Is she depressed?

Mum2bellaandwilliam
Mum2bellaandwilliam Member Posts: 412
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
Hi ladies,
Hope you are all ok.
I wanted to pick your brains, just to give you some background mum finished her treatment end of November :) and was diagnosed in may time.
My sister received a phone call from mums friend in France , she said she had rung mum one night this week ,and that she had broken down and said she thought that she was depressed.
Mum has shown no sign to us about being depressed, she is still doing her jobs and looking after herself , she is always well turned out.
I am sure she gets upset about her situation, who wouldn't?
I asked her today if she was ok, or if she wanted to have a chat with a doctor. She did say she had felt a bit down , but couldn't pin point exactly why.the answer worried me! I asked if it was because she had finished treatment, she responded she was pleased to have finished treatment, but was concerned about her 3 month blood test, it is her first one on march, she said once that was out the way she may feel better. I can understand the first must be one of the worst, but it's never over, it's only another 3 months before the next one! I am worried that she will be still in the same boat.
Could you tell me how you all felt once you treatment was over? I have read cancer patients can become depressed once treatment had finished.
Sorry to ramble on, but. I am worried she doesn't want to worry us anymore.

Comments

  • poopergirl14052
    poopergirl14052 Member Posts: 1,183 Member
    anxiety maybe??
    Sounds like your mum may be depressed and having some anxiety too. A lot of us fear our numbers goingup or finding another spot somewhere. This is our new norm. Let her know you a there for her and she can confide in you and trust you.Ofcourse she can post here and we can comminicate with her....val
  • Mum2bellaandwilliam
    Mum2bellaandwilliam Member Posts: 412

    anxiety maybe??
    Sounds like your mum may be depressed and having some anxiety too. A lot of us fear our numbers goingup or finding another spot somewhere. This is our new norm. Let her know you a there for her and she can confide in you and trust you.Ofcourse she can post here and we can comminicate with her....val

    Trouble is she doesn't use
    Trouble is she doesn't use computers!!! Which in a way is good, I don't want her to frighten herself like I did to begin with! Now I have met you ladies I realise there is hope, it just took me a while before I stumbled across you guys!
    Were you depressed when your treatment finished?
  • Tethys41
    Tethys41 Member Posts: 1,380 Member

    Trouble is she doesn't use
    Trouble is she doesn't use computers!!! Which in a way is good, I don't want her to frighten herself like I did to begin with! Now I have met you ladies I realise there is hope, it just took me a while before I stumbled across you guys!
    Were you depressed when your treatment finished?

    Was depressed
    Hi,
    I was depressed near the end of my treatment, but I had 8 rounds of chemo instead of 6. I know depression because I had it previously. I was actually surprised that it didn't hit me earlier. I think it is due to all the stress. Anyway, for those who aren't familiar with the feeling of depression, they say if you feel really sad for more than 2 weeks, you are probably depressed. It sounds as if you are not in the US, but here I simply told my oncologist how I felt and she prescribed an anti-depressant. Maybe your mum could try that.
  • poopergirl14052
    poopergirl14052 Member Posts: 1,183 Member
    Tethys41 said:

    Was depressed
    Hi,
    I was depressed near the end of my treatment, but I had 8 rounds of chemo instead of 6. I know depression because I had it previously. I was actually surprised that it didn't hit me earlier. I think it is due to all the stress. Anyway, for those who aren't familiar with the feeling of depression, they say if you feel really sad for more than 2 weeks, you are probably depressed. It sounds as if you are not in the US, but here I simply told my oncologist how I felt and she prescribed an anti-depressant. Maybe your mum could try that.

    yes
    can your mom sit at the computer with you and you can show her our posts? It might help her to know we are here to help in anyway we can. Let her read some of our posts and respond to them . yes I was a little depressed after tx,now I am going through it again. Good luck, your mom is very lucky to have such a wonderful daugther. Keep us posted...val
  • jloe
    jloe Member Posts: 174
    Very common
    As long as I was itreatment, I felt like I was doing something to fight. When I finished the last treatment, I felt like I was losing my parachute! I had longer periods of time off because of the last treatmet then surgery but have only been in remission one time. The entire time during the remission I felt like I was not doing enough. It's the worst waiting game. I wish I had a better answer.
  • Mum2bellaandwilliam
    Mum2bellaandwilliam Member Posts: 412
    jloe said:

    Very common
    As long as I was itreatment, I felt like I was doing something to fight. When I finished the last treatment, I felt like I was losing my parachute! I had longer periods of time off because of the last treatmet then surgery but have only been in remission one time. The entire time during the remission I felt like I was not doing enough. It's the worst waiting game. I wish I had a better answer.

    Hi quick update, we went to
    Hi quick update, we went to my sister house warming last night, and I spoke to mum again about depression, she says she only feels low if she is on her own, understandable , you have more time to think on your own!
    She has agreed to speak to a doctor, I am pleased he will know the right questions to ask her!
    Xx