FRUSTRATED AND VENTIING

RE
RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Grrrrrr, if you recall last week I went to my onco appt. and as it turned out it was the wrong date (they had written the wrong date on my appt. card). Okay no problem, I came back a week later which was today. I get weight, my pulse and blood pressure are taken and then the young gal say's Ed will be with you in a few minutes....WHO IS ED???? Well as it turns out Ed is the assistant (not even a full fledged doctor). Well I have history with my doc, he has led me through 12 years and 3 battles with cancer, I have concerns and Ed is not the person I need to pose them to. I made it clear I was not there to see Ed and if we needed to reschedule then I needed to have a date that was in the near future. I did have to reschedule, happily it is for next Tuesday with my Oncologist so I will have to wait yet another week to pose my concerns. To top all this off today my oldest grandson started Kindergarden and I did not get to go because I had a doctor appt. GRRRRRRR!!!!!!!

Thanks for letting me vent,

RE
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  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    Frustrating, indeed!
    GRRRRRRRRR is right! I think you said it all, RE~ and I don't blame you for venting one little bit!!!

    Hugs,
    Claudia
  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 Member Posts: 2,729
    They have been pulling this
    They have been pulling this PA switch for some time now. You are paying to see a doctor and his experience not a helper. One doctor we had I found you had to request the doctor or they gave you the assistant. Not right. Sorry you missed a milestone.
  • creampuff91344
    creampuff91344 Member Posts: 988
    Marcia527 said:

    They have been pulling this
    They have been pulling this PA switch for some time now. You are paying to see a doctor and his experience not a helper. One doctor we had I found you had to request the doctor or they gave you the assistant. Not right. Sorry you missed a milestone.

    GGRRRRRRRRRR is mild
    GGRRRRRRRRRR is mild compared to what I would have said. Don't you just hate when doctors try to pull this stuff on you, and most of the time people let them get away with it. Oh well, one week more, and you can talk to "your" doctor. Hope all goes well. Glad you vented, as there are others in this board that would have just seen the PA and been done with it. Good for you for standing your ground and insisting on seeing yur onc. Let us know how things go. Sorry you missed the "kindergarten" induction. Hugs.

    Judy
  • Eil4186
    Eil4186 Member Posts: 949
    Good for you for insisting.
    Good for you for insisting. I probably would have been too self conscious to say anything. I think that no matter how many years go by, we should be able to see our doctor.
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    Who the HECK is Ed?!?!?
    Sorry for yet another snafu at your onc's office again today, RE. Sheesh.

    Since my medical team is affiliated with a local university's medical program - there have been times when an intern has ACCOMPANIED one of my doctors during an appointment. Which, by the way, only happens with patient's approval.

    I don't blame you - at all, whatsoever - for speaking up and standing your ground. In fact - if I were you, I'd inform the REAL doctor next week that what happened today is NOT acceptable for you into the future.

    Hoping all goes well next week, finally!

    Kind regards, Susan
  • outdoorgirl
    outdoorgirl Member Posts: 1,565
    I bet that was frustrating to say the least! I know that our oncs see lots of people,but we are all still important as individuals and deserve good care without somebody pulling something like that on us. Good for you for standing your ground-we definately need to be our own advocates sometimes!And I know what you're talking about about history.I've only had my onc since Fall of 2007,and I would hate to have to see or be transferred to somebody else. It would be hard enough with a family doctor,but a whole nother story with your onc.
    Sorry that you had to miss out on your grandson's 1st day of kindergarten.
  • Moopy23
    Moopy23 Member Posts: 1,751 Member
    Unbelievable
    RE, good for you that you did NOT accept an unknown assistant instead of your oncologist. How frustrating that again your concerns have to wait. Of course you are frustrated, especially to miss your grandson's first day of kindergarden. (Just don't pull your hair out.)

    Thank you for once again demonstrating how to be a survivor. Insisting on seeing your oncologist is an excellent example for us all, as another one of our sisters pointed out.
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    Thank you all for letting me
    Thank you all for letting me vent, I knew you would understand. I thankfully am feeling better about the situation and am looking forward to seeing my oncologist next week.

    Hugs to each of you,

    RE
  • tjhay
    tjhay Member Posts: 655
    RE said:

    Thank you all for letting me
    Thank you all for letting me vent, I knew you would understand. I thankfully am feeling better about the situation and am looking forward to seeing my oncologist next week.

