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Sorry to be the bearer of such bad news

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Hi all, I hate to even have to share this with you, as I know we all are fighting for our lives. I got CT scan results today. Very, very bad. One in January showed no spread. This one was dated 6/3/05, so it's hard for me to believe that things could have gotten this bad this fast.
It showed multiple new modular densities in lung bases bilaterally. Also new bilateral pleural effusions. New hypoattenuating but slightly heterogeneous focus seen in the right lobe of the liver with a maximum dimesnsion of 1.4cm.There is alsoseen in the retroperitoneum changes. Colon is mildly distended with fluid. Pelvis also shows changes at the sacrum and coccyx. These are large fluid collections. I don't know exactly what all this means other than when he explained that it is in my lungs, liver and pelvic area and that I'm stage 4 and chemo will be changed and if I don't do it, i have 4-6 months and if I do, I have 12-21 monhts. THIS TOTALLY SUCKS!!! Sorry, I can't really write anything else right now. Just know I love you all and you've been the best and I will try to hang on as long as I can.
Love ya, Judy(grandma047)

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Oh Judy! I am soooo sorry to hear your news. I wish there was something magical I could say that would take it all away.

Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. Know that we all care for you and love you. And never forget that miracles happen everyday so keep the faith!!


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hi friend,

I am so sorry about your news. I cannot imagine sitting in the doctor's office and hearing this......I think back to almost 4 years ago when my onc said I had a 30% chance of living if I did NOT do chemo. I surely didn't like hearing those stats so I ignored them.

Judy, I hope you will be open to reading a really good inspiring book-- A Cancer Battle Plan by Anne Frahm. She was given a bad prognosis but changed things around. There is ALWAYS hope!!

Another one is When Hope NEver Dies by Marlene McKenna.

It ain't over til it's over!!

Oh honey, you are and will remain in my daily prayers.


peace, emily

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I am sorry to hear of your news. But, remember the docs aren't God. Only he knows how long each of us have on this earth. I have a friend who was told to get his affairs in order 17 years ago, and he is still here. He had part of his lung removed, chemo soo many times, but he is still here! Don't you give in, you continue to fight, we are all here for you. You are in all of our prayers every day.

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Hi Judy, Iam sorry to hear the news you were given. Please Judy never give up no matter how bad or hard things may be. GOD ONLY KNOWS and I know that being a 3 times survivor Breast, Colon and Colon cancer that metast. to my Liver last Sept. I am still here. Still fighting Still LIVIN. GOD IS GOOD.

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I am sorry, as well, to hear of your most recent news. Know that you are in my prayers. Wishing you peace and strength. Trust in God. He guides us very well.

Much love,

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I am so sorry that you got such bad news! I'm sending positive energy your way!
Stay strong!

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I'm so sorry to hear your news. Take time to process this news, but don't give up hope. I purposely never ask my doctor how long i have, because I know that no one can answer that question and i don't need that kind of negative energy. I am stage 4 too and I'm not ready to give up. Fight this with me!

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Hi Judy, I am so sorry to hear this latest news. I cannot imagine just how you must be feeling but wish you the best...as the other posts say, only God knows how long any of us have. Many people have been given a couple of months and are still here today. Thinking of you,


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Dearest Judy I am so sorry to hear these results but please stay your strong positive self. You know that God is Good and he is the only one that knows all the answers. Put your trust in him completely and you will be able to make it.
You have all our love and support.
God Bless you and your family
Love pj

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Dear Judy You know we have been with you from the start sweetie and will always be here for you, even tho at times I am not able to be on here as often as I would like. Jen and I have you in our hearts. Miracles do happen.......all our love and prayers, Ross and Jen

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Hi Judy,
You are such a strong person and a fighter, I am so sorry to hear of your news. I hope you can get some comfort knowing that we all love you very much and that you are in alot of prayers. Keep fighting Judy..God Bless

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Hi there Judy,

You know we are all here for you. I am so sorry to hear that you are having a rough time of it. I agree that you should not give up. Maybe, like Em was suggesting, maybe now is the time to embrace the juicing and supplements? Maybe you can do it in conjunction with the chemo?

You are all ways in my prayers, Judy. Please let us know what we can do for you.

All my love,


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Oh my goodness... I am so very sorry. make every moment count.

You have never left my thoughts and prayers.. it will continue. You have prayers in your name all over this world. You have touched so many people, continue to do so.

Be well. I hope you aren't hurting. Try to keep your mind relaxed and clear.

love, jana

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Oh Judy, I am so sorry to hear that. I will include you in my prayers. I know how much that means to you

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I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this. Like someone else here has already said, there are so many people that were given a "timeframe" that they have already exceeded. Doctors give information based on statistics. Every person is different and even if you are going through some difficulties right now it doesn't mean that you can't pull through this in the end. You can !!! There is always hope and miracles and only God knows what his plan is for you no matter what things look like right at this moment.

