My Inspiration

hillby Member Posts: 31
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Hi everyone,

I don't post too often, but read every day - I know there are alot of people out there like me that quietly read your posts. But I just have to tell you that you are what get me through this. My husband was diag Feb '05 with stage 4 mult liver mets and given about 3 months to live at the time. He is still here with a smile doing better than ever. Without the positive stories you guys post - I don't think I could have kept my chin up all these months. You are such a huge blessing to all of us who read your stories. I am only a caretaker - but you all inspire me to be so much more than I am! God Bless every one of you.

Never stop posting!! And remember you touch so many more peoples lives than you could every imagine. I have sent so many people to this website for encouragement. I just can't tell you how much you all mean to me and Byron.

We love you - God bless you.



  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Hilary....can't stop me!
    BUT I take great exception to your use of the word 'ONLY' when referring to being a caregiver!
    YOU GUYS are the REAL heros....and have earned REAL wings!!!!! We fighters only have to focus on the fight, nothing around us matters...(BIG secret...we get to complain and get away with it...hehehehehee) But YOU have to stay positive, listen to all the news, good and bad, watch US struggle, and keep a positive face....
    I've said it before, say it again...look behind you my dear, see that feather?...Thats from YOUR wings!
    Hugs to you and Byron, Kathi
  • debralla
    debralla Member Posts: 203 Member
    Hello Hilary.
    Speaking of INSPIRATION.!!
    Hilary you just shared a wonderful Stage 4 Story with all of us .Know that you just lifted my spirts!!! for I am a stage 4 as well with muli liver mets . Diag in Nov 05 .
    I don't really like the word "care taker" . its just not a Big enough word to describe what you all do for us .
    You give us are our Strength !!!!!And Help us FIGHT !!You are our Healing Angels for sure...
    Thanks for making my day !!
  • nanuk
    nanuk Member Posts: 1,358 Member
    You are not JUST a caretaker. A caretaker is a hero, a companion, a selfless giver, one who is always there when needed, regardless of their own needs..I have been both caretaker and patient, and I know it is much more difficult to be a caretaker-they suffer more than the patient. Bud
  • lfondots63
    lfondots63 Member Posts: 818 Member
    Hi Hilary,

    I just want to say that I agree with the others. I think the caregivers need a hug and a thank you too for all you do. Also keep us posted on how you and your husband is doing. We all like to hear good news. Give your hubby a big HUG from us and we are rooting for him. Take care.

  • goldfinch
    goldfinch Member Posts: 735
    I agree with the others that you are not "only" a caregiver. My heart breaks when I look at my husband's face and get a glimpse of the sadness he is experiencing while we deal with another bad cat scan report. He is my hero and keeps me going, but I know how hard it is for him. I'm sure your husband feels the same about you. Thank you for being there for him.
  • Betsydoglover
    Betsydoglover Member Posts: 1,248 Member
    Hi Hillary -

    You are playing such a great role in your husband's life and helping him so much. I am sorry you have to go thru this, but caregivers are our heros. Please be good to yourself.

  • pink05
    pink05 Member Posts: 550

    You are right. This website is very encouraging. I don't know what I would do without it. It is truly a Godsend. Best wishes and God bless you and your husband.

  • CAMaura
    CAMaura Member Posts: 719 Member
    Hi Hilary - What a lovely and sweet post. And know that there is no such thing as 'only' a caregiver. You keep Byron going!! HIs smile is reflecting the love and care you bring to him!!! Take care and have a great weekend - Maura
  • terril
    terril Member Posts: 296
    Caregivers help us so much. They are angels!!! Hilary, you are doing so much to get your husband through this horrible disease. God bless you!!! My thoughs and prayers are with you and your husband. Terri
  • jenalynet
    jenalynet Member Posts: 361 Member
    Dear Hilary,
    Bless you...Your post is an uplift for all Stage 4 fighters. Caregiving is not an easy thing, it takes love and compassion daily to get through..Take care, Audrey.
  • kangatoo
    kangatoo Member Posts: 2,105 Member
    jenalynet said:

    Dear Hilary,
    Bless you...Your post is an uplift for all Stage 4 fighters. Caregiving is not an easy thing, it takes love and compassion daily to get through..Take care, Audrey. might not have might not have a halo........but you sure sound like an "angel" to me. As for the description of being a carer....the word "only" is not in my vocabulary gal. do have the hardest road to travel!
    huggs from oz, Ross n Jen