Nancy is very ill....

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Hissy_Fitz
Hissy_Fitz Member Posts: 1,834
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I talked to Nancy's mom and her sister today. They said she had been asking about us, saying she needed to call or text me so I could keep everyone up-to-speed. But she is very, very weak. She cannot stand without help, although her mom said she wants to get out of bed. She just doesn't have the strength.

The mets to her liver have evidently grown. She has jaundice. But NO PAIN. Her mom wanted to talk to me, and specifically make sure I knew that Nancy is NOT IN ANY PAIN.

This is very hard. Nancy is not a stranger to me. I've met her, met her family, and talked to her many times. She has fought harder than anyone could imagine. But as her mom said, she cannot continue like this. Her body will shut down, and it will not be months, but days or at most, a couple of weeks.

I have known this for awhile, but I was reluctant to post anything so grim. I so wanted her to get better, to make the doctors who sent her home with a prognosis of 4 weeks look like fools. Sadly, it just doesn't look like that is God's plan for Nancy.

I am beyond sad. My heart is broken, and I am having a really hard time holding it together right now.

Carlene
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  • Christine B.
    Christine B. Member Posts: 137
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    Carlene,
    I am so saddened by this, and can only imagine Nancy's and her family's feelings right now. I so much want her to get better. Thank you for keeping us in mind as you face this as her friend. Please, once more tell Nancy how much she means to us, and of the help she has given to us all. Love, Chris
  • Radioactive34
    Radioactive34 Member Posts: 391 Member
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    Carlene,
    There is not much
    Carlene,

    There is not much to say beyond, this utterly sucks.

    R34
  • upsofloating
    upsofloating Member Posts: 466 Member
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    Oh Carlene, I am so sad to
    Oh Carlene, I am so sad to read this. I have always wanted to believe she would beat this... at least togive her more years to enjoy her darling children and they, her. The last few weeks though have not sounded too promising.

    I am so glad that at least she is not in pain. It was wondeful she had the forethought to create the videos, etc. for her children while she still seemed well to give them lifelong memories of their wonderful Mom. My heart goes out to Nancy and her family.

    Thanks again Carlene for being there.
    Annie
  • clamryn
    clamryn Member Posts: 508
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    I can't stand this
    Carlene, I just can't stand this. It is so hard. This whole thing is so unfair. I just want to go out and run and run and run

    Thank you for letting us know. I am glad to hear that she is not in any pain.

    Hugs and prayers to Nancy, her family and you.

    Linda
  • vj1
    vj1 Member Posts: 150
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    clamryn said:

    I can't stand this
    Carlene, I just can't stand this. It is so hard. This whole thing is so unfair. I just want to go out and run and run and run

    Thank you for letting us know. I am glad to hear that she is not in any pain.

    Hugs and prayers to Nancy, her family and you.

    Linda

    Screamed
    Carlen:
    I read your post about Nancy and just could not keep it together. I walked out into the woods and just screamed and screamed followed by a good cry. I love this sight but there are times I am afraid to read who the next one will be. It is just so hard to keep a positive spirit and yet I am inspired by the fight. Please pass my love and thoughts to Nancy and her family.

    Verna
  • pjdreams
    pjdreams Member Posts: 77
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    Praying
    Praying for strength for the family.
  • Disneynutt
    Disneynutt Member Posts: 134 Member
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    I just can't believe it.
    I just can't believe it. She was the first person to befriend me on this message board. Excuse me, I have to go get some tissue.
  • LaundryQueen
    LaundryQueen Member Posts: 676
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    pjdreams said:

    Praying
    Praying for strength for the family.

    Adding prayers for Nancy
    I appreciate the update & can only imagine how hard this is for you, Carlene. Nancy's pain relief is our only comfort at this time--the rest of the situation is so unfair.

    Sorry for getting so jacked up about the TPN--I wanted her to turn it around & I now know she was past the point of no return already. I just never give up. Even now I am hoping for a miracle...I don't want to believe the truth.

    LQ
  • srwruns
    srwruns Member Posts: 343
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    I am heart broken. Her
    I am heart broken. Her pictures have haunted me since I first came on this board with the young children. It's been a horribly tough year with these young women so ill.
  • MK_4Dani
    MK_4Dani Member Posts: 314
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    UGH.
    Nancy fought so hard because of her young boys. My heart breaks for her because I know this is not her plan. It is indeed the hardest test of faith to trust the Lords plan when they conflict with your own. It is a good thing he is forgiving because I am a bit annoyed with him right now. So now I will pray that his plan includes extra beautiful, spectacular wings and thankful she is not in pain....and perhaps a miracle.
    Carlene: thanks, it is hard to break news like this.
    God bless that young woman and her family,
    Mary
  • Hissy_Fitz
    Hissy_Fitz Member Posts: 1,834
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    LaundryQueen said:

    Adding prayers for Nancy
    I appreciate the update & can only imagine how hard this is for you, Carlene. Nancy's pain relief is our only comfort at this time--the rest of the situation is so unfair.

