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yup, my husband and I used
yup, my husband and I used to joke about a certain Christmas party we were never invited to. Guess what invite we got in the mail this year? I said "see what cancer gets you?" anyway if it makes people nicer and more appreciative we deserve it. go with it girl!!!!! Of course we would trade not having this crap for people being meaner but ........0 -
Oh yeah!
My brother and his family that I haven't seen or spoken to in years heard through the grapevine that I have breast cancer.I then received a dozen pink roses from them. I feel like you couldn't contact me or talk to me when I was healthy but now you send me flowers!@#!#!#. WHY!!!!0 -
I am gift giver and card sender
whether ill or not...I just think little surprises are nice... so if people being xtra nice...ENJOY...0 -
Same here pbrndm5pbrndm5 said:Oh yeah!
My brother and his family that I haven't seen or spoken to in years heard through the grapevine that I have breast cancer.I then received a dozen pink roses from them. I feel like you couldn't contact me or talk to me when I was healthy but now you send me flowers!@#!#!#. WHY!!!!
I have the exact situation as you do. I ask why also. Flowers? Now, after 5 years? Never a phone call to apologize though.0 -
I notice that in stores or
I notice that in stores or restaurants strangers are more friendly...saying hello and smiling toward me in a kind way. I think the head scarf gives me away Anyway, I think it is nice since I am assuming they are thankful for their and their loved one's good health when they see me and are reminded they are fortunate to have good health. And....being nice to someone always makes one feel good....so I am glad they can feel good.
Happy Holidays........0 -
agree flowerspbrndm5 said:Oh yeah!
My brother and his family that I haven't seen or spoken to in years heard through the grapevine that I have breast cancer.I then received a dozen pink roses from them. I feel like you couldn't contact me or talk to me when I was healthy but now you send me flowers!@#!#!#. WHY!!!!
I think perhaps a thoughtful card or letter...even to break the ice...sorry things are rocky...0 -
Yes, it's nice
It is so sweet how people are in the stores, they'll show such compassion. Of course they can tell because I have the bandana on and I'm without the girls. Then they will share how cancer has touched their lives or someone close to them. It makes me feel I'm not alone.0 -
I think when people knowAnnette 11 said:Same here pbrndm5
I have the exact situation as you do. I ask why also. Flowers? Now, after 5 years? Never a phone call to apologize though.
I think when people know that you are in the fight for you life with cancer, it makes them realize that the outcome might not be good and they want to show you they care. I think it also wakes them up a little to how fragile life is and that you need to show the ones you love and care about, just that. Show them you care. I personally like it!
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Attention
The one thing I have learned during the past 6 months it that there are many people,friends and strangers alike, who will take my hand and walk the journey with me. I was out shopping the other day and was getting fatigued and my feet were killing me. This total stranger gave up his chair so I could sit down. In a strange way cancer has made me a better person. I am more aware of and more concerned with others and I really want to pay the kindness that I have recived forward. There will be other pink sisters just starting their journey who will need a hand and I intend to take their hand and walk the journey with them. So yes, people are being extra nice and I like it!0 -
it is nicekjrpcb said:Attention
The one thing I have learned during the past 6 months it that there are many people,friends and strangers alike, who will take my hand and walk the journey with me. I was out shopping the other day and was getting fatigued and my feet were killing me. This total stranger gave up his chair so I could sit down. In a strange way cancer has made me a better person. I am more aware of and more concerned with others and I really want to pay the kindness that I have recived forward. There will be other pink sisters just starting their journey who will need a hand and I intend to take their hand and walk the journey with them. So yes, people are being extra nice and I like it!
and the reality is I guess....It just makes all of us appreciate life more and the little things that maybe had been overlooked. SO....I think I should be gracious, appreciative, and not concentrate about their possible motivation.0 -
Hey I'll take nicenesslizzie17 said:it is nice
and the reality is I guess....It just makes all of us appreciate life more and the little things that maybe had been overlooked. SO....I think I should be gracious, appreciative, and not concentrate about their possible motivation.
Hey I'll take niceness wherever I can.
And I have been known to use the "cancer card" from time to time. Right after I was diagnosed with mets, I told my sisters that they needed to have our annual sisters' reunion in New Orleans because I wasn't going to the West Coast that year.
I love California, but my little sister (who lives in California) never wanted to travel anywhere because she was afraid of flying. Her doctor gave her ativan and they all came and we had a great time. And now she says she is coming back next year!0 -
To me, there's a big difference between...lizzie17 said:it is nice
and the reality is I guess....It just makes all of us appreciate life more and the little things that maybe had been overlooked. SO....I think I should be gracious, appreciative, and not concentrate about their possible motivation.
...1) friends/family who've blown me off for years suddenly "remembering" me when they hear I have/had cancer, and 2) casual acquaintances or strangers who just wanted to do something nice for me.
#1 always pissed me off. #2, I always tried to be appreciative of, because people feel so helpless in the face of cancer, and often genuinely want to do a little something to help in some way, even if it's just offering their seat or being extra nice in the checkout line.
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I know AnnetteAnnette 11 said:Same here pbrndm5
I have the exact situation as you do. I ask why also. Flowers? Now, after 5 years? Never a phone call to apologize though.
Really? It would be nice to apologize. Don't contact me out of pity--0 -
I agree TracyTraciInLA said:To me, there's a big difference between...
...1) friends/family who've blown me off for years suddenly "remembering" me when they hear I have/had cancer, and 2) casual acquaintances or strangers who just wanted to do something nice for me.
#1 always pissed me off. #2, I always tried to be appreciative of, because people feel so helpless in the face of cancer, and often genuinely want to do a little something to help in some way, even if it's just offering their seat or being extra nice in the checkout line.
Traci
People who have blown me off for years piss me off too. On the other hand having strangers or acquaintances wanting to help in some small way,is nice.
I do have to admit though that I use the cancer card sometimes with family and friends0
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