Guess what some stupid lady said to me at Walgreens???

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  • lmmo
    lmmo Member Posts: 56
    #22
    Ritzy said:

    May have been innocent
    I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Hopefully, she seriously was just giving you a very sincere compliment. Our nerves and tempers are on high alert usually with bc, so, we might jump to a conclusion other than what was meant. And, you are beautiful with or without hair. And, I truly mean that!

    Sue :)

    OMG
    My neighbor said to me yesterday..."What are you on chemo or something?"
    URGHH
    I appreciate this post..at work I have had patients ask me if I decided to become a biker or say that I look like a pirate :-S
    Lisa
  • terpsi
    terpsi Member Posts: 33
    #23
    someone at the office said
    What's up with your face? It looks swollen?

    This, today, as we got started for a big day of meetings all day long and I'd just walked into the office. I said, well, yeah, it's just one of the benefits of chemo.

    I think he realized he was a bit . . . rude . . . and said, Oh, I just meant that I've seen you other times and your face just looks different today . . .

    I wanted to say, You can just stop now.

    There really is not much we can say to these rather thoughtless intrusions. I think most people don't mean what they say, but most of these people are not articulate nor are they sensitive about what escapes from their lips.

    Anyway, what I think he was seeing was that I forgot to put on my eyebrows, so I was sporting that popular cue ball look.

    Cheers,
    donna peach
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
    #24
    terpsi said:

    someone at the office said
    What's up with your face? It looks swollen?

    This, today, as we got started for a big day of meetings all day long and I'd just walked into the office. I said, well, yeah, it's just one of the benefits of chemo.

    I think he realized he was a bit . . . rude . . . and said, Oh, I just meant that I've seen you other times and your face just looks different today . . .

    I wanted to say, You can just stop now.

    There really is not much we can say to these rather thoughtless intrusions. I think most people don't mean what they say, but most of these people are not articulate nor are they sensitive about what escapes from their lips.

    Anyway, what I think he was seeing was that I forgot to put on my eyebrows, so I was sporting that popular cue ball look.

    Cheers,
    donna peach

    I have been through the
    I have been through the gambit of stupid things people say. I had BC 15 years ago also. I did not lose my hair then but have now. Its funny in a certain store where people used to drive me crazy with can I help you , I noticed their hesitation. Until one clerk came to me, and I am very open, I have lost weight need clothes etc.. i try to make it so they dont have to do the "opener" But as for the wall mart thing I would like you have gone and done my business without that. One of the worst things was an insurance person called me to follow up, said she used to be a hospice nurse (knowing I was a nurse) but gave it up. proceded to tell me a story about a friend with breast cancer, anyway I thought it would be inspirational, only the punchline was how she died!!!! I really hope those calls are recorded. I really wish i had the energy to blast her or correct people but I just do the old "turn off" in my head. Not worth it.
    I do not have the courage for bald in public yet. mostly wear my scarves.
    Good story My husband who drives very carefully was driving a little too fast and got pulled over. I was in pain and he was trying to get me home. We told the policeman he flashed his light at me and with the caution said some things are a little more important, (me) and let us go.
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
    #25
    carkris said:

    I have been through the
    I have been through the gambit of stupid things people say. I had BC 15 years ago also. I did not lose my hair then but have now. Its funny in a certain store where people used to drive me crazy with can I help you , I noticed their hesitation. Until one clerk came to me, and I am very open, I have lost weight need clothes etc.. i try to make it so they dont have to do the "opener" But as for the wall mart thing I would like you have gone and done my business without that. One of the worst things was an insurance person called me to follow up, said she used to be a hospice nurse (knowing I was a nurse) but gave it up. proceded to tell me a story about a friend with breast cancer, anyway I thought it would be inspirational, only the punchline was how she died!!!! I really hope those calls are recorded. I really wish i had the energy to blast her or correct people but I just do the old "turn off" in my head. Not worth it.
    I do not have the courage for bald in public yet. mostly wear my scarves.
    Good story My husband who drives very carefully was driving a little too fast and got pulled over. I was in pain and he was trying to get me home. We told the policeman he flashed his light at me and with the caution said some things are a little more important, (me) and let us go.

    he also held back traffic so
    he also held back traffic so we could get out.
  • Wolfi
    Wolfi Member Posts: 425
    #26
    carkris said:

    he also held back traffic so
    he also held back traffic so we could get out.

    Nice story
    carkris,

    That policeman sounds like someone who wouldn't make the "stupid things people say/do" when we have cancer list.

