John (JR)

Paula G.
Paula G. Member Posts: 596
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Hello everyone,
I have lost track of everyone on the board. My focus has been on John. He isn't doing good at all. He isn't eating much at all. Hospice is coming once a week. I feel so helpless. We still talk and watch TV together. I do know it won't be long.

All of you keep up the fight. You all are in my heart because you have helped me so much. Thanks a bunch.
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  • pepebcn
    pepebcn Member Posts: 6,331 Member
    #2
    Paula , feel so sorry about JR news, hope no any pain.
    Keep strengthens but take care of you too , I will pray for you and JR Today.
    Lots of Hugs!.
  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #3
    Hugs to you both
    Dear Paula,

    I am so sorry that John is not doing well. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you.

    My prayers for you both.

    Marie who loves kitties
  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
    #4
    Lovekitties said:

    Hugs to you both
    Dear Paula,

    I am so sorry that John is not doing well. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you.

    My prayers for you both.

    Marie who loves kitties

    Dearest Paula
    oh Paula this is heavy news. I am sorry....how very difficult for you ....prayers for both you and John and some hugs too

    maggie
  • Paula G.
    Paula G. Member Posts: 596
    #5
    pepebcn said:

    Paula , feel so sorry about JR news, hope no any pain.
    Keep strengthens but take care of you too , I will pray for you and JR Today.
    Lots of Hugs!.

    You no it's crazy he only
    You no it's crazy he only takes ibprofen. He says he isn't in that much pain. I hope it remains that way. The nurse said some people don't have much pain others have a lot.

    John hates to take any medication. I can't believe he did so much Chemo and did well on it for a long time until the last one. Just couldn't do it anymore. I do understand. Still hard!
  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
    #6
    I am thinking of you both
    I am sorry, Paula, + my thoughts are with you + John.
  • idlehunters
    idlehunters Member Posts: 1,787 Member
    #7
    maglets said:

    Dearest Paula
    oh Paula this is heavy news. I am sorry....how very difficult for you ....prayers for both you and John and some hugs too

    maggie

    My Dear Friend Paula...
    I wish I had words that could ease YOUR pain. I know this has got to be the hardest thing ever! I think of you guys every day and pray for you too. Call me if you want to talk.... anytime of the day or night.... or just call and we will cry together... Give JR a big hug for me... Love you both....

    Jennie
  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    #8
    Hi Paula:
    I am so sorry you are going thru this. You are honoring John's request of "no more", and as a caregiver that is difficult to accept. You are so much stronger than you realize in honoring his wishes. Use the time you have with John just doing everyday things together, talking, laughing, remembering your time together.

    I think of you often.

    Take care - Tina
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    #9
    Paula, I'm sending warm hugs...
    To you both!

    I'm glad John's pain is managable....that makes things a bit easier! It still is heartwrenching...I'm putting my arms around you both...

    Hugs, Kathi
  • Jaylo969
    Jaylo969 Member Posts: 824 Member
    #10
    Paula & JR
    My thoughts and prayers are with you both.I know this is so hard for both of you. Love & hugs and wish I could do more.

    -Pat
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    #11
    Paula & John
    You're both in my thoughts. I know it must not be easy at all for either of you. I can understand things in a way from both sides. My 91 yr old Mom is going to be starting hospice care at some point in the very near future. Her kidneys are failing. She's home and with those who love her. I get tired of treatments too sometimes.
    As much as it stinks, we sometimes have to go through rough times.
    Just know that so many of us are thinking of you both.
    hugs
    -phil
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #12
    PhillieG said:

    Paula & John
    You're both in my thoughts. I know it must not be easy at all for either of you. I can understand things in a way from both sides. My 91 yr old Mom is going to be starting hospice care at some point in the very near future. Her kidneys are failing. She's home and with those who love her. I get tired of treatments too sometimes.
    As much as it stinks, we sometimes have to go through rough times.
    Just know that so many of us are thinking of you both.
    hugs
    -phil

    Paula
    I am sorry

    michelle
  • Lori-S
    Lori-S Member Posts: 1,277 Member
    #13
    Paula
    I'm sending prayers and HUGS to you both
  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
    #14
    Paula and John
    Paula and John,
    I am so sorry you are at this stage of this journey. I pray that your pain is minimal John and that the two of you have many good moments together. Paula, you have been a wonderful wife to John. I know the love the two of you have is so dear. I am keeping you in my prayers.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen
  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #15
    Sorry
    Sorry he isn't doing well. Please tell him that we are all thinking of him. Your top priority is spending time with him. This board will always be here so don't worry about us. Thanks for checking in.

    Kim
  • Kathryn_in_MN
    Kathryn_in_MN Member Posts: 1,252 Member
    #16
    Hugs
    I'm sending you big hugs. I'm so sorry you are coming close to the time of saying goodbye. I am happy to hear he doesn't have much pain though - at least you don't have to watch him suffer so badly as some go through. I still can't imagine being in your shoes. I'm glad you have hospice to help you. I hope you have other friends and family to give you the support you need right now too. Cherish the time you have left with JR - that comes first before anything else right now.
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #17
    Kathryn_in_MN said:

    Hugs
    I'm sending you big hugs. I'm so sorry you are coming close to the time of saying goodbye. I am happy to hear he doesn't have much pain though - at least you don't have to watch him suffer so badly as some go through. I still can't imagine being in your shoes. I'm glad you have hospice to help you. I hope you have other friends and family to give you the support you need right now too. Cherish the time you have left with JR - that comes first before anything else right now.

    Love and prayers to you both Paula.....
    No words to say how sorry I am to hear this...make the memories with each other now that will help give you some peace later.....Love to you both, Clift
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    #18
    P & J
    I'm with the group on all that has been said...

    -Craig
  • okthen
    okthen Member Posts: 232
    #19
    Sundanceh said:

    P & J
    I'm with the group on all that has been said...

    -Craig

    Just wanted you to know that
    Just wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and John. I am so sorry to read your post and wish you both peaceful moments together in the days to come.
    Stay strong!
    Chriss
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #20
    Oh, dear
    I'm so sorry, Paula. I so wish things could be different. I'm praying for you both.

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • Aud
    Aud Member Posts: 479 Member
    #21
    Paula
    I am so sorry you and John are having to go through this. love, comfort, and hope to you both. Holding you both in the Light.
    ~Aud

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