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It's over for now

Jaylo969
Jaylo969 CSN Member Posts: 824 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
To all my CRC friends. It is over. I buried my Mom today and my Dad 7 weeks ago.I am hitting my 1st anniversary of Colon cancer dx..what a year we have had!

I have missed you guys so much and plan to get back in here and help & be helped shortly. I need about 2 weeks of solitude & quiet.Hopefully that will bring my 'spark' back.

I wonder...what does a caregiver do after there is no one to give care to anymore? I feel lost.

Love you guys. Be back soon.

-Pat
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  • geotina
    geotina CSN Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    #2
    Pat:
    My sincerest condolences.

    What does a caregiver do when there is no longer anyone to care for? I have thought of that several times and the only thing I come up with is peace, peace that you did the very best you could to help them through the transition, the illness and they felt the love you had for them. You will feel lonely but I sincerely hope it passes quickly. Wonderful memories will sustain you and soon you will smile again.

    Take care - Tina
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  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties CSN Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #3
    So sorry for your loss
    Dear Pat,

    I am so sorry for the lose of your parents and so close together.

    There are always those you can be a 'caregiver' to...maybe not in the same way as your folks, but those to whom you can give hope and encouragement to and stand as a friend to.

    May you find some peace in fond memories of your folks.

    Hugs,

    Marie who loves kitties
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  • Kerry S
    Kerry S CSN Member Posts: 606 Member
    #4
    You still need to help me and the rest of us!!!!!!!
    Pat,
    Sorry for your loss darlin. You know I never know what to say on things like this. I have missed you.

    Kerry
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  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh CSN Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    #5
    What to Do?
    Well hopefully, Pat

    You'll have some "takin' care of Pat" time. You've been on the go so much taking care of everything. I'm very very sorry on the passing of your parents - that's alot for anyone especially back to back like that. More than anyone could deal with at one time.

    I am hoping for peace and calm for you and that things will settle down and you'll find yourself again - best of luck in your continued journey and I hope for all clear for a long time to come.

    -Craig
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  • herdizziness
    herdizziness CSN Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #6
    I'm Sorry
    I'm so sorry for your losses.
    You take all the time you need hun.
    Again, my heartfelt condolences.
    Winter Marie
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  • AnneCan
    AnneCan CSN Member Posts: 3,673 Member
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    Pat
    I am really sorry for the loss of your Mom. I have been thinking about you a lot + wondering how you were doing; I know you have had a rough period. I hope you are able to take some time out for you + assess what you want to do from here. Like Kerry said, you can help us! Seriously, think of some wonderful things you can do for Pat now.
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  • karguy
    karguy CSN Member Posts: 1,020 Member
    #8
    Sorry
    I'm sorry about your loss.Now after your time for yourself,you need to take care of you now.
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  • idlehunters
    idlehunters CSN Member Posts: 1,787 Member
    #9
    karguy said:

    Sorry
    I'm sorry about your loss.Now after your time for yourself,you need to take care of you now.

    Hey Pat
    Very sorry to hear about your folks. Just know that you are very missed here and we cannot wait for your return when you are ready. You take care.

    Jennie
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  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 CSN Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #10
    very sorry
    I'm so sorry. You've really just had so much to deal with this year. I think now is a good time to pamper yourself a little and take time to rejuvenate.

    *hugs*
    Gail
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  • Luv2lunch
    Luv2lunch CSN Member Posts: 270
    #11
    We are so sorry for your
    We are so sorry for your losses. Please take care of yourself. You and your family will be in our prayers.
    Linda and Ellie
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  • tina dasilva
    tina dasilva CSN Member Posts: 641
    #12
    Luv2lunch said:

    We are so sorry for your
    We are so sorry for your losses. Please take care of yourself. You and your family will be in our prayers.
    Linda and Ellie

    my prayers
    my prayers are with you and your family at this time .we are so sorry for your losses.
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  • tina dasilva
    tina dasilva CSN Member Posts: 641
    #13
    Luv2lunch said:

    We are so sorry for your
    We are so sorry for your losses. Please take care of yourself. You and your family will be in our prayers.
    Linda and Ellie

    my prayers
    my prayers are with you and your family at this time .we are so sorry for your losses.
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  • lisa42
    lisa42 CSN Member Posts: 3,625 Member
    #14
    hugs to you
    Pat,

    Wow- what a year it's been for you is right. I'm so sorry you lost your parents, and so close together- that's huge to go through and deal with.
    As was already said by someone else, you now need some "taking care of Pat time".

    Take care, dear-
    Lisa
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  • traci43
    traci43 CSN Member Posts: 771 Member
    #15
    geotina said:

    Pat:
    My sincerest condolences.

    What does a caregiver do when there is no longer anyone to care for? I have thought of that several times and the only thing I come up with is peace, peace that you did the very best you could to help them through the transition, the illness and they felt the love you had for them. You will feel lonely but I sincerely hope it passes quickly. Wonderful memories will sustain you and soon you will smile again.

    Take care - Tina

    so sorry
    Pat - It's perfectly understandable to take some time for yourself right now. The loss of a loved one is never easy. Take time, browse through your memories, remember the love and you'll start to heal. We'll be here waiting when you fell like returning. Traci
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  • HollyID
    HollyID CSN Member Posts: 946 Member
    #16
    Oh Pat...
    I am so sorry to hear this. Our deepest condolences go out to you!
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  • pepebcn
    pepebcn CSN Member Posts: 6,331 Member
    #17
    HollyID said:

    Oh Pat...
    I am so sorry to hear this. Our deepest condolences go out to you!

    Pat feel so sorry for mom,s loose,
    please accept my sincerest condolences.
    Have a big hug.
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  • soccermom13
    soccermom13 CSN Member Posts: 224
    #18
    Thoughts are with you
    sorry to hear that your mom and dad have passed on. Enjoy the memories of your parents and remember that you are loved. Shanna
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  • Aud
    Aud CSN Member Posts: 479
    #19
    Dear Pat
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom and Dad. Holding you in the Light for healing, peace, and comfort.
    ~Aud
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