Peaceful, Easy Feelin'

tasha_111
tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
This is Sooooooooooooo NICE! Peace and quiet.......
Jamie and I are watching movies, chilling out and laughing out loud without having to tip-toe around in case a certain person gets upset. I KNEW What I was coming home from work to tonight, for the first time in 2 years. And I know what I'll be waking up to in the morning too.......Whew, what relief.
I was a bit tearful this morning and burst into tears when I got to work.....Renee gave me a huge hug and we chatted for ages (I don't know why I was crying, it might have been because I nearly got wiped out by a police car on the way to work)...
I told her a few of the horrible things he did, didn't do and said...she was appalled!.. She said she couldn't understand how I had got through it all. I told her I nearly didn't.

Anyway...I read on one of the emotional support boards a wonderful phrase...It will be my daily mantra.. "You don't know how strong you can be until strength is the only option"

Thank you all for all the support and advice. Every word has helped.. Thank YOU!

Hugs J Xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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  • dmc_emmy
    dmc_emmy Member Posts: 549
    #2
    Tasha-you're welcome!
    I hope you wake-up to many more peaceful mornings and enjoy many more peaceful nights. Though this was the only decision you could make, I know it was not one made easily. There will be times when you will need to cry, so cry you will, but as we know all too well that anything that is important doesn't come by easily.

    Stay strong my friend, as I'm sure you will. :)
    dmc
  • jk1952
    jk1952 Member Posts: 613
    #3
    dmc_emmy said:

    Tasha-you're welcome!
    I hope you wake-up to many more peaceful mornings and enjoy many more peaceful nights. Though this was the only decision you could make, I know it was not one made easily. There will be times when you will need to cry, so cry you will, but as we know all too well that anything that is important doesn't come by easily.

    Stay strong my friend, as I'm sure you will. :)
    dmc

    Tasha, so glad to hear that

    Tasha, so glad to hear that you and Jamie are having a great time. I think that your new mantra will be a great help to you. My best to you.

    Joyce
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    #4
    Tasha.....
    Your new life...your new PEACEFUL life is going to be so much better1 You won't have that knot in your stomach, never knowing the kind of mood he will be in. You won't have to worry about being berated because he is angry at something that HE did. You can breathe now.

    I know that it's hard to end a relationship. Even a bad relationship. But you will soon be asking yourself..."why didn't I do this sooner?"

    Love & hugs.

    CR
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    #5
    :-)
    Tasha it isn't necessary to say thank you, this is what friends and supporters do for each other. I am pleased you and Jamie are having a nice evening together, things are on the mend and I am happy for you.

    Many hugs,

    RE
  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    #6
    Laugh Loudly Out Loud!!!!!!!!!111
    You and Jamie laughing and enjoying yourselves and the peace makes me smile. I know it is emotional, even though he was slowly stealing your joy, this became familiar to you. I hope the new familiar will become so much better. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
    Good luck Hun, you are doing the best thing you can do for yourself and your boy.
    hugs, jackie
  • bfbear
    bfbear Member Posts: 380
    #7
    RE said:

    :-)
    Tasha it isn't necessary to say thank you, this is what friends and supporters do for each other. I am pleased you and Jamie are having a nice evening together, things are on the mend and I am happy for you.

    Many hugs,

    RE

    So glad
    Hi Tasha,

    So glad to hear you're doing so well. You deserve every peaceful, easy feeling you can have, from now on!

    With love,
    Debi
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #8
    rjjj said:

    Laugh Loudly Out Loud!!!!!!!!!111
    You and Jamie laughing and enjoying yourselves and the peace makes me smile. I know it is emotional, even though he was slowly stealing your joy, this became familiar to you. I hope the new familiar will become so much better. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
    Good luck Hun, you are doing the best thing you can do for yourself and your boy.
    hugs, jackie

    You Lot!
    I don't know where I would be without you all........Thank goodness it's over.

    Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxx
  • Akiss4me
    Akiss4me Member Posts: 2,188
    #9
    tasha_111 said:

    You Lot!
    I don't know where I would be without you all........Thank goodness it's over.

    Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxx

    sooooo.....
    Now you can chill out and do whatever Tasha wants to do!! Inquiring minds want to know....did you yank his plant out yet and stomp on it!!?? :) Pammy
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #10
    Akiss4me said:

    sooooo.....
    Now you can chill out and do whatever Tasha wants to do!! Inquiring minds want to know....did you yank his plant out yet and stomp on it!!?? :) Pammy

    Ohhhhhh Pammy
    What a lot of wasted time on this one..........I chatted to Renee today, I told her I had been stupid ro waste all this time in him, she said I wasn't STUPID, just giving everything every chance.......Now all the roads lead nowhere.....where do you go?........I Love her!/// Anyway she called here tonight after a 11 hour day, she just had this feeling that I was in danger so she had to come......

    What a wonderful person she is.........

    Thanks all.......this is difficult for me and Jamie... But nowhere near as hard as it was with manic depressive here.,

    Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • outdoorgirl
    outdoorgirl Member Posts: 1,565
    #11
    Tash
    I feel bad about your tears,but I'm glad you are rid of HIM!
    I bet it's like a weight off your shoulders!
  • Eil4186
    Eil4186 Member Posts: 949
    #12
    So glad things are better!
    So glad things are better! Be good to yourself.
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #13
    Eil4186 said:

    So glad things are better!
    So glad things are better! Be good to yourself.

