I hope you won't think I'm whining on a site where all of you are going through so much more than I, but I have found everyone here to be very caring, understanding, and helpful. My questions are: do most husbands have serious problems with depression? And how do you get over it? Ever since my wife's diagnosis I have been in a state of depression which I have done a fairly bad job of hiding from her. She has had a mastectomy (Stage III A) and will start chemotherapy soon followed by radiation and then anti-estrogen therapy. I know I need to be strong for her and be encouraging and positive, but most of the time I feel like I'm barely holding myself together, leave alone caring for her. For some reason, I keep focusing on the small chance that I will lose her instead of the much better chance that she will have a successful outcome. Does anyone have any advice for me?