Last night the hubby and I hung out with his cousin and her finace. They are nice people and I enjoy both of them, but she and I have a conflict when it comes to BC. Honestly this situaiton just makes me mad! See two years ago her sister was diagnosed with BC and shortly after I followed. She and I were very close prior to our illness and of course are a lot closer now because we share a commonon experience. Prior to her illness she had some difficulty with depression, drinking and a husband who was and still is a jerk. The hubby has since moved out and now lives with the sister and her fiance. During a conversation last night I tried to explain to her sister that chemo and cancer changes you and everyone does not go through the same things. She seems to think that because I am 'okay' her sister is some sort of a freak because she has not moved forward yet. She is blaming everything her sisters hubby is going through on her and says that the cancer is over and she should be fine. It is difficult to explain to someone who has not walked this journey what one goes through and make them realize that your experience does change you wheather you want it to or not. Has anyone else run into a situation like this and if so how do you go about explaining it to someone? Are there any good books out there that I could point her to so that she can learn about what her sister is experiencing or is it too late to try to help? Thanks for your help!