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Uncle Buddy is soaring with the angels!

UncleBuddy
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It is with great sadness that I annouce the passing of my sweet brother. He passed away at home yesterday. I will be back once I can pull myself together. Hugs to all!

Lin

jen2012
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Hugs Lin.  I'm very sorry.   I hope your dad is okay.   Know that you did more for him than many siblings would have.  You were great support for him. 

UncleBuddy
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Dad is doing better than I am. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I appreciate your kind words. I know I did what I could, but it never felt like it was enough. 

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lizard44
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Even when you  expect it,  the death of a loved one is  hard to deal with. My thoughts are with you and your family.

UncleBuddy
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It's not easy. I've been dealing with dad and all the after stuff, so i don't feel like I've had the chance to even grieve yet.

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JanJan63
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Oh no, I'm so very sorry Lin. I hope you are able to find strength and peace. Big hugs.

Jan

UncleBuddy
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Hugs back at you!

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Lovekitties
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I know you are heart broken about your brother's passing. 

You did a wonderful job of seeing to his needs both physically and emotionally.

I hope that you and your family can find healing in the memories you shared with him.

I especially hope that your father can handle not only the loss of his son, but also the loss of his home-mate. 

Hugs and prayers for you all,

Marie who loves kitties

UncleBuddy
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It's so weird walking into their apartment and not seeing his smiling face. I miss him terribly.

Dad is doing well. We hired back the aide who took care of my brother. Now I get a little peace while we wait for dad to get into the assisted living place.

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Trubrit
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beloved and caring sister. My heart weeps with you at this time.  

Your brother will forever be with you, and I do hope that soon, the memories will be of the wonderful years and not his years of struggling with the Cancers. 

You have my heart, dear forum and FB friend. 

SUE

UncleBuddy
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My heart is broken. Although I knew it would happen eventually, I didn't think it was going to happen so soon. It was awful! I'm happy that we fought to let him die at home. The hospice nurse was pressuring my sister to send him to a facility but I wouldn't back down. I knew what he wanted and I wasn't letting him die in a hospital setting.

Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate your friendship.

Lin

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wolfen
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I am so very sorry. You are in my thoughts. May this Irish blessing be of some comfort.

 

May the road rise to meet you.

May the wind be always at your back.

May the sun shine warm upon your face,

the rains fall soft upon your fields and,

until we meet again, may God hold you in

the palm of his hand.

 

Take care,

Karen

 

UncleBuddy
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I love this blessing. :)

danker
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And to Woolfen's Irish blessing. May he be in heaven 3 days before the devil knows he"s dead!

My condolences to you!

UncleBuddy
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I appreciate the condolences! I hope you're doing well.

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beaumontdave
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Lin, I'm so sorry. Buddy's at peace, now I hope you and your family can find some.......................................Dave

UncleBuddy
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He fought a hard fight. He's my hero! I'm glad he's no longer suffering but I miss the big guy!

MS2014
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So sorry to read about the passing of your beloved brother

You must be proud of everything you did for him. Unfortunatelly sometimes our efforts can't stop what is inevitable.

I truly know you will take care of your family but please Take care of yourself

Big hughs to you and your family

Cathleen Mary
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Lin, I am so sorry.  Everyone should be blessed with a sister like you. May you know peace and strength these difficult days.

hugs,

CM

UncleBuddy
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It has been rough. The wake is Monday and the funeral is Tuesday. The hardest part was looking for photos for the funeral home to put on their website. It's amazing that I'm not in any of the pics because I'm always the one behind the camera.

Thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers. I will post soon and tell you all that has happened.

Lin

vtspa6
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Truly sorry for your loss.  He is at peace.

LindaK.
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Lin, I'm so sorry to read about your brother.  I'm glad you were able to keep him home and I'm sure he was peaceful there with his family at his side.  You did a great job taking care of him. 

Linda

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marbleotis
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I am so sorry for your loss.  You are a wonderful caregiver. May you all have peace.