    Hugs to each of you,

    RE

    Re I am glad that you are feeling better about the situation. As Moopy said thank you for setting the example of how to be a survivor.
    I though want to know how Ian's first day of school went. Come on all of his aunts here at ACS are waiting to hear. Oh and in my opion starting school in July is just wrong!!!
    happy smiles
    tjhay
  • DianeBC
    DianeBC Member Posts: 3,881 Member
    chenheart said:

    Frustrating, indeed!
    GRRRRRRRRR is right! I think you said it all, RE~ and I don't blame you for venting one little bit!!!

    Hugs,
    Claudia

    So sorry RE! I will
    So sorry RE! I will grrrrrrrrrrrr for you too!

    Hugs, Diane
  • chickad52
    chickad52 Member Posts: 497
    GRRRRRRRRR!! You did need to vent. I don't blame you for being a little upset!!
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    tjhay said:

    Re I am glad that you are feeling better about the situation. As Moopy said thank you for setting the example of how to be a survivor.
    I though want to know how Ian's first day of school went. Come on all of his aunts here at ACS are waiting to hear. Oh and in my opion starting school in July is just wrong!!!
    happy smiles
    tjhay

    Poor litte Ian
    I am sad to say it went poorly, he was terrified. He has never gone to preschool so this was his first expierience. He is the youngest in the class to boot, his 5th birthday is Aug.6. He is going to try again tomorrow, his mommy is going to see if she can get him to relax. Keep the little guy in your prayers please.

    Hugs,

    RE
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    RE said:

    Poor litte Ian
    I am sad to say it went poorly, he was terrified. He has never gone to preschool so this was his first expierience. He is the youngest in the class to boot, his 5th birthday is Aug.6. He is going to try again tomorrow, his mommy is going to see if she can get him to relax. Keep the little guy in your prayers please.

    Hugs,

    RE

    Oh RE... I'm sorry that
    Oh RE... I'm sorry that things were rough for both you and Ian... first good for you standing your ground on wanting to SEE YOUR DOCTOR and not his "assistant" man what's up with that... second... awe... poor Ian... school can be soooooo scarey for such a little guy... I remember my sons first day of school 17 years ago... he was extremely anxious... the teacher was great and let me hang out in the corner with him until he warmed up to the rest of the class... I will cross my fingers that things go better tomorrow...
  • jojo elizapest
    jojo elizapest Member Posts: 122
    What a can of crap!! Glad
    What a can of crap!! Glad they could get you in soon....but still.....

    Anyway how did the kindergartener do on his first day?
  • tjhay
    tjhay Member Posts: 655
    RE said:

    Poor litte Ian
    I am sad to say it went poorly, he was terrified. He has never gone to preschool so this was his first expierience. He is the youngest in the class to boot, his 5th birthday is Aug.6. He is going to try again tomorrow, his mommy is going to see if she can get him to relax. Keep the little guy in your prayers please.

    Hugs,

    RE

    AWWWWWW
    Give Ina a hug for me. It will be good once he gets into the swing of it.
    tjhay
  • Akiss4me
    Akiss4me Member Posts: 2,188
    )*^%# What the heck?
    After all that wait and then this. I'm not sure I could have accepted a PA but then again I would ONLY see the PA in my DR's office!! I have done this for 15 years. To the point of rescheduling. He was a paramedic with my husband at one time and we are friends. They are the most up to date on procedures and current affairs. They are the ones the Doc's send to the additional schooling (so the doc's don't have to bother). They are the ones that learn about the new meds out there, etc. Here is a secret...the only reason most of them do not get their license as Doc's is because the doc's are offering them salaries that are hard to turn down and they can still pratice under the Doc's licsense without all the legal hassel etc. I see my Doc about once a year just so he is aware I am still his patient, but that is it. And my PA has pushed harder for certain procedures or pulled out all the stops to speed things up because he must prove himself as well to keep his job. So I have actually received better care!! I'm all for PA's as long as the Doc is right there to confer with or validate what the PA is doing. But this may be an exception rather than the norm. Then again...I was never normal!! :) Pammy
  • Jeanne D
    Jeanne D Member Posts: 1,867
    RE said:

    Thank you all for letting me
    Thank you all for letting me vent, I knew you would understand. I thankfully am feeling better about the situation and am looking forward to seeing my oncologist next week.

