People give me hard time at work

zinaida
zinaida Member Posts: 221
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
I am on disability benefits,400$ a month, cannot live on it. So I work, I work more than 10 years at JCPenney Fine Jewelry
department. After chemo treatments, especially second line with carbo/gemzar 8 cycles ,my memory go down, cannot concentrate, cannot do multy tasks any more, my legs and abdominal area in pain very bad ,when I come home from work. Every time when I make mistake or confused, coworkers laugh and have fun from it. After awhile it is get under my skin. More than 70% workers in department and manager changed twice in one year, it is was very hard on me.. So month ego I ask store manager to move me some other area, where I can do better for the store and my self.This year they cut my hourly pay from 8$ to 7,25$.So she give me back 8$ per hour and give me cashier position.She told I will suited there the best. I have doctor note, no more than 4 houres on my feet. They put me in schedule more than 5 hours a day and 9 days in row, give me hard time to have 15 minute break by schedule. I come to work today at 7:30 in morning and on meeting manager told me I was scheduled for pm from 7:30 to 11:30. Who will think for pm time like this on Sunday?? More than 10 people laugh at me.So I quit, what else can I do? I cryed today all day. I decide take port out from my chest, not to do chemo treatments any more and go back to Ukraine and die over there, because my husband told we not have money for funeral in USA.I am 12 yers USA citizen and my husbannd born in USA, his great great grandparents come to America from Prussia. All life he work very hard as bricklayer and cannot afford my funeral!!!.Zina. P.S. Why Americans not like emigrants,if all Americans have roots from other country???!!!

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  • poopergirl14052
    poopergirl14052 Member Posts: 1,183 Member
    #2
    no one has the right to laugh at you!!!
    I am so sorry to hear such horrible people can find your illness amusing. pleas do not give up please keep fighting there are leas protecting you from such abusr ..maybe a lawyer/ we in us do not hate immagrants. where do you hear that. please do not give up and don't quit...i beg you....stay strong you are a 10 year surviver...val
  • zinaida
    zinaida Member Posts: 221
    #3
    poopergirl14052 said:

    no one has the right to laugh at you!!!
    I am so sorry to hear such horrible people can find your illness amusing. pleas do not give up please keep fighting there are leas protecting you from such abusr ..maybe a lawyer/ we in us do not hate immagrants. where do you hear that. please do not give up and don't quit...i beg you....stay strong you are a 10 year surviver...val

    4 years surviver. More than
    4 years surviver. More than 10 years I work at JCPenney and 16 years I live in USA,cannot afford it any more.:(
  • mopar
    mopar Member Posts: 1,972 Member
    #4
    SO SORRY
    First, I am so sorry to hear that you had to quit your job. Some people can be so heartless, sometimes forcing us into making decisions we'd rather not make. But I also wanted you to know that your financial situation is not uncommon right now. Many are having difficult times here in the States. My mother who was from Germany, married my Dad (American) in 1948 and came to the States. Even though it was difficult to leave her family, she loved the U.S. and honoroed our country. Please don't have a bad view of the United States (regardless of our current administration or anything else you may not agree with). It is still the BEST country in the world. We are American Citizens and I assure you we would not have enough money for a funeral either.

    Try to find a support group (so glad you came to visit us!) Your doctor's office may have some suggestions, as well as resources regarding your financial situation while going through chemo. Don't let the few 'inconsiderates' destroy your confidence in the many wonderful, compassionate people out there.

    Please keep us informed. Till then, sending lots of prayers and hugs.
    Monika
  • clamryn
    clamryn Member Posts: 508
    #5
    I apologize
    Zina, I am apologizing for those inconsiderate people that you worked with. You know, there are those type of people all over the world. Put your health first, fight, fight, fight. I am going to pray that you make all the right decisions.

    Linda
  • Mum2bellaandwilliam
    Mum2bellaandwilliam Member Posts: 412
    #6
    clamryn said:

    I apologize
    Zina, I am apologizing for those inconsiderate people that you worked with. You know, there are those type of people all over the world. Put your health first, fight, fight, fight. I am going to pray that you make all the right decisions.

    Linda

    Zina , dont give up your
    Zina , dont give up your fight, don't let these savage people bring you down.
    There must be more finanacial support for people in your position? I am in the UK so I am not sure how things work in the states.Keep your chin up xxx
  • kikiz
    kikiz Member Posts: 94
    #7
    Mum2bellaandwilliam said:

    Zina , dont give up your
    Zina , dont give up your fight, don't let these savage people bring you down.
    There must be more finanacial support for people in your position? I am in the UK so I am not sure how things work in the states.Keep your chin up xxx

    Don't let the losers win
    Zina,
    Don't let the loser's win. There are other ways to get help. Talk to your Oncologist's and see if they have a social worker who can suggest other help such as food stamps. I don't know if you have it but we have a program here in Kansas called Vocational Rehabilitation. You can get training for other jobs or even have a worker go to a job with you to transition you in. They have employers that work with the disabled and are used to problems like we have and even worse.

    You are an American. We are proud to have you and your family here.

    Daughter of a Veteran of the USMC

    Lori
  • poopergirl14052
    poopergirl14052 Member Posts: 1,183 Member
    #8
    do not give up the fight
    I refuse to let my illness or anything else keep me from my hopes and dreams I do not want to die, I do not want pity from anyone I want to live my life Cancer can not cripple love,shatter hope,corrode faith,eat way peace,destroy confidence,kill friendship,shut out memories.silence courage,invade the soul,reduce eternal life,cannot quiech the spirit and lesson the power of God. a very nice lady gave me this poem and i try to live by these words
  • srwruns
    srwruns Member Posts: 343
    #9
    I am very sorry for this
    I am very sorry for this agonizing situation you are in. Is there a social worker associated with your hospital that can help you?
  • zinaida
    zinaida Member Posts: 221
    #10
    srwruns said:

    I am very sorry for this
    I am very sorry for this agonizing situation you are in. Is there a social worker associated with your hospital that can help you?

