My mom is a five year breast cancer survivor and my dad lost my stepmom to breast cancer in September 2009. I was diagnosed with two breast cancer tumors on November 24, 2009. I have surgery next week. I did not tell my parents yet. Only my husband, kids, some friends, and my father-in-law knows. I dread having to call my parents and tell them. I am not sure how to tell them, considering my step mom just lost her battle after fighting it for 5 years. It was a very rough struggle for her. We went home to see her just before she passed away. I went in for my early baseline mamogram just a few weeks after her death. (I am 38) Two spots were found and later biopsied to reveal both were cancer. I will not know what stage I am in until after surgery. I feel like they need to know before I have surgery, just in case there is a complication. Somehow it feels worse telling my parents who live in another state than telling my kids. I am here to support my kids through this and get them help at school. My parents, though, are not here. I don't know what to tell them. They are going to freak out. Especially my dad who is still greiving. Any suggestions??? I appreciate any assistance you can give.