How do you do it

ktlcs
ktlcs Member Posts: 358
edited March 2014 in Grief and Bereavement #1
As I have posted before some of you may know I lost my husband to rectal cancer in July. How do the rest of you do it. The holidays, for me, just intesified the loss and how much I miss him. My family and friends are very supportive, I am doing all of the things I thik I can do, coundeling meds etc, and nothing seems to work, I am still heartbroken. I thought maybe decorating for Christmas (no tree) might help, instead I come home to a decorated house everyday with no one to share it with. My best friend's husband recently took us on an all expenses paid trip to Jamaica. I have to admit maybe being out of my element was helpful, but as soon as I returned home it all came crashing down again. His birthday is Jan 11, another first to deal with. I wish I knew what to do to stop this pain!

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  • Beckymarie
    Beckymarie Member Posts: 357
    #2
    Time
    I lost my husband in June and everytime I think I see a little progress, I bottom out again. Having a very bad week. Not sure if it is the holidays. Coming home to an empty house is the worst...I hate it. My anger at life, God whatever is all consuming at times. All I can do is push forward...I work as much as I am able, run, spend time with my family and friends. Eventually, things have to get better...or so I am told.
  • junklady
    junklady Member Posts: 88 Member
    #3
    Beckymarie said:

    Time
    I lost my husband in June and everytime I think I see a little progress, I bottom out again. Having a very bad week. Not sure if it is the holidays. Coming home to an empty house is the worst...I hate it. My anger at life, God whatever is all consuming at times. All I can do is push forward...I work as much as I am able, run, spend time with my family and friends. Eventually, things have to get better...or so I am told.

    One step at a time
    I lost my husband Aug. 29, just 4 months ago. His Birthday is Jan. 5. The holidays were the worst, everything about Christmas made me cry. Now the approaching birthday, and he is not here, so sad. I miss him so much and keep asking myself why did he leave me? I am trying hard to move forward, going to the gym everyday, took myself on a 3 week vacation to Florida. I have made a list of things I want to accomplish in 2011 and I'm pushing forward. Dale would want me to keep going strong. My family support is very encouraging, thank goodness. Yes, everyday is two steps forward, one back, but I have to believe things will get better with time. May we all find some peace in 2011. Take care.

    Cyndi
  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    #4
    New life for us
    I guess we have to adjust to our new lives one day at a time. My hubby died in March and I can hardly believe it'll be a year on Jan 6th that he was diagnosed. Never thought I'd only have him for two months after that. I know what you mean about coming home and how it comes crashing down on you again. That's what I hate too, is not being able to have him here to snuggle with, and talk to. My counselor has helped me alot and so have the meds. And also talking to all of you who have gone through the same thing has helped too. No one knows what it's like till they go through it. We have a new life now and just have to take one day at a time. We can pretend we're on an airplane going through turbulance and one day things will be smooth again. I kicked 2010 in the **** when it was midnight & opened the door for 2011. It has to be better for us, right? Carole
  • ktlcs
    ktlcs Member Posts: 358
    #5
    3Mana said:

    New life for us
    I guess we have to adjust to our new lives one day at a time. My hubby died in March and I can hardly believe it'll be a year on Jan 6th that he was diagnosed. Never thought I'd only have him for two months after that. I know what you mean about coming home and how it comes crashing down on you again. That's what I hate too, is not being able to have him here to snuggle with, and talk to. My counselor has helped me alot and so have the meds. And also talking to all of you who have gone through the same thing has helped too. No one knows what it's like till they go through it. We have a new life now and just have to take one day at a time. We can pretend we're on an airplane going through turbulance and one day things will be smooth again. I kicked 2010 in the **** when it was midnight & opened the door for 2011. It has to be better for us, right? Carole

    Me Too
    As soon as midnight came I kicked 2010s **** good bye. I am really going to try to make 2011 a better year!

    Kathy

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