Another Dip In The Road :(

valeriec Member Posts: 348 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Hi to all my wonderful semi-colons-
I have not been on this site for quite some time. We are still right in the middle of moving, and don't have wireless yet, and because my mom is not doing very well. Five weeks ago, my mom started having some pain in her lower back that radiated through to the front. Over the last five weeks the pain has gotten worse and worse. A PET scan on June 15th has shown further spread. Several lymph nodes light up from her neck down to pelvic region. One group of lymph nodes(about 4) is in a muscle that attaches from her leg to her spine. She is in severe pain and on pain meds 24 hours a day. They have her on a long lasting one and a short lasting one, but nothing seems to be helping. She only gets up a couple hours a day and is having trouble with urinating, bowel movements, dehydration, and eatting. I think we might be in serious trouble. Doctors think they might be able to radiate the group that is causing so much pain,but we won't know until Thursday. If they refuse to do it here, our Dr. in Boulder said that he will do it, but that involves moving to Boulder for 4-6 weeks. Besides the 4 that are causing the pain, there are several more that are lighting up. I don't know what we are doing anymore. I am asking for prayers to help us get through this terrible time.

I am at my mom and dad's house now, and have been trying to read through all of the posts that I have missed in the last 2 months. I have not gotten through them all, but of course I am praying that all is going well.

God bless-


  • mindy10
    mindy10 Member Posts: 182 Member
    Im sorry your mom is not doing well. Hang in there and if you need support please feel free to email me. I went throught this last year with my dad and I know how hard it is to watch a love one be sick. Mindy
  • jana11
    jana11 Member Posts: 705
    I am so sorry for everything you and your mom are going through right now. Hang in there. It is good that your Boulder doc will do if local docs will not. I had radiation earlier this year and did it out of town. I is sad to be away, but my symptoms dropped off so much after the treatment. Keep your eye on the goal, and just take it day by day.

    Tell your mom she is in my thoughts and prayers. A friend put me on prayer lists around the world and told me just that knowledge helps.

    God bless you. jana
  • nudgie
    nudgie Member Posts: 1,478 Member
    I am closing my eyes and asking God to give you strength and guidance through this time.
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    I am sending prayers, and hugs, and healing, calming vibes...

    Oh, dearheart...pain is the worst advasary!!! My tumor pressed against the pain killer would work...

    Is one of the elixirs Dilaudid, by any chance? This works a little different, not so much totally blocking the pain, just putting you in a different frame of mind to deal with it. A thought.

    Hugs, Kathi
  • scouty
    scouty Member Posts: 1,965 Member

    I have missed you and am so very sorry for what your Mom is having to endure. Please keep us posted about Thursday and you are so smart to already have a backup plan.

    Loads of prayers heading your way!!!!!

    Love, Lisa P.
  • fedester
    fedester Member Posts: 753 Member
    Hi Valerie,
    Sorry to hear about your mom. Sending prayers your way.
    Be well
    Never,ever give up!!
  • sladich
    sladich Member Posts: 429 Member
    Sorry to hear about your mom. Sending prayers your way. Never give up!!

  • goldfinch
    goldfinch Member Posts: 735
    I'm so sorry for what all of you and your family are going through. I hope that the docs come up with a pain management plan that helps.
    It doesn't help that the meds for pain are probably the part of the cause of her bowel problems. They can be so constipating!
    My heart goes out to all of you!
    Prayers coming your way from Vermont!
  • Faith4Cure
    Faith4Cure Member Posts: 405 Member
    Sorry for what you and your family are going through. I'm sending prayers your way. Your mom is lucky to have you!

  • Monicaemilia
    Monicaemilia Member Posts: 455 Member
    Hi Valerie: I am so sorry that your mom is not doing well. Please know that my prayers are with you. Monica
  • usakat
    usakat Member Posts: 610 Member

    I too have missed you and have been wondering about you and your mom. I'm sorry to hear about your mom's tough time. It's rough to have to relocate, but Boulder is such a beautiful place, a true place for healing - mind, body and soul. I sincerely hope that you and your mom find them there.

    My best thoughts and prayers are with you, your mom and your family.
  • betina61
    betina61 Member Posts: 642 Member
    Hi Valerie I have been wondering too,about you and your Mom,I am so sorry to see your post with these sad news,only thing that I can do is offering you that you will be in my prayers everyday,what's your Mom first name? I would like to put her in a chain of prayers,in a group that we get together through a radio program and we pray everyday at 5:30 a.m. Let us not loose hope I know that you know that through God everything is possible. Big hug for you both and the rest of your family.
  • hopefulone
    hopefulone Member Posts: 1,043 Member
    Val, lots of prayers coming your way. I will be thinking of your mom on thurs . Keep us posted
    God Bless
  • AveriRN
    AveriRN Member Posts: 61
    Valerie, So sorry to hear about your mom and all the pain she is in. Have they tried a patch for pain maybe that would help a little better. Your and your family will certainly be in my prayers.

  • lfondots63
    lfondots63 Member Posts: 818 Member
    Oh Valerie,

    I've been away for a few weeks too and so sorry to hear about your mom. Even when I'm away I'm thinking of everyone. Sending prayers and good vibes to your mom and family. HUGS!!

    Lisa F.