    Hugs to each of you,

    RE

    GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
    GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR For RE!!!
  • Noel
    Noel Member Posts: 3,095 Member
    RE said:

    Poor litte Ian
    I am sad to say it went poorly, he was terrified. He has never gone to preschool so this was his first expierience. He is the youngest in the class to boot, his 5th birthday is Aug.6. He is going to try again tomorrow, his mommy is going to see if she can get him to relax. Keep the little guy in your prayers please.

    Hugs,

    RE

    RE, I am so sorry that you didn't get to see your oncologist and that you have to wait until next week. I would be just like you. I want my oncologist, not an assistant who doesn't have the knowledge and experience. Wishing you good luck next week!

    And, so sorry about Ian. That lil cutie. I will certainly pray that he makes it thru school today. Let us know!

    Hugs, Noel
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    Akiss4me said:

    )*^%# What the heck?
    After all that wait and then this. I'm not sure I could have accepted a PA but then again I would ONLY see the PA in my DR's office!! I have done this for 15 years. To the point of rescheduling. He was a paramedic with my husband at one time and we are friends. They are the most up to date on procedures and current affairs. They are the ones the Doc's send to the additional schooling (so the doc's don't have to bother). They are the ones that learn about the new meds out there, etc. Here is a secret...the only reason most of them do not get their license as Doc's is because the doc's are offering them salaries that are hard to turn down and they can still pratice under the Doc's licsense without all the legal hassel etc. I see my Doc about once a year just so he is aware I am still his patient, but that is it. And my PA has pushed harder for certain procedures or pulled out all the stops to speed things up because he must prove himself as well to keep his job. So I have actually received better care!! I'm all for PA's as long as the Doc is right there to confer with or validate what the PA is doing. But this may be an exception rather than the norm. Then again...I was never normal!! :) Pammy

    I agree that you should see
    I agree that you should see the doctor if that is where your comfort is. This is a tough journey and we need to feel a sense of continuity. I see the oncologist doctor for the breast cancer. For my uterine cancer check ups I see a nurse practitioner. I have since the beginning of my follow ups so I would be upset if I saw the doctor instead. My NP knows me, and she has been more than a NP, she is my friend. She never hurries the appointment and I can really talk with her. She gives me advise in other areas and orders any tests that she deems necessary. It all boils down to what makes US comfortable. I haven't seen the doctor regarding my uterine cancer since he did a look see under sedation for a potential return in 2001. He is a great doctor and I suppose if I had done my followups with him only I wouldn't want to see anyone else.
    The bottom line is no one should feel that they are being passed off to someone else.
    And by the way, Pammy, you seem to be morphing through the evolutionary chain here. If you are really lucky eventually you will become a real little girl. LOL The little chimp is very cute, but not as cute as you. When I was pregnant my hubby used to pick up our littly dog and say, The baby is so cute, but it's so hairy. Guess that is you. Pammy is so cute but she's so hairy.
    Stef
  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member
    fauxma said:

    I agree that you should see
    I agree that you should see the doctor if that is where your comfort is. This is a tough journey and we need to feel a sense of continuity. I see the oncologist doctor for the breast cancer. For my uterine cancer check ups I see a nurse practitioner. I have since the beginning of my follow ups so I would be upset if I saw the doctor instead. My NP knows me, and she has been more than a NP, she is my friend. She never hurries the appointment and I can really talk with her. She gives me advise in other areas and orders any tests that she deems necessary. It all boils down to what makes US comfortable. I haven't seen the doctor regarding my uterine cancer since he did a look see under sedation for a potential return in 2001. He is a great doctor and I suppose if I had done my followups with him only I wouldn't want to see anyone else.
    The bottom line is no one should feel that they are being passed off to someone else.
    And by the way, Pammy, you seem to be morphing through the evolutionary chain here. If you are really lucky eventually you will become a real little girl. LOL The little chimp is very cute, but not as cute as you. When I was pregnant my hubby used to pick up our littly dog and say, The baby is so cute, but it's so hairy. Guess that is you. Pammy is so cute but she's so hairy.
    Stef

    So sorry about your not
    So sorry about your not seeing your doctor RE. I am like you, I want the doctor, no stand in thanks.

    Good luck with your next appointment!

    Leeza