Have you tried a nutritional approach in the past ? I agree with Emily's philosophy on this. My Dad was given less than 6 months to live ( the Dr. actually just told us that recently). He is approaching the 1 year mark this month. Although it's like pulling teeth to get him to juice now, I got him to do it in the beginning and I firmly believe that it gave his body what it needed to start fighting the cancer itself. In the face of poor prognosis my father continues to be NED and have more energy than he has in years. My father is beating the odds he was given and Judy, you can too. Don't you give up. You have alot of supporters here and you are in a lot of prayers. Stay strong and fight this.

Best Wishes,

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I am so so sorry to hear this horrendous news... please know that I will continue praying for you. Please keep fighting -- miracles do happen and God does listen to our prayers,

Take care of yourself,


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judy i am sorry to hear of your news. i know to well what that is like. my prog is not good either but i will fight. once you sort out that talk of a time frame remember as people have said that first God is the giver of all life and He is the only one who knows your time. second docs do go by the standard of care and stats that go with it. you remain in my prayers and may God guide and direct you and give you peace.


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Judy: Although your stage IV dx is not good news, there could still be some choices. Ask your Dr about enrollment in a trial; there are no guarantees in a trial, but sometimes it is the only way to gain access to a possible life-saving protocol.. Bud

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As always, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Judy honey,

Ignore the durn numbers. I got that same song and dance last March. According to my doc, I am supposed to die in 6 months. The numbers are an average and for average people. I HAVE NEVER CONSIDERED MYSELF AVERAGE OR normal for that matter, but that's another story. There are things you can do to help yourself if you are willing to work at it a little. I did the juicing diet change in November and do not regret it one bit. I look great and feel really good right now. I just spent 5 hours with my 81 year old Dad eating out and doing some shopping for him. He actually asked me if I still had cancer. When I said yes, but not like I did, he was surprised. He said I looked better now then I did 5 years ago.

Let me know if you want to know more about what I am doing, I would be happy to share.

Hugs honey and fight the beast with everything you can. I know you will. I will continue to keep you in my daily thoughts and prayers!!!!

Lisa P.

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I am so sorry to hear that you have gorren this news. My heart is mighty heavy thnking about how you are feeling. I will pray for you every day and I agree with the others who said that the numbers are averages and someone has got to beat the odds or they wouldn't be odds, now would they?

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Sorry to hear the news. As some of the other folks have said, the Drs aren't know it alls, they've been wrong before. Stay positive and take it one day at a time. You are in my thoughts...

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Hi Judy...I've always been inspired and impressed with your fight, just keep it up as long as you can. God bless you. Jimmy

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Judy keep up your fight. Keep looking for options and in the 21 months that he has given you LOTS of new treatments will be out there. I am really sorry that you had to hear this news.

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Judy... I did not want to here this. Please consider the advise on juicing and nutritional changes. What can it hurt?... and it just might give you a miracle. It's been done! Don't give up and throw in the towel yet. We're always here to help and comfort no matter what. Luvn prayers~ Wanda .... aka..xcw

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Oh dear sister in battle,
what can we say? It is terrible to hear and scary to imagine, to say the least, how you must feel. We are soooo sorry for you and for us. I really do not know what to say-- I will lift you to the throne of the One Who holds all the answers. That He will give you peace, strength and health!!! Comfort yourself in Him. My prayers for you will continue. blessings, neelieC

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Judy, so sorry to hear your news. Please try and stay positive. Keep your chin up!


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Oh, Judy, I'm sorry you have to bear such news. My prayers are with you; continue to find strength; love and hugs to you and hubby.
the other Judy

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dear judy: i am praying for you: i know GOD is able to keep you and dr's are not GOD! HE knows the length of life and we will keep praying to HIM: try the juicing: folic acid: ALOE VERA JUICE; my mother was also admitted to hospital on 060905 with fluid in the abdomen: what does this mean when your body fills up with fluid???

you are in my prayers...
St John 14:27..." peace i leave with you"...
words of JESUS

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Grandma047 Judy,


From your 16,500+ friends and family/grandsons and daughters and to those who are yet to be touched by your testimony

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Judy, I was so sad to read this latest entry. You have fought so hard to do everything possible to prevent this fromspreading but I guess it really shows how much ofthe progress of this illness is out of ourown hands. There is little I can say that could ease what you must be going through at this moment. My only advise is to give yourself a little time to readjust before making any decisions about how you want to progress. Being restaged like this is simialr to being given the diagnosis in the first place- you need to adjust and get your head around- even go through the simialr stages you wnt through the first time like getting angry, getting depressed etc. In time it will settle and things will feel clearer again but allow yourself a period of readjusting.
If you would like I would happily spend some time translating the CT report into English for you- just email me and I'll do my best with the jargon.
In the meantime use this site as much as you need to and my thoughts are with you,

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keeping you in my thoughts and prayers

love ramona

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Judy, I don't even know whether or not you're still reading this thread. I was away from this board for the last couple of weeks and the first thing I did was turn back to your restaging news. I have been thinking of you so intensively, hoping for the best, dreading the worst.

Now I know what you heard. You must have been devastated. I wonder how the news is settling in with you. Are you finding strength and courage? I loved reading through the many wise and supportive letters here. They give ME strength to face what comes next...

I noticed that there's another thread about you started just recently so I'm going to that one next. Meanwhile, know that our hearts are with you.

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