I am preparing to have a mastectomy and immediate reconstruction. However, I am more stressed about what to do with my kids than anything else right now. Their Dad (my ex)will not take them for the time I will be away - I will be traveling about 3 hours away to a plastic surgeon for a DIEP free flap reconstruction. I will be staying with my stepmother who will help care for me, and they live about 1 hour away, but I'm trying to figure out who can care for my children...I don't know what I'm going to do...My best friend just had her husband leave her and her toddler and she is in a deep depression and trying to figure out lawyers and paying bills, etc. , but I am thinking to ask her to take care of my youngest, who is 5 years old...but my 13 and 14 years olds...who can help me???