My mother

millman
millman Member Posts: 1
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Hi all. My name is Allen. My mother had her breast taken from her. Now she has sores on her that she was told that they are cancer and it sent her into a depression that we don't know how to pull her out of. She get so sick and tired that she won't even get out of bed. I fear that she is giving up on her self witch just breaks my heart. So i guess what i'm asking is if anybody has gone through this and if there is anything we could use to help her. We tried black sauves to get the sores to heal but they still persist. If your out there please write to me at this email address [email protected] so we could talk ok. Thanks to you all.........

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  • Alexis F
    Alexis F Member Posts: 3,598
    Just want to say how sorry I
    Just want to say how sorry I am about your mother. My advice would be to contact her doctor and see about antidepressants. Good luck!
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    Alexis F said:

    Just want to say how sorry I
    Just want to say how sorry I am about your mother. My advice would be to contact her doctor and see about antidepressants. Good luck!

    Millman
    Get her doc involved right away. Antidepressants work very well sometimes for people who have given up all hope (Believe me, I know).
    I wish you all the best with her. Jx
  • confused123
    confused123 Member Posts: 251
    tasha_111 said:

    Millman
    Get her doc involved right away. Antidepressants work very well sometimes for people who have given up all hope (Believe me, I know).
    I wish you all the best with her. Jx

    I don't think it is uncommon
    I don't think it is uncommon for someone to get depressed when going through cancer treatment. I would have her tell her doc and there may be a social worker you or she could contact that is at the oncologists office. Did the doctor say the sores were cancer? I had what looked like sores one side where I had my breast removed and it was a reaction to the stitiches that had not dissolved. It was very red and took a while to heal. I was told to keep it wet with aquaphor vaseline gauze. Check with doc before using anything though. Hope she gets tx soon.
  • Kristin N
    Kristin N Member Posts: 1,968 Member

    I don't think it is uncommon
    I don't think it is uncommon for someone to get depressed when going through cancer treatment. I would have her tell her doc and there may be a social worker you or she could contact that is at the oncologists office. Did the doctor say the sores were cancer? I had what looked like sores one side where I had my breast removed and it was a reaction to the stitiches that had not dissolved. It was very red and took a while to heal. I was told to keep it wet with aquaphor vaseline gauze. Check with doc before using anything though. Hope she gets tx soon.

    I think it would be best to
    I think it would be best to get your Mom to a doctor. It sounds like she is very depressed,

    which is understandable. She probably needs to be on some antidepressants, which there are

    lots of different kinds available. But, just get her to her doctor soon. Keep us posted as

    to how she does. Good luck!
  • The1percen
    The1percen Member Posts: 135
    depression
    Millman,
    Depression, just like Cancer IS treatable. I know this because I have been fighting Depression for many years. Often you need adjustments in meds, but it is do-able! Good luck to both of you!
  • Kat11
    Kat11 Member Posts: 1,931 Member
    HI Allen, It's not uncommon
    HI Allen, It's not uncommon to have depression. There is a lot of meds out that can help your mom through. A lot of women/men with or without Cancer suffer from depression. Call your doctor for help. Get mom in to see doctor. Does mom use the internet ? If she does bring her to us. I am sure someone can give you something for the sores to help her feel better. Your a good son, Good Luck
  • dmc_emmy
    dmc_emmy Member Posts: 549
    Depression
    Allen,

    Like the others have said, depression is not uncommon with people who have cancer. It's a devastating disease and, even after the treatments are over, it seems that the fear of cancer remains. I, personally, have not taken anti-depressants, though I have considered it numerous times.

    Take your mother to her doctor, they are there for her, and they will know what would be best. If it's a challenge to get your mother to concede to going to the doctor, you can call for a paramedic to assist. My daugher is a volunteer EMT and she has transported numerous patients to the hospital due to issues of anxiety, chronic depression,...

    Hope your mother gets the help she needs soon, she is lucky to have you there to care for her, but she needs to be under the care of a health professional.

    dmc
  • Kayla1
    Kayla1 Member Posts: 101
    dmc_emmy said:

    Depression
    Allen,

    Like the others have said, depression is not uncommon with people who have cancer. It's a devastating disease and, even after the treatments are over, it seems that the fear of cancer remains. I, personally, have not taken anti-depressants, though I have considered it numerous times.

    Take your mother to her doctor, they are there for her, and they will know what would be best. If it's a challenge to get your mother to concede to going to the doctor, you can call for a paramedic to assist. My daugher is a volunteer EMT and she has transported numerous patients to the hospital due to issues of anxiety, chronic depression,...

    Hope your mother gets the help she needs soon, she is lucky to have you there to care for her, but she needs to be under the care of a health professional.

    dmc

    Allen,
    I am so sorry your

    Allen,
    I am so sorry your Mom is having a hard time, what a wonderful son you are for caring enough to come here for help! As the others have said, you need to call her Dr ASAP! They will have what she needs!