With a heavy heart I post for my wife, RIP

idarochny Member Posts: 13
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
My wife Ida passed away a month ago. That evil colon cancer took her away from us after an excruciatingly short yet intense 17 month battle. Sorry it has taken me so long to post about her passing. This is a terribly difficult thing to do. I miss her so much.

Ida spent countless hours on the CCR forum during her ordeal. She rarely posted, but she found so much comfort and support from all of your writings. She would read me many of the posts because she either liked the writer, or the subject was directly related to her treatment. Heck, some of the posts were hilarious too! Ida liked those a lot :)

There are some amazing people on this forum and their eloquence helped us find words that fit our feelings. I can't describe how much they helped Ida get through this. Thank you all for sharing your stories, cases, treatments and lives with others who share a common frightening bond.

I wish everyone the strength they need to continue their fights, and pray that each and every day medical research finds more ways to defeat cancer.



  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    So sorry

    I'm so sorry about your wife. I'm glad that the posts here helped her in her trial with the beast. Thank you for telling us about her.

    If you need to talk more, please come back and be part of the group.


    P.S. My beloved grandmother's name was Ida. *smiles*
  • Aud
    Aud Member Posts: 479
    Dear Nick
    I am so sorry for the loss of your dear wife, Ida. It's good to know that this place helped her. Holding you in the Light for comfort.
  • Erinb
    Erinb Member Posts: 293
    I'm so sorry for the loss of
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife. I'm glad she found the board and found humor & comfort in many of the posts.
  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,715 Member
    So sorry for your loss. It sure is hard to lose someone you love to cancer. Thank you so much for letting us know about your wife and that this board was able to help her, even through laughter. May God be with you through this time.

  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673
    I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad Ida found some comfort here; I do as well. Thank you for letting us know.
  • chicoturner
    chicoturner Member Posts: 282
    Nick Thank you for signing
    Nick Thank you for signing in and letting us know about Ida. I guess really we will never know how many people read what is written here or how many people need this contact. I know how important it is to me. You and your family will be in my prayers. Best to you. Jean
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    ....and very heartfelt, Nick!

    One gets a sense of what you are feeling and the emotions that you are trying to express at this time. I remember your wife on some of her posts - so glad she was able to find some comfort here with everyone. It has been a lifesaver for so many of us, who are in this deadly fight.

    I want to thank you for the update on your wife - know that it cannot be an easy thing to do, so kudos to you for letting us all know. We will all miss her on the board and I know she fought fiercely, as you say.

    Best regards,
  • lisa42
    lisa42 Member Posts: 3,625
    RIP Ida
    Hi Nick,

    Please accept my heartfelt sympathy and condolences on the passing of Ida. I am so glad that this board was a helpful place for Ida to come and that, you too, also appreciated what she read to you from the posts.

    I am so sorry you lost your wife to this monstrous beast of a disease. I do hope and am now praying that your grief will be overcome by sweet, funny memories and good times spent with your wife- that those times will soon overshadow the memories of her illness and all that it took.

    Blessings to you in your future-
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028
    I never say goodbye....
    She has just moved....from in front of your eyes, into your heart, where she will live on forever....

    BIG hugs, Kathi
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030
    KathiM said:

    I never say goodbye....
    She has just moved....from in front of your eyes, into your heart, where she will live on forever....

    BIG hugs, Kathi

    Very sad!
    So sorry to hear this news. My sincere condolences. Raquel
  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111
    Dear Nick:
    I am so sorry for the loss of our wife Ida.

    The support this board gives both patients and caregivers going through the cancer journey is priceless.

    Take care for now and take it one day at a time. If you feel up to it please come back and let us know how things are going for you and your family. You are a part of or semi-colon family.

    Sincerly - Tina
  • pluckey
    pluckey Member Posts: 484
    Nick- thank you for sharing
    Nick- thank you for sharing what this board meant to you and Ida. I wish you peace and comfort during your next steps in your life.


  • dorookie
    dorookie Member Posts: 1,731
    So Sorry
    for your loss, this thing is just horrible, it takes away so many people. I am very glad she found some comfort here on the board. She is right there are some very awesome people here. Please know you are welcome anytime, we actually have a few that have stayed even after losing their family member. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    So very sorry
    Dear Nick,

    I am so very sorry to hear of Ida's passing.

    Thank you for your kind words about the folks here. I am glad it was of some help or comfort to her. One of the few good things about our situation is that we have found each other and can support or be supported through this disease.

    I hope that you and your family are finding each day that your loving memories of Ida help to ease the loss.

    Marie who loves kitties
  • HollyID
    HollyID Member Posts: 946
    My most heartfelt sympathies on the passing of Ida.

    I think it's great that she loved coming here and enjoying the posts.

    Heaven again, has another angel in Ida.

    God Bless you and your family.

  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576
    HollyID said:

    My most heartfelt sympathies on the passing of Ida.

    I think it's great that she loved coming here and enjoying the posts.

    Heaven again, has another angel in Ida.

    God Bless you and your family.


    Nick may I say how sorry I am on the passing of Ida. I too enjoyed her posts and her picture always made me feel so close to her....another cat lover.

    Please accept my deepest sympathy and know that she was so well loved here.

  • CherylHutch
    CherylHutch Member Posts: 1,375
    My condolences
    Nick, I'm so sorry to hear about Ida. What a journey you have been on while Ida fought her battle. It's not something you will ever ever forget, yet as time goes on you will come to realize that you were privileged to share the ultimate in intimacy where there are no words in the English language to describe the bonding, the love, the vision you shared with Ida and she with you.

    I know you are hurting and feeling the loss, so even coming here to the support board where Ida spent so much time reading might be a little overwhelming to you right now. But this board is not just for those of us who are fighting the battle of cancer, it is also for all the caregivers who are fighting along with their loved ones, as well as trying to deal with their own journey of being a caregiver, and then there are those who are now on their own, having lost someone to this horrid disease.... and everyone in between. If you have been touched by colorectal cancer in any way, this support board is for you... and you will find we ALL will reach out to you and welcome you to the group. Not because it is the polite, neighbourly thing to do, but because we all understand exactly what you have gone through in this battle... and that automatically makes you a member of our club. We hate the reason why you have to be here, but we would love to have you come here and know you have friends who are willing to listen or even may, in our odd little ways, be able to entertain you.

    So please, come back whenever... and know the welcome mat is always there for you, and there will always be a lit candle in the window so that Ida will know you are going to be ok.


  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342
    So sorry for your tremendous loss. You are in my prayers.

  • betina61
    betina61 Member Posts: 642
    Oh Nick
    I am so sorry for your lost,I hope that you find peace and acceptance.
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624
    So sorry
    Dear Nick,

    Words cannot express my sorrow at the loss of your beloved.

    I know how difficult it must have been to post this news for us, my husband found he could not post about my cancer to one of his friends, it was too difficult for him to put into words, so I know that with Ida's passing, it was with the greatest of difficulties for you to let us know. And we thank you so much for that. We too, find we must mourn those that have left us on this board. We see, we hear and our hearts are touched by everyone here, and we our saddened deeply at every loss, for we feel we know each other. So that is why I'm thanking you for posting, we are not left wondering why we no longer hear about or from her, and we can properly mourn her passing on.

    I'm am glad that some of the posts gave her laughter, I'm sure Kerry was one she must of laughed along with a lot. I'm grateful for all the posters on this board as well.

    We are here for you, if you need to talk, to vent, or to share memories.

    My heartfelt sympathies.

    Winter Marie