Romance - What do you do?

nudgie · August 2009

Since so many of us women have issue with romance and intimancy pre and post treatments, I thought it would be a good idea to pass along what has helped to keep the romance going?

Here is what we have done:

a) Sexy teddies
b) White muscle t-shirt only
c) Watching movies
d) Bath with bubbles and candles
e) Beach atmoshpere - balcony area

f) Romantic get-a-ways - started in 2007 and have continued - BEST IDEA
g) Waiting for long periods than letting emotions and feelings take over - REALLY good sex

h) Lubricants

What is funny, sex is not high on my list, but my hubby could have it every day, twice a day. We are totally opposite, but he completely UNDERSTANDS!!!!!

Annabelle41415 · August 2009

Intimacy
Right now, to be honest, that is the last thing on my mind. I have pain from surgery, an ostomy, and pain if we try. Although my husband is understanding, I feel bad for him.

I do agree that there is more to intimacy than making love and I totally agree with your ideas above, they are all wonderful suggestions.

I'm sure once my chemo is done and I have my energy things will change.

Kim

eric38 · August 2009

Annabelle41415 said:
Intimacy
Right now, to be honest, that is the last thing on my mind. I have pain from surgery, an ostomy, and pain if we try. Although my husband is understanding, I feel bad for him.

I do agree that there is more to intimacy than making love and I totally agree with your ideas above, they are all wonderful suggestions.

I'm sure once my chemo is done and I have my energy things will change.

Kim

A few suggestions
A few suggestions:
a)Swinging from chandeliers
b)Strobe lights
c)Stripper pole
d)Video cam
e)Monkey suit

Eric } : . }

Julie 44 · August 2009

eric38 said:
A few suggestions
A few suggestions:
a)Swinging from chandeliers
b)Strobe lights
c)Stripper pole
d)Video cam
e)Monkey suit

Eric } : . }

Ha Ha
OMG Eric you are to funny........No monkey suit everything else sounds good...............JULIE

Buzzard · August 2009

Julie 44 said:
Ha Ha
OMG Eric you are to funny........No monkey suit everything else sounds good...............JULIE

Hmmmm.......
I think a hamburger and a good bowl of beans would be a lot less trouble........

bdee · August 2009

Annabelle41415 said:
Intimacy
Right now, to be honest, that is the last thing on my mind. I have pain from surgery, an ostomy, and pain if we try. Although my husband is understanding, I feel bad for him.

I do agree that there is more to intimacy than making love and I totally agree with your ideas above, they are all wonderful suggestions.

I'm sure once my chemo is done and I have my energy things will change.

Kim

Intimacy
Sex is far from what I'm looking forward to right now. The one time since my surgery that we tried, I bled for a couple of hours. Avastin, thanks a lot. But I understand my husband's needs and he's tense enough with work and taking care of me on my chemo weeks, so I "take care" of him. This may not be what some of you want to hear, but I feel like he takes care of me so well, that I really want to reciprocate. You notice I said "want to" this isn't mandatory and I always initiate the process. I don't even want to think about "doing the deed" myself, but I don't want him to "suffer" because of me.

mommyof2kds · August 2009

eric38 said:
A few suggestions
A few suggestions:
a)Swinging from chandeliers
b)Strobe lights
c)Stripper pole
d)Video cam
e)Monkey suit

Eric } : . }

what a sense of humor you
what a sense of humor you have,, made me laugh out loud....

tootsie1 · August 2009

eric38 said:
A few suggestions
A few suggestions:
a)Swinging from chandeliers
b)Strobe lights
c)Stripper pole
d)Video cam
e)Monkey suit

Eric } : . }

*raises eyebrows*
Where to start with you, you naughty boy! You're a mess, but you always make us laugh.

*hugs*
Gail

tiny one · August 2009

eric38 said:
A few suggestions
A few suggestions:
a)Swinging from chandeliers
b)Strobe lights
c)Stripper pole
d)Video cam
e)Monkey suit

Eric } : . }

Now that I'd like to see,
Now that I'd like to see, someone swingin from a chandelier. For me it would be nakedness on a tractor, nothin but a tool belt on. And man cookin in the kitchen. Gets my blood goin.

Shayenne · August 2009

bdee said:
Intimacy
Sex is far from what I'm looking forward to right now. The one time since my surgery that we tried, I bled for a couple of hours. Avastin, thanks a lot. But I understand my husband's needs and he's tense enough with work and taking care of me on my chemo weeks, so I "take care" of him. This may not be what some of you want to hear, but I feel like he takes care of me so well, that I really want to reciprocate. You notice I said "want to" this isn't mandatory and I always initiate the process. I don't even want to think about "doing the deed" myself, but I don't want him to "suffer" because of me.

I think....
...the monkey suit sounds sorta interesting LOL...

Hugsss!
~Donna

krystle singer · August 2009

eric38 said:
A few suggestions
A few suggestions:
a)Swinging from chandeliers
b)Strobe lights
c)Stripper pole
d)Video cam
e)Monkey suit

Eric } : . }

Great ideas!
Love the stripper pole one! Not sure how I'd do at climbing one, but do have a picture of me posing on a pole at my girl friend's swimming pool. Not too bad! But then, I'm a real ham anyway. My husband liked the picture even if no one else did. It was just one of the poles on her gazebo, but one must make good use of what one can find!

Cute, Eric!

Hugs, Sandi

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