    It's nice to know he is out there.
  • KeriLee
    KeriLee Member Posts: 25
    #27
    Taina said:

    thank you all
    Ladies you are the best...thank you so much for making me feel so beautiful....
    my hair is the lease of my worries but it just makes me mad when stupid people make stupid comments....
    I know my hair will grow. I just want part of my normal life back....
    2 more wks of rads, then will start tamoxifen for 5 yrs...
    Thanks again for all your support...

    hang in there
    Taina,
    you look great, maybe when stupid people say stupid things we should reply with something like "oh thanks, when's your baby due?
    Almost through that's wonderful, are you part of a support group, other then this one?
    Keri
  • MyTurnNow
    MyTurnNow Member Posts: 2,686 Member
    #28
    Just bumping this up for
    Just bumping this up for Cynthia.
  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia Member Posts: 4,014 Member
    #29
    I had a pediatrician at work
    I had a pediatrician at work say to me, "that's a radical haircut" when I first stopped wearing my wig. For once, I had a good comeback. I said "yeah it's the chemo special." She then spent 15 min following me around apologizing. Pretty funny actually!
  • pgrace35
    pgrace35 Member Posts: 122
    #30
    some people
    I would have said thanks, it's the chemo look....lol
  • tommaseena
    tommaseena Member Posts: 1,769
    #31
    pgrace35 said:

    some people
    I would have said thanks, it's the chemo look....lol

    I've had
    I've had a doctor that I worked with say to me, "What's going on with you?" this is when she saw me bald and with a kerchief on.

    When I went to my pre-surgery appointment at the hospital the anesthesia nurse asked me where I had my hair done because she loved the frosting. I told her that it was compliments of chemo.

    I never took offense from some people but then there was my father's woman friend who I did take offense from because she thought I sould look like death warmed over or one foot in the grave already.

    I may have mentioned this before so forgive me if it is a repeat.

    Margo
  • MCJ
    MCJ Member Posts: 59
    #32
    You look good


    Some people are just bone heads, years ago when our son past away I had a friend actually say to me at least you still have one healthy son left, I could not even look at him, I know he was attempting to say something comforting, but guess what...
    I believe people just do not think before they speak.
  • lizzie17
    lizzie17 Member Posts: 548
    #33
    VickiSam said:

    Family .. I know what you mean
    My sister came by to visit me last week - (I was on house lock down due to low white blood cell count), she came out and said .. Oh, you don't look too bad .. Let me see you bald head .. I said .. Excuse me .. In other words, she didn't come by to actually visit me, but to see the ill side efforts of my chemo treatments ..

    Go figure ..

    VickiSam

    family
    I am so sorry, and I feel like I know how you feel. My sister is the same. She couldn't come see me at home after my surgery (bilateral mastectomy) because it was the opening of Sex and the City.
  • Taina
    Taina Member Posts: 166
    #34
    MCJ said:

    You look good


    Some people are just bone heads, years ago when our son past away I had a friend actually say to me at least you still have one healthy son left, I could not even look at him, I know he was attempting to say something comforting, but guess what...
    I believe people just do not think before they speak.

    thanks
    I just want to thank you all....
    wishing you all a great and healthy New Year!!!!!
  • debbie1162
    debbie1162 Member Posts: 36
    #35
    I know
    what are people thinking......I worked with the public. I keep getting this comments too. Nice haircut, did you change your hair? I want to shout " It is finally growing back after Chemo!!!!!"
  • Taina
    Taina Member Posts: 166
    #36
    debbie1162 said:

    I know
    what are people thinking......I worked with the public. I keep getting this comments too. Nice haircut, did you change your hair? I want to shout " It is finally growing back after Chemo!!!!!"

    me 2
    I want to shout 2 hair is just growing back after chemo....
    or niw people saying how fast my hair grows r how much hair i have...
    i must be blind because i don't see it...
    or they ask me if i'm going to let my hair grow or color it...
    i just tell them "let my hair grow and then i will decide if i want it
    short, long, black, gray or purple"............
    I bought a pink wig and sometimes i just want to wear it 'to give them
    something to talk about......
  • scout5000
    scout5000 Member Posts: 94 Member
    #37
    You could say
    Thanks, my oncologist styled it.
    My story goes- After two surgeries and six month of chemo hell, we finally got out of the house and went to visit my brother, whom I hadn't seen the entire time. The first thing he said when he looked at me was, "Man, you need to get some sun!" Somehow, I didn't kill him. Brother!
  • judy61
    judy61 Member Posts: 1
    #38
    I understand, went to work
    I understand, went to work today first time with no hair, had a turban on and customer said hey are you starting a new trend, I just looked at her and said I wish that was what I was doing. Hope you are doing better.
  • 4joey
    4joey Member Posts: 9
    #39
    sone stupid lady
    yeah people look at you alot im not sure if its feeling bad for you or they are just plan rude one time in walmart i live in plattsburgh new york people keep looking at me so lil sis and i almost pulled of my scarf but we didnt . then a couple of times since we live so close to the canadian boarder i was shopping once again i dress up alot matching hats with coats and cloths it makes me feel good anyhow once again the clerk says bonjour my reply was im sorry im not from canada i just got done cemo. people just dont think sometimes im sure its harmless but still makes you mad. joanne

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