Wait is over, diagnosis is in

I am sorry for the diagnosis
I am sorry for the diagnosis and hope that the nodes are not involved and radiation will be your next step instead of chemo. But you will find the strength to do what you need to do. As far as going back to work, you need to ask yourself some questions. Would being occupied help to ease your anxiety or increase it? Are you co-workers, bosses supportive and would they understand if or when you might have "bad moments"? Can you financially afford to take this time off or would it be better to use the time for the node biopsy, and whatever treatments lie ahead? Do you feel that you can do your job or would the upcoming treatments interfere with you ability to preform at the level you did before all of this occured? Do you want to work or would you be happier being home and mentally preparing yourself be better? There may be other questions that you or others can think of to ask yourself but the bottom line is that you need to do what is best for you mentally, physically, and emotionally. For me, working was good. It gave me the chance to maintain my "normal" life. I was fortunate that my surgeries went well and I could return to work quickly and I didn't need to do chemo. I was able to work until late in the afternoon and then go to my rads on my way home. I had minimal burning and fatigue and would go home, eat, and go to bed early. There was just my hubby and me and he stepped up and did all the house stuff. He even offered to go to rads but I didn't want him to have to take off time and frankly I had done them years before for uterine cancer and in general I knew what to expect. My company was super supportive and told me if I needed to nap or go home or anything just to tell them. I was laid off after my treatments ended but so were several others. My company was hit hard by the faltering economy and I know that my layoff had nothing to do with my cancer. They have laid off many more since then. My boss and I stay in contact. I had only worked there for a year and a half and they gave me three weeks severence pay which was more than my husband's company did when he was laid off after working at his job for more than 10 years. But I digress.
I will keep you in my prayers and good thoughts.
Stef

fauxma said:

I am sorry for the diagnosis
I am sorry for the diagnosis and hope that the nodes are not involved and radiation will be your next step instead of chemo. But you will find the strength to do what you need to do. As far as going back to work, you need to ask yourself some questions. Would being occupied help to ease your anxiety or increase it? Are you co-workers, bosses supportive and would they understand if or when you might have "bad moments"? Can you financially afford to take this time off or would it be better to use the time for the node biopsy, and whatever treatments lie ahead? Do you feel that you can do your job or would the upcoming treatments interfere with you ability to preform at the level you did before all of this occured? Do you want to work or would you be happier being home and mentally preparing yourself be better? There may be other questions that you or others can think of to ask yourself but the bottom line is that you need to do what is best for you mentally, physically, and emotionally. For me, working was good. It gave me the chance to maintain my "normal" life. I was fortunate that my surgeries went well and I could return to work quickly and I didn't need to do chemo. I was able to work until late in the afternoon and then go to my rads on my way home. I had minimal burning and fatigue and would go home, eat, and go to bed early. There was just my hubby and me and he stepped up and did all the house stuff. He even offered to go to rads but I didn't want him to have to take off time and frankly I had done them years before for uterine cancer and in general I knew what to expect. My company was super supportive and told me if I needed to nap or go home or anything just to tell them. I was laid off after my treatments ended but so were several others. My company was hit hard by the faltering economy and I know that my layoff had nothing to do with my cancer. They have laid off many more since then. My boss and I stay in contact. I had only worked there for a year and a half and they gave me three weeks severence pay which was more than my husband's company did when he was laid off after working at his job for more than 10 years. But I digress.
I will keep you in my prayers and good thoughts.
Stef

Praying that your nodes are
Praying that your nodes are clean! Sending prayers and hugs to you!


Debby

disneyfan2008 said:

keep us updated
I"LL be thinking of you...

Denise W

Wanted to say hi to you and
Wanted to say hi to you and to wish you good luck with your surgery and your treatments.


Sue

So sorry to hear about your diagnosis.
It sure sounds to me, like you had already enough on your plate.

Doesn't it suck that we have to worry about work in times like this?
I hope you get it all sorted out tomorrow.

I worked through my treatments, took time off only after my
mastectomy.

Try to exercise, yoga, meditate - it really helps with the anxiety.
I am living proof for that.

Hugs,
Ayse