Impotence/ 4 months after prostatectomy

jmmdad
jmmdad Member Posts: 6
edited March 2014 in Prostate Cancer #1
Does anyone have this problem or am I alone? I am still impotent, but able to have climax; however, at the point of climax, I emit urine. A very embarrassing situation, even though my wife is very understanding. Am using viagra, but not good enough, yet; still hopeing.

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  • henryev
    henryev Member Posts: 8
    You are not alone. The same happened to me. My desire remained intact, but I ejaculated urine, instead of semen. My wife is also understanding, and my attraction to her remains. I am afraid that Viagra won't help, for it improves erection, but does not change the contents of the ejaculated fluid.
  • henryev
    henryev Member Posts: 8
    You are not alone. My surgeon said he would attempt "nerve-sparing" surgery. But I had the same outcome. Desire and climax were intact, but urine, not semen, was emitted.
  • jwaites
    jwaites Member Posts: 1
    I am 3 months out. I am 46. I am using the injections and things are going great. You can email me at [email protected] with any questions. Injections are not painful and really controlled erections. I have not had the problem with urine after orgasism.
  • sparktrician44
    sparktrician44 Member Posts: 4
    Your impotent and can achieve climax, how does that work. I have had a prostectamy about a month ago and still impotent and nothing is happening other thatn incontenace respectafully sparktrician44
  • Sailor1988
    Sailor1988 Member Posts: 23

    Your impotent and can achieve climax, how does that work. I have had a prostectamy about a month ago and still impotent and nothing is happening other thatn incontenace respectafully sparktrician44

    I'm new to this discussion having just had my radical prostatectomy three weeks ago (Nov 20). My catheter was removed 8 days ago and I am having problems (as expected) with incontinence. I am relatively dry overnight but pretty much lose control as I stand up or do anything at all strenuous. I understand from reading and from my doctor that total dryness might take several months or longer. I do the kegle exercises several times a day and as I feel the urge to urinate. How often have others done the exercise each day and what were the results? What has been the general experience from others? And I too, am curious as to the orgasm without erection. (I have urges at this point but am still impotent with no sign of an erection.) At what point did your doctor allow you to try Viagra? Thanks for any advise in advance and for sharing your experiences. I'm a little "down" at this point, even though I knew in advance what was in store for us. The good news was that the cancer was organ-contained and we thank heavens for that.
  • jmmdad
    jmmdad Member Posts: 6

    I'm new to this discussion having just had my radical prostatectomy three weeks ago (Nov 20). My catheter was removed 8 days ago and I am having problems (as expected) with incontinence. I am relatively dry overnight but pretty much lose control as I stand up or do anything at all strenuous. I understand from reading and from my doctor that total dryness might take several months or longer. I do the kegle exercises several times a day and as I feel the urge to urinate. How often have others done the exercise each day and what were the results? What has been the general experience from others? And I too, am curious as to the orgasm without erection. (I have urges at this point but am still impotent with no sign of an erection.) At what point did your doctor allow you to try Viagra? Thanks for any advise in advance and for sharing your experiences. I'm a little "down" at this point, even though I knew in advance what was in store for us. The good news was that the cancer was organ-contained and we thank heavens for that.

    I know how you feel, but don't be depressed. The fact that you are dry overnight is a sign that you are regaining control. I was the same way and I feel confident within a few weeks you will be much better. Just hang in there. I felt if I could just get over the incontenence, I could take care of the rest later, and that't the way it has been. I am 9 months post RP now; still do not have my potency back (the Vacuum Pump works well for me at this time) but I'm still hopeing for normal erections in time. Viagra does not work for me, but maybe it will for you. My Uro gave me samples about 6 to 8 weeks after surgery.

    About the orgasms without erections; I, too, was surprised when the Uro told me it was possible; aparently, the two are not completely connected. If the penis is stimulated, it is possible!

    Again, don't be too far "down" and keep up the kegle exercises; things WILL get better, and just remember your cancer WAS organ-contained, and that's the big thing!

    Wishing you all the best,
    Jmmdad
  • Sailor1988
    Sailor1988 Member Posts: 23
    jmmdad said:

    I know how you feel, but don't be depressed. The fact that you are dry overnight is a sign that you are regaining control. I was the same way and I feel confident within a few weeks you will be much better. Just hang in there. I felt if I could just get over the incontenence, I could take care of the rest later, and that't the way it has been. I am 9 months post RP now; still do not have my potency back (the Vacuum Pump works well for me at this time) but I'm still hopeing for normal erections in time. Viagra does not work for me, but maybe it will for you. My Uro gave me samples about 6 to 8 weeks after surgery.

    About the orgasms without erections; I, too, was surprised when the Uro told me it was possible; aparently, the two are not completely connected. If the penis is stimulated, it is possible!

    Again, don't be too far "down" and keep up the kegle exercises; things WILL get better, and just remember your cancer WAS organ-contained, and that's the big thing!

