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Tessyann's picture
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It is with a heart broken heart that I am witting this to let you all know my husband Ben passed away this morning at around 6:30 am

Ben has battled stage 3 that had recurred 4 more times including now for 14 years
A few weeks back we where told it had returned again this time not only in his pelvic but in both lungs. When having a port installed we found out that Bens only working kidney his right one( he lost the use of his left one in 96 ) was failing. He had been in the hospital just shy of 2 week and had tubes placed both in his side to his kidney and from his kidney to his bladder and the toxin level in his blood was getting better. So much so he might have been able to come home this weekend and was to start chemo in 2 weeks. When for reason unknown he died this morning in his sleep.

The last thing I told him last night when we spoke on the phone before bed was how very proud I was of him and how much I loved him and couldn't wait till he came home.

Ben would have been 53 tomorrow Feb 18th
I am 46
We have been married just shy of 26 years
and have 3 children and 2 grandchildren

MCarr's picture
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I am sorry for your loss, and it sounds like Ben was a courageous man that you should be very proud of.
We will keep your Family in our thoughts and prayers.

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So sorry to hear that Ben passed. I have been following your recent posts and had been hoping he would be fine. He put up a great fight and was very lucky to have you help him in it. He is at peace now and I hope that you and your family will find comfort in that. You are in our prayers.


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Tessyann,I am so sorry for you and your family, how brave your husband was fighting this desease for 14 years, and still willing to continue fighting in just 2 weeks, is amazing, probably he was doing it for you and your family, but maybe God love him so much that he didn't wanted him to suffer anymore, and he passed away so peacefully, it is so hard to loose a love one, but I pray that God give you peace and acceptance. Betina

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I am very, very sorry to hear of Ben's passing. Though I am happy to read that he passed in his sleep with little or no pain. It sounds as if he was very loved.

Best wishes,

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Oh, (((((Tessyann))))))
I'm so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. His courage in the face of this disease has been amazing. My sympathy to you and your family; he sounds like quite a wonderful man.
Wishing you comfort, Judy

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{{{{{{ so sorry }}}}}

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I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Your husband was a very brave man to battle this monster for 14 years and you are a very courageous woman. I'm sure he was just as proud of you as you were of him and I'm just as sure he is at peace now and I pray it may be of some consolation to you to know that he is no longer suffering and is in a much better place. May God Bless you and keep you in His care always.

My Deepest Sympathy,

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We have to trust that God had a better plan that we may never understand for your very couragous and brave husband. Fourteen years is a heck of a fight. I cried when you wrote what your last conversation ended with.

I pray that for you and your family to find peace and comfort in knowing that he no longer has to fight and is in no more pain. I pray that you will find strength to carry through.

With Sympathy,


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Tessyann -

i am so sorry to learn of your loss. iknow nothing any of us can say or do right now will make you feel any less saddened, but just know we're here for you - and we hope you will continue to come here and be among friends.

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

- SpongeBob

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hi tessy,
i am so sorry to hear of your loss.
your husband was a strong person.
my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
be well

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Oh Tessyann,

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Please come back when you can to this site knowing that we will still be here to support you.

Lisa F.

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Ben was indeed a very strong man with an absolutely wonderful wife. I am saddened by the news of his passing but love that you got to talk to him just hours before. He fought so hard for so long. I will remember him and continue the fight in his honor if that is okay with you.

Lisa P.

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Tessyann -

I am so terribly sorry to hear this. Your husband fought a good fight and you were a great wife to him.

I am so very sorry that this happened.

Take care,

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Please know that I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers..Audrey

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I am so sorry to you and your family. I have been thinking of you and Ben and was praying that everything went well with the surgery that Monday.
Your husband was a fighter and I pray for you and your family. May the fond memories you share together help you heal with your grief. If you ever need to talk please email me.

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I am so very sorry that your husband has passed away.

My prayers go out to you and your family.

How wonderful that you could have 26 years together and share the added joy of experiencing grandchildren.

I hope you find comfort somewhere and somehow in the weeks and months to come.

peace, emily

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We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Our prayers are with you and your family.
God Bless,
Carl and Heather

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I am so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers.

God bless,


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May you find comfort in knowing that Ben touched the lives of so many others and gave them the gift of many happy memories. May these memories help bring you through this sad time. Rest in knowing that you and Ben had 26 years together and your last conversation was still sprinkled with love, admiration and hope.
You have my deepest sympathies.

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he was indeed fortunate to have you and your support. I never know how to respond to this kind of post.. I am alone in my fight, and I often wonder how it will all end; like Ben, you just don't know..With the exception that you didn't have the opportunity to say goodbye,his passing in his sleep is a blessing to you both when I consider the suffering I have witnessed on this board over the years. he is my prayers. Stay here and help others.. bud

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I am so sorry to hear of your husband's passing and I relate to the pain and sadness you are experiencing. I lost my sweet husband 4 months ago and every day without him is a struggle. He turned 56 while in the hospital. You and your family are in my prayers.

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i am so sorry to hear this news, my heart goes out to you and your children. Ben was a brave man and fought for a long time. may god bless you and be with you at this time. sending hugs to you now.

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I am so sorry to hear about Ben's passing. Please know that you and your family will continue to be in my prayers.
God bless-

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I am so sorry. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you feel comfortable coming back to the site often for comments and comfort. All the best to you and wishing you peace and strength - Maura

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I'm so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. I'm thinking of you and sending positive thoughts to you and your family.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. Ben fought such a valiant fight and was a role model for many of us. My heart goes out to you and the rest of your family during this difficult time. God bless.

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I was deeply sorry to hear your sad news.

You and your family are in my prayers.

Virginia from NZ.

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I am so sorry to hear about your husband's passing. Having fought the beast for 14 years proves he was strong. Nothing can take away the sting you are feeling right now, but please know that we will all hold a special place in our hearts for Ben, you, and your family.



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Tessyann: Ben sounds like a wonderful man, and someone to learn from and aspire to. My deepest condolences and please know that Ben, and you and your family, are in my prayers. Monica

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My deepest sympathy to you and your family.


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OH, my dear, I am filled with sadness for you. With all of my recent losses, it is easy to be angry, or just withdraw and stop living. PLEASE do NOT do that! Look for something each day that makes you smile....

A warning: As you live on, things will pop up that remind you of him....I have a dear friend who said to me....at such times, feel free to let the grieving go...cry, yell, whatever...so much better than 'being strong' and putting the sadness inside of you.

My mantra....and it DOES help.....He has not left you, just moved from in front of your eyes, into your heart, where he will live on forever.

big, strong, healing hugs,


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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May the memories of the life you shared with Ben comfort you.

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I am so very sorry to hear about Ben and offer heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I'm sure Ben will live on in your children and granchildren..may God bless you and comfort you at this time of sorrow.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. He must have been so courageous, fighting and winning so many battles. I will pray that you have courage like his so that you can be there for your kids and grandkids. Jo Ann

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I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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I'm sorry I never met your husband, it would have been a honor to meet a man who fought so hard for his family.

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I would like to add my prayers! Your husband was a strong man and it sounds like he was as proud of you as you were of him. It takes a strong woman to fight beside her man that long.
God bless you and your family during this time.

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My sincere condolences to you and your family. . .

Lisa Rose

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