Sad update

mrs_blkjak
mrs_blkjak Member Posts: 103

Blkjak has been struggling for a while. The drugs that showed some promise several weeks back quickly stopped working. The rumors in his lungs have gotten so big and he was hospitalized for a few days last week. He came home on oxygen. Last night his breathing was really labored. So we went back to the hospital and he was admitted it the ICU. He died this morning. I am so sad for my children and myself. Even though he wasn't doing well, he really went quickly once he went downhill. He was so miserable the last few weeks and I am happy he is in peace. But I miss him horribly. 

While I wanted to let you all know this, I also want to do a Texas Wedge-style disclaimer. Brad only survived 13 months from diagnosis. However, nothing about his case fit any norm for RCC. They could not classify his type and really felt that he had a rare and very aggressive form of RCC. So please don't lose hope for yourselves. I know he would want others to remain positive and focus on living. 

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  • icemantoo
    icemantoo Member Posts: 3,360 Member
    A fighter

    Mrs-b, Sorry about your loss. From what I remember about your posts, he was a fighter and that counts a lot.

     

    Icemantoo

  • nsb748
    nsb748 Member Posts: 89
    Very sorry for your loss.   

    Very sorry for your loss.   

  • danbren2
    danbren2 Member Posts: 311
    So Sad!

    My Dear mrs_blkjak,

         I wish there was some magical words that I could say to help take away the pain that you and your children are feeling right now.  I was so hoping that he would do an about face and be ok.  I am sending love, prayers, and strength to you and your family.  I also know that every time the doctors tell me that I am NED, I will make sure to say a thank you to Brad for being another angel who will continue helping us fight this horrible disease from up above!

                                                      Love and prayers,

                                                       Brenda

  • angec
    angec Member Posts: 924
    I am so sorry to hear this! I

    I am so sorry to hear this! I must say, I am in shock!  I never expected this after that post that the chemo was working for him.  I don't have many words, except that I am praying for you all! May God watch over you all and comfort you.  So sorry!  XOXO  You have have been a good support system to him, I am sure he knew this and appreciated and loved you very much!  

  • Jan4you
    Jan4you Member Posts: 1,330 Member
    (((( HUGS  )))) to you and

    (((( HUGS  )))) to you and yours~so sorry for ALL you are enduring.

    I am grateful you came here to let us know. Life can be fragile. But as you said, he's done suffering. He'll show his presence around you, please know that. Watch for it! He's as close as your breath.

    Let us know how you are doing. I too am a widow, slept with his clothes on the bed for awhile to feel his scent and to hold onto something, BUT I still feel him all around me..guiding me.

    Unfortunately only you can grieve, we cannot do that work for you. I wish we could...

    Know that I'll be thinking of you especially.

    Warmly, Jan

     

  • Jan4you
    Jan4you Member Posts: 1,330 Member
    Was reading some of you and

    Was reading some of you and your hubby's past posts. You mention going to UW-Madison. Do you live in Wisconsin? I do.

    Jan

  • Djinnie
    Djinnie Member Posts: 945
    Such sad news!

    I am so very sorry for your sad loss Mrs. Blkjak, no one has fought harder than you and Brad to beat this awful disease. At such a time here you are with words of support for the rest of us. We can honor Brad by fighting as hard as he did. I will keep you all in my prayers!

     

    Djinnie x

  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181
    This hurts

    It is a sad outcome. I can only imagine how hard this must be. I feel terrible for you and your family. You provided Blkjak with compassion and understanding. I'm sure he is looking down and thanking you. I'm so sorry.

  • Alexandra
    Alexandra Member Posts: 1,308
    My deepest condolences

    I am so very sorry for your loss. May his love live on in your memories and bring you peace.

  • brea588
    brea588 Member Posts: 240
    so sorry

    So sorry for your loss.  Lifting you up in my prayers.

  • N_Woods_Gal
    N_Woods_Gal Member Posts: 20 Member
    brea588 said:

    so sorry

    So sorry for your loss.  Lifting you up in my prayers.

    Condolences

    May you find comfort in knowing you are in the thoughts and prayers of many.

  • Jojo61
    Jojo61 Member Posts: 1,309 Member

    Condolences

    May you find comfort in knowing you are in the thoughts and prayers of many.

    I am so sorry for your loss

    I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine how difficult this must be for you. Your devotion to him was something I always admired. And even now, you worry and care about us and our fights. God bless you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Big hugs,

    Jojo

  • Skagway Jack
    Skagway Jack Member Posts: 224 Member
    Heartfelt Condolences

    I only knew Brad through your post.  I am very saddened by this turn of events.  I hope you find comfort in knowing he is in a better place albeit entirely too soon.

    Deepest sympathies,  Jack

  • canadiancruiser
    canadiancruiser Member Posts: 14
    Sorry for your loss

    I am sorry for your loss, prayers sent to you and your family...

     

  • Gordon Charles
    Gordon Charles Member Posts: 91
    .............

     Missing a loved one hurts no matter how much we think we understand.....thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

  • izzycohen
    izzycohen Member Posts: 80
    So sorry for your loss

    I am so sorry to hear of Blkjk's passing.  Thinking of you.

     

    Izzy

  • Suekub
    Suekub Member Posts: 137
    izzycohen said:

    So sorry for your loss

    I am so sorry to hear of Blkjk's passing.  Thinking of you.

     

    Izzy

    So sorry

    To hear this news today. My thoughts are with you and your family. Having lost my own husband 9 months after being diagnosed with metastatic melanoma I think I know what you are going through. I am fighting hard against mRCC for the sake of our daughter who doesn't deserve to lose both parents to very similar diseases. I so hate cancer!

    please take care of yourself and your children.

    kind regards

    Sue

     

  • cran1
    cran1 Member Posts: 139
    Very sorry for your loss Mrs

    Very sorry for your loss Mrs B. You are in my prayers..

  • twinthings
    twinthings Member Posts: 409
    I'm so sorry for your loss,

    I'm so sorry for your loss, Mrs B.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children. 

    God Bless.

  • sblairc
    sblairc Member Posts: 585
    Thinking of you

    My thoughts are with you and your family during this time. I am so very sorry.