Surgery tomorrow scared

It's perfectly normal to be scared.  If you weren't, I'd be a heck of a lot more concerned about that.  Best wishes for a great outcome.

Remember--he gets that "nasty evil 15 cm" tumor out of him.   Stay positive, he'll be fine.

Stub

I know all too well what you're feeling and thinking. It's nerve racking to put it mildly. But......when that surgeon comes out to tell you "He did great, we got it all and he''s going to be well." You will find yourself able to breath again.

My wife is 20 days post surgery today. She's doing well and is going to go in to work for a little while today. Remember.....we're here if you need us.

He'll do fine. Keep us posted......wishing you guys the best.

Make sure he gets one of those lumbar, velcro wraps used for low back problems. I have used it several surgeries. It supports those tender, sore muscles as they heal. It helped me get UP from a chair/bed more easily. I even wore it to bed. AND I would place dry ice packs inside over the larger incision (had laproscopic incisions) and it helped reduce the swelling=lessened the pain.

Well, I will be "with you" in spirit dear, Evenlyn. You feel anyway you want, get those emotions OUT!

Healing hugs, Jan

Yes it seems short stay, BUT as long as he can do his bodily functions (once catheter is out) and can walk, pain under control, its best to recoup at home. Hospitals do not let you rest! You are on their schedule. Just when you can finally sleep/rest, someone will come in to do or say something. He will also have those squeezing devices on legs to prevent clots, at least first day or so. They have a pump he'll hear when they squeeze. Some folks hate it, I loved it,made my legs feel good. I eventually got used to that sound.

He'll also be on a pain pump first day at least. He just has to press a button to get extra push of the dose of morphine or fetanyl. Also he has versed in his general anesthesia which has amnesiac features as side effects. So it may seem like he forgets what you just said or what he just said, but that will wear off soon.  My sister does a whole routine on how people like me act when on Versed. LOL. But I "forgot" I had a button to push for pain pump!!

Use the email portion of this site if you want further information or more personal talk. I will support you anytime!

Jan

My tumor was 14.5, they removed it, my left kidney, and 8 inches of my colon - all at the same time!  Yes - it was scary and yes my wife and I cried - but just think about getting tomorrow done with, then tackle the recovery, then getting back home, then getting to your "new normal".  Surgery was 5 years ago for me and I am feeling fine.  My scar is probably 30cm and I was home after 5 days in the hospital.

Stay strong!  He's gonna need you!

It is very natural to be nervous.  

I am a 62 year old woman who is now 6 days post surgery and I was a total mess prior.  I had a 7.7 cm tumor that was removed along with the right kidney.  The waiting was the worst part.  My family was my rock during that difficult time. I knew they were very scared too but they held it together for me.  Your husband needs you to be strong for him and the children. Take deep breaths and keep in mind that by tomorrow this time, surgery will be over, the tumor will be gone and he will be on the road to recovery.

I am doing very well and saw my surgeon for a follow-up this morning. He was amazed at how far I've come in just 6 days. Recovery is hard at times but attitude means everything. 

Evelyn: as the spouse of the patient, I can truly relate to you. My husband's nephrectomy came after a laminectomy for mets to the spine and a subsequent 16-day stay for intestinal blockage. So, the nephrectomy was a walk in the park. 

I well remember the laminectomy, the embolization the night before and the wait which was blessedly shorter than anticipated. I was initially alone but then joined by my sister-in-law, mother-in-law and son joined me which was needed for the first night in ICU. He received 10 transfusions and experienced intense pain until the right narcotic combo was found. I am sorry that you will be alone tomorrow and you will be in my thoughts. Think of this not as doomsday but as your first step to health. And, if possible, stay connected with us here.

my best wishes 

Sarah

Don't break down, he'llbe fine. Yes, it's scary, but they are probably saving his life. You have to let them work. He needs you and wants you to be strong.

It might be more difficult for our loved ones in the surgery waiting than the patient who is out of it and not worried at all...I am 6 months from an open nephrectomy to remove a 20 cm tumor and I am doing well. Hoping and praying your hubby will recover and heal up soon.

I hope that your husband had a successfull surgery! and that you are now breathing and more at ease! Wishing ya'll well! We are all sending good vibes! 

Sending continued cyber hugs your way...

I am so happy to hear your good news. My husband had a 13 cm tumor, but they were unable to remove it. It spread so fast within a 6 week period after diagnosis. No one would touch it. We live in SW MO, and even made the trip to St. Louis to have it removed. They ended up removing a tumor from his spine instead. 

Good news!  Just make sure he follows all the doctor's instructions and, when they tell him to walk, get him to walk!

Great news! So happy it's over and he's on his way to recovery. All the very best to both of you!

Thanks for the update. As you can see WE CARE!

Now no more worrying about the what ifs=waste of energy needed to LIVE TODAY!!

Healing hugs to you both!

Jan

Sending love your way.  Prayers 

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