Chemo or Not

Burlington01803
Burlington01803 Member Posts: 5
edited March 2014 in Prostate Cancer #1
My husband's prostate cancer has spread to his spine and ribs. He is 88 years old and I'm wondering if anyone his age has gone through chemotherapy and would like to know what the outcome was. It seems quite pointless but if there is a chance it will help, he wants to do it. Please let me know of any pros or cons. Thanks!

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  • ld34
    ld34 Member Posts: 24
    chemo or not
    I noticed that you have not received any comments concerning your husband and the choice of chemo or not. This is probably not an accident. I think, it is just because no one has a definitive answer and I will add, very quickly , that I don't either. But this I do know, you must be going through a very difficult time.
    I wish you well.

    Talk to your doctor,maybe ask him .." If this were your Dad or 'your' 88 year old wife, what would you do"

    Everyone on this site is here for a reason, looking for hope, looking for an answer ,looking for understanding.

    I am glad you wrote ,keep looking,keep thinking,keep talking to your husband,keep praying.
    You will, along with your husband, make the decision that is right for you.

    with love and compassion
  • lewvino
    lewvino Member Posts: 1,010
    Your husbands doctor should
    Your husbands doctor should be able to give you pro's and con's of chemo. I'm not sure if I was 88 that I would want to endure chemo but as you know every person is different in their choices and how they handle chemo.

    Best wishes to you and your husband during this time.

    Larry
  • 2ndBase
    2ndBase Member Posts: 220
    Chemo
    I am 58 and my cancer has spread to my bones and I personally will not ever take chemo. At best it may give me 6 months. My wife died of breast cancer 10 years ago and had all the possible treatments along with chemo. Her last few months were a living hell. Thank God for the morphine. Chemo at 88 seems like a punishment rather than a solution.
  • Burlington01803
    Burlington01803 Member Posts: 5
    questions on chemo
    Thank you so much to those who answered my question about chemo. You all showed such compassion, caring and understanding.It's nice to know that there are people who will take the time to help in whatever way they can. May God bless you.
  • Burlington01803
    Burlington01803 Member Posts: 5
    ld34 said:

    chemo or not
    I noticed that you have not received any comments concerning your husband and the choice of chemo or not. This is probably not an accident. I think, it is just because no one has a definitive answer and I will add, very quickly , that I don't either. But this I do know, you must be going through a very difficult time.
    I wish you well.

    Talk to your doctor,maybe ask him .." If this were your Dad or 'your' 88 year old wife, what would you do"

    Everyone on this site is here for a reason, looking for hope, looking for an answer ,looking for understanding.

    I am glad you wrote ,keep looking,keep thinking,keep talking to your husband,keep praying.
    You will, along with your husband, make the decision that is right for you.

    with love and compassion

    Thank you so much. Your
    Thank you so much. Your words were very helpful and comforting. Yes, prayer is getting us through this difficult time. God bless you.
  • Burlington01803
    Burlington01803 Member Posts: 5
    lewvino said:

    Your husbands doctor should
    Your husbands doctor should be able to give you pro's and con's of chemo. I'm not sure if I was 88 that I would want to endure chemo but as you know every person is different in their choices and how they handle chemo.

    Best wishes to you and your husband during this time.

    Larry

    Thank you,Larry. You were so
    Thank you,Larry. You were so kind to answer.
  • Burlington01803
    Burlington01803 Member Posts: 5
    2ndBase said:

    Chemo
    I am 58 and my cancer has spread to my bones and I personally will not ever take chemo. At best it may give me 6 months. My wife died of breast cancer 10 years ago and had all the possible treatments along with chemo. Her last few months were a living hell. Thank God for the morphine. Chemo at 88 seems like a punishment rather than a solution.

    Thank you for taking the
    Thank you for taking the time to answer me - during this difficult time in your life.My prayers are with you.