brenda passed away
amyb15
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Brenda passed away about 1:00 am this morning. I was with her when she died. She seemed and peace and it was not a difficult death. My heart is breaking. Have lost my very closet friend and has left my 15 year old neice without a mother and an alchoholic father. We just got home froam the hospital at 4:00 am. My neice rachel is sleeping at my house tonight. Her dad showed up at the hospital drunk tonight. Rachel was sooo dissapointed, sad and embarrassed. My heart is broken. I does not seem real, She fought up until the very end, but the cacer killed her anyway. Goes to show a positive attitude does not always help. I was hoping and praying for a miracle. It did not come. Haaaaaaaaaaaaaate this disease as you all do. Love all of you. Continue the fight.
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So sorry
Amy, I am so sad to hear that your family has lost their angel Brenda. My condolences to the family and may your hearts be strengthened with all of the good memories you have of your time on this Earth with Brenda. I know it is hard and your heart is breaking.I hope that your niece Rachel will continue to have your influence in her life....she will definitely need you. ( I say this as having been a child of an alcoholic Father )
My love, thoughts and prayers to you at this difficult time. You have been such a good sister.
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So Sorry
Amy,
I am so sorry about Brenda. Please know that you did everything that you could for her and her family. I know she knew how much you loved her. Take some time to regroup, breathe and do the things that you need to do. Your niece will need your love and help to get through this difficult time. I am sorry that her dad has not been there for her. It is hard to know how things will be, but I know you will do everything in your power to help your niece.
Huge hugs are being sent your way.
Take Care,
Barb0 -
Amy l feel so sorry for the loose, please have my deepestjararno said:So Sorry
Amy,
I am so sorry about Brenda. Please know that you did everything that you could for her and her family. I know she knew how much you loved her. Take some time to regroup, breathe and do the things that you need to do. Your niece will need your love and help to get through this difficult time. I am sorry that her dad has not been there for her. It is hard to know how things will be, but I know you will do everything in your power to help your niece.
Huge hugs are being sent your way.
Take Care,
Barb
condolences.0 -
She fought up until the very end,
hi amy,
so sorry to hear about brenda. I hope you can find some peace now brenda is at peace.
I guess a positive attitude does not guarantee a miracle. My hope is that it may help us have some peace of mind. I am grateful as her passing seemed peaceful. She was lucky to have you as a friend. Your neice is also lucky to have you.
love,
Pete0 -
This comment has been removed by the Moderatorpete43lost_at_sea said:She fought up until the very end,
hi amy,
so sorry to hear about brenda. I hope you can find some peace now brenda is at peace.
I guess a positive attitude does not guarantee a miracle. My hope is that it may help us have some peace of mind. I am grateful as her passing seemed peaceful. She was lucky to have you as a friend. Your neice is also lucky to have you.
love,
Pete0 -
I'll pray for you and your family
Brenda is at peace. Her fight is over. I pray for you and your family to find peace. Blessings, Lourdes.0 -
I amhopeforcure49 said:I'll pray for you and your family
Brenda is at peace. Her fight is over. I pray for you and your family to find peace. Blessings, Lourdes.
very sorry
michelle0 -
I'm sending big hugs....
sometimes, I agree, that it seems that a positive attitude doesn't work. But we don't know what the outcome was supposed to be. Her attitude maybe got her thru things she otherwise would not have, even tho the end result is the same.
We do not have control over either our or our loved ones' lives. Sad, but true. I'm sorry that she left behind a daughter that is not well cared for...can you possibly take her?
BIG dutch hugs, Kathi0 -
cried my eyes out
Amy,
I'm so sorry. I cried my eyes out last night before bed, knowing that this was coming. I am very glad to hear that it was peaceful for her, though. She's no longer the one to pray for, as she's in heaven. I will be praying for her for you, and for her husband and his alcoholism, and most especially for her daughter Rachel.
May God give you rest and comfort soon in the loss of your beloved sister and best friend. You've done so much for her and I know you will be stepping in to care for Rachel quite a bit in these future days and years.
Take care- please check in here every now and then.
Hugs and prayers,
Lisa0 -
I am so sorry
I know Brenda will be sorely missed by many, most of all you. You've been an awesome sister and advocate for her during this battle. Thank heaven God has her in His arms permanently now,just wish he'd stop taking the good ones! Her struggle has ended, while yours continues. I pray for strength and comfort for you and Brenda's loved ones as the days pass and you try to adjust to your loss. Big hugs.
mary0 -
I'm soooo sorry.
Is there
I'm soooo sorry.
Is there any chance your niece can choose to live with you? I think at 15, the courts give them a choice.
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Diane0 -
So very sorry........dianetavegia said:I'm soooo sorry.
Is there
I'm soooo sorry.
Is there any chance your niece can choose to live with you? I think at 15, the courts give them a choice.
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Diane
I hope for peace and calm soon for the family, and Brenda will shine through her daughter, your niece, you will see that in her now, she lives on through her daughter......Love and caring and deepest sympathies, Clift0 -
Prayers for you all
Dear Amy,
I know there are no words which will comfort you and Rachel just yet. The hurt is too new.
But as the days go by, I pray that you and Rachel may find that hurt somewhat lessened as you fondly remember Brenda and the time you had together.
I also pray for a solution for Rachel's situation with her dad. I know you will do all possible to be the main love and support in her life.
May each day that passes be filled with less hurt and loss, and more love and good memories.
Marie who loves kitties0 -
So darn sorry. I lost my
So darn sorry. I lost my husband on the 31st of December to this beast. I hope you can help your neice live with you or a better family member. I also wanted a miracle and it did not come. We just need to carry on and remember them always. Love to you at this time and always. Paula0 -
SORRY
I'm sooooooo sorry hugs Tina0
:( Take it a step at a time, hold onto those memories and to Rachel. You both need each other right now. 
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