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LivinginNH
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Dear Lin,

My sincere condolences on the passing of your dear brother.  I know that he meant the world to you, but please take some comfort that he's no longer in pain.  You were an extraordinary caregiver to him and I'm certain that he appreciated everything that you did for him.

With sympathy,

Cynthia

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Annabelle41415
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Sorry to hear that.  You took very good care of him and pray that you have comfort during this difficult time.  Kim

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traci43
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Lin, Your brother fought well and you were a huge help to him.  He's at rest now and I hope you take comfort in that.  I hope you find peace in the many happy memories you have of him.  Traci

UncleBuddy
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Thank you for the kind words. It has been very difficult. On top of losing my brother, we're trying to figure out what to do about dad. We found a great assisted living facility near us, but it will take some time to get him in there. My sister and I have been taking turns staying with him but today we have the same aide who cared for my brother coming in to help dad. I hope it's comfort for him. dad and my brother both loved him.

Once I can put more than a few sentences together without crying, I will come back. For now, I need a little happiness. I'm heading to see my granddaughters later. 

danker
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I just learned of your brother's passing. As you said he is with the angels! God bless your family.

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annalexandria
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May the passage of time bring with it a little peace to you and your family. I know the memories you have of a wonderful brother will help.

Big hugs~AA

UncleBuddy
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I miss my brother terribly! 

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Phil64
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So sorry for your loss Lin. Sending love, light, and prayers your way. May love overflow on you during this difficult time. 

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NewHere
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Lin I did not see this until today.  I am so sorry for your loss.  Thoughts are with you and your family.

ellend
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I am very sorry to hear about your brother.  I hope you and your family find peace.

fedester
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So sorry for your loss.

 

UncleBuddy
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I appreciate your kind thoughts and words. It has been tough, but life must go on.

Dad is now in a local assisted living where he is enjoying life again. I know it was the right thing for him.

I've been visiting my daughter and her family this past week. I head back up north tomorrow. I will miss my grandson. he's been the light in my eyes these past few weeks.

Now it's time to clear out dad and my brother's apartment. That's going to be tough.

I think of you all often. I pray for a cure for all of you.

Lin

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Trubrit
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Lin, I am happy to know that your dad is handling life well in his new home. That must be a huge blessing and weight off of your shoulders. 

May you enjoy the memories that clearing out their home will bring. It would be much easier to be overcome with emotion and depression, but try to look at it as sifting through happy memories. Also, having cleared out my parents home, I know how easy it is to want to keep many, many things. I couldn't, as they were in Engalnd and I here in the States. No bringing it all home possible. It was hard throwing or donating precious 'stuff' that held memories, but now, years down the line, I realize I have the memories even without the physical 'stuff'. 

Oh, listen to me, spouting off. 

Back to you (and your dad). I pray that you will move forward in joy, with memoires of a wonderful brother, until you are reunited with him again. 

SUE

UncleBuddy
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It is hard going through his things. I feel like I'm intruding. I have until the end of the month to empty their apartment. I have to start making calls to donate a lot of the big stuff.

The grandbabies keep me smiling. I'd be lost without them. Today is my granddaughter's 3rd birthday and I was able to spend a few hours hanging out with her. Saturday is her party, I can't wait to see the family together.

Dad is making new friends and taking advantage of the bus they have there. He goes to church and shopping with the other folks. He even won at a game of shuffleboard. It's nice to see him smiling.

Thank you for being a good friend. I hope we're able to meet one day. Let me know if you're ever in NY.

Lin

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Easyflip
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Lin. He was lucky to have you for a sister. Peace to your brother, you, and your family.

Easyflip/Richard

UncleBuddy
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That means a lot. I find myself second guessing everything I did or advised him to do.

 

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Phil64
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So sorry for your loss. I wish you much love during this difficult time.

Sincerely,

Phil

UncleBuddy
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Everyday gets a tiny bit better. My grandchildren have really helped me get through this. I wish you the best of health!

Lin

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