Thank you for all your comforting words

Kaleena Member Posts: 2,081 Member

Thank you for everyone thinking of me during this most difficult time in my life.  Tears are running down my face as I read your responses and all the love and care and heartfelt emotions that you were giving to me.   I can't even tell you how much that meant to me.

My husband ended up with double sepis after a failed procedure.  He ended in the hospital and although he came home they sent him home on hospice.  We were lucky in a way because two days later is when the shut down began.  If he was in pallative care or still in the hospital I would not have been able to see him.  I took care of him for 2 months and at times it seemed like he was going to beat it.  But the weight loss was and him not eating was just too much.  I know he wanted to try to make it for our son's wedding on June 27th but he also didn't want to be so frail either.  It was hard not having any family or friends being able to come see him.  Although he didn't want to see anyone anyway in his condition.  He passed peacefully at home with my sons and daughter in law around him.  He lived life large and so I know he would want us all to do the same.

Giving you all the hugs that I can.   

Love you all!

Kathy (Kaleena)




  • cmb
    cmb Member Posts: 920 Member
    My Condolences


    Even when we know the end for a loved one is near; the actual loss isn't any less heartbreaking. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. And I'm thankful that your husband was able to be at home with you, even though visits from other family members and friends were restricted during his final weeks. A peaceful end with family close by is the best that any of us can hope for after such a long and difficult struggle. I know that your devoted care made that possible.

  • MAbound
    MAbound Member Posts: 1,164 Member
    Hi, Kaleena

    Hi, Kaleena

    I'm so glad you felt up to dropping by again to tell us how you are doing. It hasn't been that long, but I'm sure it feels like it's been forever already.

    How your husband felt about people seeing him at the end and being weak at your son's wedding makes so much sense to me. Who wants people's last memories of you to be at your lowest point? The memories of the good times had with him are what he wants to be remembered by and what will make thinking about him happy thoughts that can lift you when you're missing him. 

    Sending a ((Hug))


  • BluebirdOne
    BluebirdOne Member Posts: 559 Member
    edited August 2020 #4
    I am glad you came back to update us.

    Deepest condolences for your loss. Such sad news but thank you for taking the time to come back to us and let us know how you are doing. Thinking of you. 



  • Forherself
    Forherself Member Posts: 722 Member
    edited August 2020 #5
    Dear Kalena

    Words are inadequate to convey our love and caring for you and all your family.  I hope it is some comfort to know how much people care about you.  Take care of yourself for us.   Hugs.

  • dgrdalton
    dgrdalton Member Posts: 161
    edited August 2020 #6
    So very sorry.  I'm not good

    So very sorry.  I'm not good with words, but am praying for peace and comfort for you and family.


  • Quilter_1
    Quilter_1 Member Posts: 117 Member
    edited August 2020 #7
    I'm so sorry for your loss.

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  I know the words sound hollow, but I mean them with all sincerity.  Live life large in his honor.

  • MoeKay
    MoeKay Member Posts: 403 Member
    edited August 2020 #8
    Very Sorry For Your Loss

    Kaleena, I'm very sorry for the loss of your wonderful husband.  It was a blessing that he was able to be home with you by his side, rather than spending his last months in the hospital. 

  • TeddyandBears_Mom
    TeddyandBears_Mom Member Posts: 1,811 Member
    edited August 2020 #9


    So very glad to see you posting again. I have truly missed you.

    I pray you find comfort in the wonderful memories the two of you shared along with your family.

    Love and Hugs,


  • cheerful
    cheerful Member Posts: 261 Member
    edited August 2020 #10


       It is good to hear from you.  I can't imagine what you went through the past 3 1/2 months and I know it had to be the most difficult time in your life.  My heartfelt condolences are with you and your sons.  The memories you and your husband shared will forever be with you and may you find peace and comfort.  I will say some prayers for you.


    Jane (Cheerful)

  • Armywife
    Armywife Member Posts: 449 Member
    edited August 2020 #11
    Hugs, Kaleena

    Sending you hugs, and praying that the Lord holds you close.  So thankful to hear it was peaceful and that you had your children near! 

  • pato58
    pato58 Member Posts: 120 Member
    edited August 2020 #12
    Dear Kaleena

    So very sorry for your loss!
    Stay safe and hugs!

  • SF73
    SF73 Member Posts: 316 Member
    edited August 2020 #13
    Dearest Kaleena

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your strength and grace is inspiring. Wishing you all the best.  

  • Tamlen
    Tamlen Member Posts: 343 Member
    edited August 2020 #14
    So sorry

    Kaleena, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how it must have been to navigate these last months. I really have no words but wanted you to know I'm thinking of you.


  • Northwoodsgirl
    Northwoodsgirl Member Posts: 571
    Deepest sympathy

    Kathy, I am so very sorry to hear of the passing of your beloved husband. Please know my heartfelt sympathy goes to you and your loved ones. I am so glad you had your beloved at home with you. May God comfort you and give you strength in the days ahead. May you find comfort in the many moments of memories of the best of your life together...


    With deepest sympathy, 


  • jan9wils
    jan9wils Member Posts: 180 Member
    Kathy, I wish you peace

    Kathy, I wish you peace during the difficult times ahead living without your husband. It sounds like you have a very loving family to help bring you comfort.


  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832
    Oh, Kathy I had no idea! So

    Oh, Kathy I had no idea! So sorry for your loss.  My husband of 44 years also passed away in April 2019.   It has been a tough year and I so get how difficult this time can be for you.  I dont go on here often at all. Hope you. Are well and doing ok during this difficult time



  • suzycruise76
    suzycruise76 Member Posts: 160 Member
    edited August 2020 #18
    Dear Kathy,

    I am so glad you came back to the board-I was worrying about you. I am very sorry about loosing your husband,I know it must be very difficult time of your life. You had taken a good care of him,now please do not forget to take a good care of yourself. It is wonderful that you have loving sons and DIL,there will be grandchildren coming,which is going to fill your life with joy and more love. 

    I will never forget your thoughtful and caring words,when I was looking for support and advise in my fight with colon cancer.

    Thank you and take care dear Kathy,


  • cmb
    cmb Member Posts: 920 Member
    edited August 2020 #19

    Oh, Kathy I had no idea! So

    Oh, Kathy I had no idea! So sorry for your loss.  My husband of 44 years also passed away in April 2019.   It has been a tough year and I so get how difficult this time can be for you.  I dont go on here often at all. Hope you. Are well and doing ok during this difficult time



    My Sympathies


    I'm glad you checked back in with the board – we missed you! But I'm very sorry to hear about your husband. I hope you're feeling as well as can be expected after this sad loss and all the craziness of the past few months.

  • Primavera
    Primavera Member Posts: 231 Member
    Dear Kathy

    I'm so sorry, dear Kathy.

    When I came over to this board, I remember reading your posts about your cancer journey and ocassionally I would go to other boards to read about other cancers and I would find you asking questions to help your husband.

    I remember you helping me, too, when I came here for my uterine cancer.

    May you have peace while you go through these trying times. Sending you hugs.

  • Fridays Child
    Fridays Child Member Posts: 254 Member
    My prayers for you as well

    When I first saw your sad news, I had had rotator cuff surgery and typing was not on my list of capabilities.  Please know that I am sorry and have been praying for you since reading of your loss.