    Thanks a lot my teal sisters
    Thanks a lot my teal sisters for your respond. Me and my husband meet today store manager. She told it is was mistake they make with my schedule and apologise for it. She make a plan how to avoid mistakes like this in future and she willing to give me amount hours what will be possible for me to work regarding my health problem. I had today appointment with my doctor, my CA125 was 86. So my cancer back in 6 month after my last chemo :(. It is wiil be second recurrency in 4 years. Will have CT scan december 28 and MRI (head) december 23. Happy Holidays to me :(. Also my doctor living Wisconsin and I will have new doctor again for my treatments.Thank you ladies for your good advise, love you all, Zina.
  • nancy591
    nancy591 Member Posts: 1,027 Member
    #11
    zinaida said:

    Thanks a lot my teal sisters
    Thanks a lot my teal sisters for your respond. Me and my husband meet today store manager. She told it is was mistake they make with my schedule and apologise for it. She make a plan how to avoid mistakes like this in future and she willing to give me amount hours what will be possible for me to work regarding my health problem. I had today appointment with my doctor, my CA125 was 86. So my cancer back in 6 month after my last chemo :(. It is wiil be second recurrency in 4 years. Will have CT scan december 28 and MRI (head) december 23. Happy Holidays to me :(. Also my doctor living Wisconsin and I will have new doctor again for my treatments.Thank you ladies for your good advise, love you all, Zina.

    Sorry to hear this Zina. Good luck to you and let me know what treatment they will do for you. Overall I think you have done well. Nobody likes recurrence but it seems like you have gone long time between recurrences.
  • zinaida
    zinaida Member Posts: 221
    #12
    nancy591 said:

    Sorry to hear this Zina. Good luck to you and let me know what treatment they will do for you. Overall I think you have done well. Nobody likes recurrence but it seems like you have gone long time between recurrences.

    Thanks, Nancy.I read all
    Thanks, Nancy.I read all your posts. I know what you going through. My heart is with you, love Zina.
  • kayandok
    kayandok Member Posts: 1,202 Member
    #13
    zinaida said:

    Thanks, Nancy.I read all
    Thanks, Nancy.I read all your posts. I know what you going through. My heart is with you, love Zina.

    Dear Zina,
    You are an amazing woman! I am so sorry for what you have had to go through and I hope this store managaer is going to stick up for you.
    I hope that your number does not indicate a recurrence. Please keep us informed as to your progress.
    Hugs,
    kathleen
  • Mwee
    Mwee Member Posts: 1,338
    #14
    zinaida said:

    Thanks a lot my teal sisters
    Thanks a lot my teal sisters for your respond. Me and my husband meet today store manager. She told it is was mistake they make with my schedule and apologise for it. She make a plan how to avoid mistakes like this in future and she willing to give me amount hours what will be possible for me to work regarding my health problem. I had today appointment with my doctor, my CA125 was 86. So my cancer back in 6 month after my last chemo :(. It is wiil be second recurrency in 4 years. Will have CT scan december 28 and MRI (head) december 23. Happy Holidays to me :(. Also my doctor living Wisconsin and I will have new doctor again for my treatments.Thank you ladies for your good advise, love you all, Zina.

    Dear Zina
    I'm wishing you good luck with your tests and your new doctor. You've beaten this before and we'll be waiting along with you to hear about you're results. I'm so glad that the store manager is sticking up for you.
    (((HUGS))) Maria
  • poopergirl14052
    poopergirl14052 Member Posts: 1,183 Member
    #15
    zinaida said:

    Thanks a lot my teal sisters
    Thanks a lot my teal sisters for your respond. Me and my husband meet today store manager. She told it is was mistake they make with my schedule and apologise for it. She make a plan how to avoid mistakes like this in future and she willing to give me amount hours what will be possible for me to work regarding my health problem. I had today appointment with my doctor, my CA125 was 86. So my cancer back in 6 month after my last chemo :(. It is wiil be second recurrency in 4 years. Will have CT scan december 28 and MRI (head) december 23. Happy Holidays to me :(. Also my doctor living Wisconsin and I will have new doctor again for my treatments.Thank you ladies for your good advise, love you all, Zina.

    yeah zina
    thats is the fight i knew you had in you, we are all here for you and you can drop us a line do not let anyone mistreat you
  • Cafewoman53
    Cafewoman53 Member Posts: 735 Member
    #16
    zinaida said:

    Thanks a lot my teal sisters
    Thanks a lot my teal sisters for your respond. Me and my husband meet today store manager. She told it is was mistake they make with my schedule and apologise for it. She make a plan how to avoid mistakes like this in future and she willing to give me amount hours what will be possible for me to work regarding my health problem. I had today appointment with my doctor, my CA125 was 86. So my cancer back in 6 month after my last chemo :(. It is wiil be second recurrency in 4 years. Will have CT scan december 28 and MRI (head) december 23. Happy Holidays to me :(. Also my doctor living Wisconsin and I will have new doctor again for my treatments.Thank you ladies for your good advise, love you all, Zina.

    Store manager
    The reason your store manager is being helpful is she knows you have a lawsuit if you choose to sue. You do not need the added stress that the people at work are giving you.
    Not only are they morally wrong but they are legally wrong also. If their behavior continues run do not walk to a good civil rights lawyer ! Keep a journal just in case but hopefully things will be better now !
    Good luck with your scan and concentrate on your health not on your evil nasty co-workers !
    Colleen

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