    Wishing you all the best,
    Jmmdad

    Jmmdad;

    I want to thank you for your reply and your words of encouragement. I feel a heck of a lot better and a lot less down knowing that someone else was at this stage and that things got better for them...... and will for me, too. It's also good to be reminded of how lucky I am regarding the outcome of the total biopsy. I have my two-week checkup today so will have to see what the doctor will allow me to do and where we go from here.

    I too, want to wish you success in overcoming your last hurdle. At this point I have desire and stirrings but no physical signs of erection. Can I assume from your comments that between the vacuum pump and Viagra that your relations are pretty much normal and that erections last long enough for mutual satisfaction? I'll will get more information today as to where we go in this area.

    Thanks again, Bob
  • shane59
    shane59 Member Posts: 86
    henryev said:

    You are not alone. The same happened to me. My desire remained intact, but I ejaculated urine, instead of semen. My wife is also understanding, and my attraction to her remains. I am afraid that Viagra won't help, for it improves erection, but does not change the contents of the ejaculated fluid.

    I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY YOU THINK YOU SHOULD BE EJACULATING SEMEN. DID THEY NOT REMOVE YOUR SEMINAL VESSELS WHEN PROSTATE REMOVED THEY REMOVED MINE BUT DID THE NERVE SPARING. YES i TOO EXSPERIANCE THE SAME SENSATIONS 7 WEEKS POST OP. BUT IMPROVING DAILY HAVNT TRIED VIAGRA OR ANY STIMULATION YET . BEST OF LUCK TO YOU ALL ITS A NEW WAY OF THINKING BUT AT LEAST WE ARE ALL ALIVE THANKS FOR YOUR HONESTY SHANE
  • randy_in_indy
    randy_in_indy Member Posts: 496 Member

    Jmmdad;

    I want to thank you for your reply and your words of encouragement. I feel a heck of a lot better and a lot less down knowing that someone else was at this stage and that things got better for them...... and will for me, too. It's also good to be reminded of how lucky I am regarding the outcome of the total biopsy. I have my two-week checkup today so will have to see what the doctor will allow me to do and where we go from here.

    I too, want to wish you success in overcoming your last hurdle. At this point I have desire and stirrings but no physical signs of erection. Can I assume from your comments that between the vacuum pump and Viagra that your relations are pretty much normal and that erections last long enough for mutual satisfaction? I'll will get more information today as to where we go in this area.

    Thanks again, Bob

    Bob and everyone else
    I have the same thing happening...urinate upon orgasm....I find that if I try to void completely just before beginning a session it lessens the urination..did it just today...had a half errection with climax...no urine..yeehaw! Now I am using 1/4 pill viagra 100 mg per day and on 7th day taking full 100 mg pill...have had two complete full erections. And yes it's entirely possible to have a climax when completely limp...I have done it several times....I really think much of sex is your mind...but thats just my own personal oppinion. I use my pump twice per day...or if not at least some form of stimulation/self or with partner to attempt to get blood into penis. I started taking the viagra the day I had my cath taken out...doc said get started immediately..the sooner the better. Bought the pump a week later. I am currently on day 24 post Da Vinci. Stats below.

    Randy in Indy

    52 years old
    PSA 9/09 7.25
    PSA 10/09 6.125
    Diagnosis confirmed Oct 27, 2009
    8 Needle Biopsy = 5 clear , 3 postive
    <20%, 10%, 10%
    Gleason Score (3+3) 6 in all positive cores
    11/09 Second Opinion on Biopsy slides from Dr. Koch
    (4+3) = 7 5%
    (3+4) = 7 10%
    (3+4) = 7 10%
    Endorectol MRI with Coil - Indicated the Palpal tumor was Organ confined
    da Vinci 12/29/09 - Dr. Hollensbee & Scott
    Post Surgery Pathology:
    Prostate size 5 x 4 x 3.5 cm Weight: 27 g
    Gleason: Changed to (3+4) = 7
    Primary Pattern 3, 80%
    Secondary Pattern 4, 18%
    Tertiary Pattern 5, 2%
    Tumor Quantitation:
    Greatest Dimension, Largest tumor focus: 19 mm
    Additional Dimension 18 x 15 mm
    Location, largest tumor focus: Right posterior quadrant
    Multifocality: Yes
    Greatest dimension second largest focus 10 mm
    Location: second largest focus: Left Posterior quadrant
    Extraprostatic extension: Yes
    If yes, focal or non-focal: Nonfocal
    If yes: location(s) right and left antero-lateral
    Seminal vesicle invasion: No
    Cancer at surgical margin: No
    If no, closest distance with location: less than 1 mm, right posterior quadrant
    Apex involvement: No
    Bladder involvement: NO
    Lymph-vascular invasion: No
    Perineural invasion: Yes
    Lymph nodes: 9 from right pelvic 0/9 positive
    Stage: pT3a, pNo, pMX
    All nerves sparred - found two additional pudendal arteries