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Paula G.
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Hello everyone,
I have lost track of everyone on the board. My focus has been on John. He isn't doing good at all. He isn't eating much at all. Hospice is coming once a week. I feel so helpless. We still talk and watch TV together. I do know it won't be long.

All of you keep up the fight. You all are in my heart because you have helped me so much. Thanks a bunch.

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pepebcn
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Keep strengthens but take care of you too , I will pray for you and JR Today.
Lots of Hugs!.

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Paula G.
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You no it's crazy he only takes ibprofen. He says he isn't in that much pain. I hope it remains that way. The nurse said some people don't have much pain others have a lot.

John hates to take any medication. I can't believe he did so much Chemo and did well on it for a long time until the last one. Just couldn't do it anymore. I do understand. Still hard!

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Lovekitties
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Dear Paula,

I am so sorry that John is not doing well. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you.

My prayers for you both.

Marie who loves kitties

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maglets
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oh Paula this is heavy news. I am sorry....how very difficult for you ....prayers for both you and John and some hugs too

maggie

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idlehunters
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I wish I had words that could ease YOUR pain. I know this has got to be the hardest thing ever! I think of you guys every day and pray for you too. Call me if you want to talk.... anytime of the day or night.... or just call and we will cry together... Give JR a big hug for me... Love you both....

Jennie

AnneCan
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I am sorry, Paula, + my thoughts are with you + John.

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geotina
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I am so sorry you are going thru this. You are honoring John's request of "no more", and as a caregiver that is difficult to accept. You are so much stronger than you realize in honoring his wishes. Use the time you have with John just doing everyday things together, talking, laughing, remembering your time together.

I think of you often.

Take care - Tina

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KathiM
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To you both!

I'm glad John's pain is managable....that makes things a bit easier! It still is heartwrenching...I'm putting my arms around you both...

Hugs, Kathi

Jaylo969
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My thoughts and prayers are with you both.I know this is so hard for both of you. Love & hugs and wish I could do more.

-Pat

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PhillieG
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You're both in my thoughts. I know it must not be easy at all for either of you. I can understand things in a way from both sides. My 91 yr old Mom is going to be starting hospice care at some point in the very near future. Her kidneys are failing. She's home and with those who love her. I get tired of treatments too sometimes.
As much as it stinks, we sometimes have to go through rough times.
Just know that so many of us are thinking of you both.
hugs
-phil

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angelsbaby
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I am sorry

michelle

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Lori-S
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I'm sending prayers and HUGS to you both

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Kathleen808
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Paula and John,
I am so sorry you are at this stage of this journey. I pray that your pain is minimal John and that the two of you have many good moments together. Paula, you have been a wonderful wife to John. I know the love the two of you have is so dear. I am keeping you in my prayers.

Aloha,
Kathleen

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Annabelle41415
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Sorry he isn't doing well. Please tell him that we are all thinking of him. Your top priority is spending time with him. This board will always be here so don't worry about us. Thanks for checking in.

Kim

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Kathryn_in_MN
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I'm sending you big hugs. I'm so sorry you are coming close to the time of saying goodbye. I am happy to hear he doesn't have much pain though - at least you don't have to watch him suffer so badly as some go through. I still can't imagine being in your shoes. I'm glad you have hospice to help you. I hope you have other friends and family to give you the support you need right now too. Cherish the time you have left with JR - that comes first before anything else right now.

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Buzzard
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No words to say how sorry I am to hear this...make the memories with each other now that will help give you some peace later.....Love to you both, Clift

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Sundanceh
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I'm with the group on all that has been said...

-Craig

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okthen
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Just wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and John. I am so sorry to read your post and wish you both peaceful moments together in the days to come.
Stay strong!
Chriss

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tootsie1
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I'm so sorry, Paula. I so wish things could be different. I'm praying for you both.

*hugs*
Gail

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Aud
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I am so sorry you and John are having to go through this. love, comfort, and hope to you both. Holding you both in the Light.
~Aud

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Crow71
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I'm thinking about you and JR and hoping that you are both as well as you can be.
Take care
Roger

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newperson
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Dear Paula, I'm so sorry to hear this heavy news about John. I Pray God give you strength to go through this hard time. My thoughts and love are with you and John. I now am in almost the same situation as you are. My husband has terminal rectal cancer. His cancer got progress so bad since summer that the tumors are all over his body now. He is in a lot of pain. It's painful to watch him suffering. I've been praying every day that God would help him and make a miracle on him. I will pray for John too. Hugs. - Lucy

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herdizziness
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My dear sweet woman, I'm so sorry you both have to go through this.
I give you both my heart and soul during these last days that you share. I wish for a peaceful parting, and thankful he isn't suffering pain.
Enjoy holding him, watching TV, laughing at the funny parts, discussing the news, the togetherness I'm sure is bittersweet, but I'm sure you are both so glad to have these moments.
I'm not sure what to say Paula, my eyes have tears in them over your sorrow, I wish I could have said or done more.
You are in OUR hearts.
Take care you.
Winter Marie

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luv3jay
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Take care, Paula. You and John are in my hearts and prayers.

-Sheri

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msccolon
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praying for strength and comfort for the both of you. I pray today is a "good" day.
mary

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Kerry S
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Paula,
Please tell JR that I hope he has an easy time with this part of his journey. May you stay strong for yourself and JR.

Kerry

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ktlcs
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Believe me I know hpw hard this is and will me. Cherish this time you still have together and it this truly is the end his journey, may it be peaceful

Kathy

Luv2lunch
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Paula,
I'm so sorry. You both are in our daily prayers.
God bless,
Linda and Ellie

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Nana b
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Paula, my thoughts are with you!

Take care of yourself, and please try and get some rest. As hard as that may be. hugs!

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