just need to vent having a bad day

lcarper2
lcarper2 Member Posts: 635 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
I am back on my xeloda and it makes me so tired but can't sleep have pain in my feet and they feel like they are in a deep freez wear socks and they get hot take off the socks it is a merry go round I know I am not the only one going through this but you feel that way at times. I did make a trip to see my brother about 250 round trip by myself husband wouldn't go cause he would have had to get out of his PJ'S...he feels he works and pays the bills so even though I am battleing cancer I should do everything I did before I got sick and not complain so I just kept all this to my self until I found this site and all of you to share with.I like having someone to talk to that knows what it is like to suffer through all the pain and up's and down's we go through I do have a positive outlook on this and know that only 3 more months to go on chemo and have a great support network here with you all. Thank you for being here for me.I wish all oif you a very Merry Christmas.

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  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    #2
    Wow,
    Sorry to hear about the lack of support you have. I wonder how things would be if the shoe was on the other foot? Sometimes misery likes to be left alone (me at times) but often it likes to be around people who can relate. Not that you are miserable...but you came to a graet place for support. As far as your husband goes, some people do not know how to handle stuff like this at all.
    -phil
  • lcarper2
    lcarper2 Member Posts: 635 Member
    #3
    PhillieG said:

    Wow,
    Sorry to hear about the lack of support you have. I wonder how things would be if the shoe was on the other foot? Sometimes misery likes to be left alone (me at times) but often it likes to be around people who can relate. Not that you are miserable...but you came to a graet place for support. As far as your husband goes, some people do not know how to handle stuff like this at all.
    -phil

    lack of support
    he is a lazy person and if he can get out of doing something he does but he works hard at his job and makes good money . He went through having cancerous polops removed from his bladder 3 yrs ago no chemo needed and I was there for him every step of the way and he will go for another test on jan 4th to see if there is anymore he just doesn't want to admit there maybe something wrong with him so he just acts like everything is fine and if I have a bad day I am whinning but I have alot of friends and family that do support me my grown children are here for me but I don't sleep with them if you know what I mean it would be nice if the man I cook and clean for would put his arms around me and say honey it will be ok. it has been 5 months and he has yet to do that but like I said this is a very low day for me thanks for listening...
  • Julie 44
    Julie 44 Member Posts: 476 Member
    #4
    lcarper2 said:

    lack of support
    he is a lazy person and if he can get out of doing something he does but he works hard at his job and makes good money . He went through having cancerous polops removed from his bladder 3 yrs ago no chemo needed and I was there for him every step of the way and he will go for another test on jan 4th to see if there is anymore he just doesn't want to admit there maybe something wrong with him so he just acts like everything is fine and if I have a bad day I am whinning but I have alot of friends and family that do support me my grown children are here for me but I don't sleep with them if you know what I mean it would be nice if the man I cook and clean for would put his arms around me and say honey it will be ok. it has been 5 months and he has yet to do that but like I said this is a very low day for me thanks for listening...

    We are always here
    Hi there,
    Thats what we are here for is to vent to,laugh with,cry with and share with...I am so sorry your hubby is acting that way...Have you tried to sit down and have a frank bottom line all out talk??? Maybe just maybe he needs to hear exactly how you feel and how much you need his support...(Sorry guys) but most of them need to be told point blank then they get it.....sometimes not.. but even so we all need to vent..So no worries put a smile on and carry forward cause its to nice of a time of year to be sad....I am trying hard to take my own advice there too...lol lol lol Happy Holidays...JULIE
  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #5
    Sorry
    So sorry that you don't have a very good care giver support system on your side. I know if it wasn't for my husband and kids I would be very down. I commend you for finding solace on this board as we are also your family. Some people just don't deal well with this type of situation. I know that it is hard on the ones we love especially when they see us going through it. How was your husband before your diagnosis? If he was that way before, and maybe you just never noticed it, he might have just been this way. I hope that things turn around for you. Please rest assured you are welcome here anytime and thanks for sharing your feelings. Everyone needs to be needed and you are here.

    Kim
  • karguy
    karguy Member Posts: 1,020 Member
    #6
    I'm glad
    I'm glad you are able to vent,that helps alot.It sounds like your husband is a lazy bum.Try and think positive,and remember this time when it is time for his checkup.Then you can be the lazy one.Have a happy holidays.
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #7
    You need a hug
    You need a big hug! I'm sorry you don't get the support you need. Let us know when you feel down, and we'll try to help. I'm praying for you.

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • lcarper2
    lcarper2 Member Posts: 635 Member
    #8
    Annabelle41415 said:

    Sorry
    So sorry that you don't have a very good care giver support system on your side. I know if it wasn't for my husband and kids I would be very down. I commend you for finding solace on this board as we are also your family. Some people just don't deal well with this type of situation. I know that it is hard on the ones we love especially when they see us going through it. How was your husband before your diagnosis? If he was that way before, and maybe you just never noticed it, he might have just been this way. I hope that things turn around for you. Please rest assured you are welcome here anytime and thanks for sharing your feelings. Everyone needs to be needed and you are here.

    Kim

    sorry
    well we have been married 5 yrs and he has always been there for me but I think he is having a hard time accepting what is going on and that is ok but he should not expect me to turn a blind side to what is going on and I have to stay possitive about the out come and no matter what I will not have anything stand in my way of beating this..
  • lcarper2
    lcarper2 Member Posts: 635 Member
    #9
    tootsie1 said:

    You need a hug
    You need a big hug! I'm sorry you don't get the support you need. Let us know when you feel down, and we'll try to help. I'm praying for you.

    *hugs*
    Gail

    need a hug
    thanks I needed that
  • lcarper2
    lcarper2 Member Posts: 635 Member
    #10
    karguy said:

    I'm glad
    I'm glad you are able to vent,that helps alot.It sounds like your husband is a lazy bum.Try and think positive,and remember this time when it is time for his checkup.Then you can be the lazy one.Have a happy holidays.

    I'm glad
    thank you for the advise will try that

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