    Sorry for getting so jacked up about the TPN--I wanted her to turn it around & I now know she was past the point of no return already. I just never give up. Even now I am hoping for a miracle...I don't want to believe the truth.

    LQ

    Yes, LQ....it was too late
    Yes, LQ....it was too late for TPN by the time she went into Hospice, and I feared that at the time. Like you, I wanted so much for her to bounce back and give the nay-sayers a big Bronx cheer.

    The doctors told her she had 4 weeks left, and that was a couple of weeks ago. Doctors do not get the last word, though, and Nancy told them they were WRONG. She said, "I am not dying in 4 weeks. Absolutely not." It was easy to believe she could pull it off. She is tougher than tough. All those posturing, swaggering young men I see, who reek of machoism and think they are so tough. They have no idea what tough really is. They are whimpering little babies, compared to Nancy.

    Carlene
  • childofthestars
    childofthestars Member Posts: 251 Member
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    nooooooo
    I am truly distraught by this news. It's just NOT FAIR :(
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  • Mum2bellaandwilliam
    Mum2bellaandwilliam Member Posts: 412
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    Jesus :(
    This sucks, I just can't help but think of her two young boys , they look a similar age to my sisters two boys ,poor little souls.
    I am glad Nancy is in no pain, it is the only comforting thing to take from this news. God bless Nancy and her family xxxx
  • jloe
    jloe Member Posts: 174
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    Oh no!
    Carlene, I was afraid to ask. I know you keep in touch with so many people and care so much. Her pictures with her 2 little boys has touched everyone. I also remember from previous posts that she has an olde daughter. We just all live with this hanging over our heads. I hope that she really is in NO pain.
  • kikz
    kikz Member Posts: 1,345 Member
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    jloe said:

    Oh no!
    Carlene, I was afraid to ask. I know you keep in touch with so many people and care so much. Her pictures with her 2 little boys has touched everyone. I also remember from previous posts that she has an olde daughter. We just all live with this hanging over our heads. I hope that she really is in NO pain.

    My heart is breaking
    for Nancy and her family. I worry about my son and he is 30; I cannot even conceive what Nancy has gone through at the thought of leaving her children. God bless her and I pray she will find the peace she deserves.

    Karen
  • kayandok
    kayandok Member Posts: 1,202 Member
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    Oh Carlene,
    I had a feeling. Nancy has been so heavily on my mind the last few days. Even though I have seen gals go down fast, I have also seen them hang on for a long time with liver mets. Either way it is so painful to let them go.

    I'm glad to hear she is at home and not in pain, surrounded by her family.

    With tears,
    kathleen
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    kikz said:

    My heart is breaking
    for Nancy and her family. I worry about my son and he is 30; I cannot even conceive what Nancy has gone through at the thought of leaving her children. God bless her and I pray she will find the peace she deserves.

    Karen

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  • carolenk
    carolenk Member Posts: 907 Member
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    kayandok said:

    Oh Carlene,
    I had a feeling. Nancy has been so heavily on my mind the last few days. Even though I have seen gals go down fast, I have also seen them hang on for a long time with liver mets. Either way it is so painful to let them go.

    I'm glad to hear she is at home and not in pain, surrounded by her family.

    With tears,
    kathleen

    More tears
    Dear Carlene

    I am so sorry you had to post this sad news about sweet Nancy.

    Carolen
  • lindaprocopio
    lindaprocopio Member Posts: 1,980
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    kayandok said:

    Oh Carlene,
    I had a feeling. Nancy has been so heavily on my mind the last few days. Even though I have seen gals go down fast, I have also seen them hang on for a long time with liver mets. Either way it is so painful to let them go.

    I'm glad to hear she is at home and not in pain, surrounded by her family.

    With tears,
    kathleen

    ((((Carlene)))). UGH.
    That poor girl; she deserved a better shake, a better outcome.

    I kept hoping everyone was wrong and Nancy was right. I have substantial liver mets myself and a CA125 of over 8000, and yet I weeded my huge garden in 98-degree heat all morning and then entertained a pool-fun of company all afternoon (& I have a BIG POOL PARTY planned here for tomorrow's holiday that I need to start cooking and cleaning for tonight). And since Nancy and I have similar crazy-high CA125s and growing liver mets, I thought she might just find a way to surprise everyone and pull herself out of this. How quickly things can turn ugly! I hate to think of that, for each of us.

    I'm heartsick about this. Nancy is special to me, to so many of us. I, too, am comforted that she is not in pain. But I'm not okay with this; I HATE THIS!!!

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