... I'll be thinking of you!!

    Hugs,
    ~T

    Wow, this is unbelievable.
    Wow, this is unbelievable. So sorry. Glad you still have health insurance.
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    #18
    wow is all i can say
    Does he get a certain amt to use annually? so sorry going through this..I assume a small company?
    Even with all my sick time saved over 10 yrs I was written up for abusing my sick time when I took 2 wks post BC surgery and some dr appt..(did my radiation on my lunch hour)

    IT"S very sad things must be this way-esp. when in dire need-not like calling in for a cold!

    I am so sorry-wish you the best...

    Denise W.
  • MyTurnNow
    MyTurnNow Member Posts: 2,686 Member
    #19
    This is ridiculous!! I'm
    This is ridiculous!! I'm not sure if this is legal or not but I do know that it is heartless and in very poor taste. I wonder how many employees called in sick in this past year and are still actively employed. Something just doesn't smell right to me. But, as you said, when one door closes others open. I also believe what goes around comes around. I hope your hubby locates gainful employment with a firm that is a little more humane. So glad that your insurance is not affected and therefore not more stress on your plate. Take care Susan, you are one tough kindred spirit.
  • cindycflynn
    cindycflynn Member Posts: 1,132 Member
    #20
    So sorry to hear this Susan
    Does your husband's company have over 50 employees? If they do, then he should be eligible for FMLA for these absences, even if he didn't specifically request them as such.

    He might want to pursue that in the meantime, but long term it's probably better for him to find somewhere else to work. This company doesn't deserve him.

    Hugs,
    Cindy
  • Kat11
    Kat11 Member Posts: 1,931 Member
    #21
    cindycflynn said:

    So sorry to hear this Susan
    Does your husband's company have over 50 employees? If they do, then he should be eligible for FMLA for these absences, even if he didn't specifically request them as such.

    He might want to pursue that in the meantime, but long term it's probably better for him to find somewhere else to work. This company doesn't deserve him.

    Hugs,
    Cindy

    Thats really terrible.
    Thats really terrible. Another door will open.

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