    That means a lot
    Thanks Eil and outdoorgirl.........I am geting there.......Hugs jxx
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    #14
    tasha_111 said:

    That means a lot
    Thanks Eil and outdoorgirl.........I am geting there.......Hugs jxx

    This has to be very
    This has to be very emotional and a little frightening. It doesn't mean that this isn't the best decision you could ever have made but it's scary. I am so glad that he is gone and that you will be able to get on with your life and find true happiness and joy. You deserve it. We are all here to be with you and help you through any difficulties that may come up. Right now, enjoy Jamie and your time with him without the stress of "The Other".
    Stef
  • GreeneyedGirl
    GreeneyedGirl Member Posts: 1,077
    #15
    fauxma said:

    This has to be very
    This has to be very emotional and a little frightening. It doesn't mean that this isn't the best decision you could ever have made but it's scary. I am so glad that he is gone and that you will be able to get on with your life and find true happiness and joy. You deserve it. We are all here to be with you and help you through any difficulties that may come up. Right now, enjoy Jamie and your time with him without the stress of "The Other".
    Stef

    Tasha~
    We invest alot into relationships, and kinda sometimes expect a good return on our investment. when that doesn't happen we grieve and mourn, why that person didn't value the relationship like we did....that is normal and will pass as you move forward. Investing in Jamie is a good return, and will reap smiles, laughter, hugs, and amazing moments..all to come.
    May strength come to you each morning as you rise to meet the day!
    Melanie
  • phoenixrising
    phoenixrising Member Posts: 1,508
    #16
    I cannot tell you how
    I cannot tell you how relieved I am as I'm sure everyone is. I know what is like to live with someone like that and I say "good riddance to them all". You will enjoy your new found freedom and start to find out who you are without someone breathing down your neck all the time bringing you down. I am so happy for you and you must keep us posted with details about your new life. Crack a beer (or two) and celebrate!!!
    jan
  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    #17
    phoenixrising said:

    I cannot tell you how
    I cannot tell you how relieved I am as I'm sure everyone is. I know what is like to live with someone like that and I say "good riddance to them all". You will enjoy your new found freedom and start to find out who you are without someone breathing down your neck all the time bringing you down. I am so happy for you and you must keep us posted with details about your new life. Crack a beer (or two) and celebrate!!!
    jan

    Yes Tash
    crack a beer i will crack one with you! jackie
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    #18
    Julia, one just for you!
    Tasha has now given the boot
    To the guy that treated her bad
    Now she can flirt with the guy that is cute
    And think about good times to be had
    Don’t look back, and don’t be sad
    Corvette guy can be your new launching pad


    =^..^=
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    #19
    Okay.. my two cents
    Okay.. my two cents worth..lol.. (didn't think I would stay quiet did you??)... We are creatures of habit... we can get comfortable even in a bad situation because it becomes familiar..... when we set our fear of change and the unknown aside.. or rather face it head on, and make a change.... and begin to welcome the unknown... (life is so unknown... everyday)..what we find is what we feared was fear itself...

    There is a life, full of happiness, contentment, solice, unexpected (good) surprises... and peace... laughter.... and love...

    Today is the first day of the rest of your life.... you get to make the choices... I know there are lots of good things ahead of you ... now that these bad things are behind you... I know that sometimes we just don't want to be alone... but remember ... you are NOT alone... there are many, many, many, people who love you... who will be there for you... and know what happiness lies a head for you.... I know this because... I'm one of them..... just remember the next words of that song.... "and I know it won't let me down"

    Hugs to you my friend.. with love..

    ~T
  • dmc_emmy
    dmc_emmy Member Posts: 549
    #20
    taleena said:

    Okay.. my two cents
    Okay.. my two cents worth..lol.. (didn't think I would stay quiet did you??)... We are creatures of habit... we can get comfortable even in a bad situation because it becomes familiar..... when we set our fear of change and the unknown aside.. or rather face it head on, and make a change.... and begin to welcome the unknown... (life is so unknown... everyday)..what we find is what we feared was fear itself...

    There is a life, full of happiness, contentment, solice, unexpected (good) surprises... and peace... laughter.... and love...

    Today is the first day of the rest of your life.... you get to make the choices... I know there are lots of good things ahead of you ... now that these bad things are behind you... I know that sometimes we just don't want to be alone... but remember ... you are NOT alone... there are many, many, many, people who love you... who will be there for you... and know what happiness lies a head for you.... I know this because... I'm one of them..... just remember the next words of that song.... "and I know it won't let me down"

    Hugs to you my friend.. with love..

    ~T

    I ditto what T says...
    Hate to steal your two cents, T, but thought I would send this post to concur with you.

    Now, to add my cent's worth:

    Hold your son for as long as you have him with you. If it's meant to be, they'll be someone who will enter your life who will give all he has to offer you as you share all the love you have to give to him. Hang in there, Tash.
    dmc
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159 Member
    #21
    YAY
    You also remind me of the saying "Women are like tea-bags~you never know their strength until they are in hot water!"

    I know none of this is easy for you..but you simply sound so relieved!! I am thrilled for you and Jamie; yours was one of the first posts I read with my morning coffee, and for you to have that Peaceful, Easy Feeling is WONDERFUL!!!! Keep feeling it, along with allowing yourself the pain, and sooner than you imagine, the pain will be erased by the good.

    We love you, Turquoise One!

    Hugs,
    Claudia

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