I've been busy admiring my body

Nana b said:

I don't think we should make
I don't think we should make the choice for others, 28 years ago, I told my husband if you ever feel that it's too much for you, feel that you are done...please spare me and my dignity, just leave! No cheating, no lies, no hurt...just go. I feel someone that knows that they are free to leave will leave right away before the storm hits, or stay and weather it out. (my feelings)

I have always been independent and my self respect is way up there, and I am confident enough to know that I will make it, with or without you. I don't want anyone in my life that does not want to be in it. But it's their choice. I won't run them off, they have a mind of their own. With that said...i say don't push them out, unless you are ready to live with your actions. Gail, this is not aimed at you! There is a reason you did what you did, you have to feel good in a relationship. I divorced my first husband, because he was a great man, because he loved me with all his heart, but I didn't love him. I loved him, but I wasn't in love with him. I let him convince me to marry him. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do, but I didn't want to live a lie and he deserved so much more! Many called me a fool, a wonderful rich man,...to just let him go! I have no regrets, nor does he. He flies for Delta now, and he is quite happy. So am I. When he learned of my cancer, he was at my door to give a hug, all the way from Florida!

Rambling, but be bold, you are a beautiful person, scars don't change that!

Ps. And it easier when you have someone in your life already. I know it must be hard to date. But if you are friends with someone and they respect you and want you, it can happen. Maybe not as fast as it would have been otherwise, but friendship is good. We need friendship.

Hmmmmm
I feel I should say something profound but I can't think of anything. I find that nothing is free with cancer. When my surgeon operated on me thirteen years ago he not only saved my life he broke all the playground equipment while he was doing it. One of the reasons my wife left me. Her new man got prostate cancer,sad.They fixed his cancer but I think they also fixed him,very sad. I was opened from groin to sternum to remove my cancer and when they went for the gall bladder they wentin from five places. If all the glue comes unstuck i will probably fall in half. Actually it may well be happening already,how many of you have hernias on your scar line. I have two,one below my sternum and one just above my navel. I cant imagine ever GOING out again it would be like show and tell at school:) Ron.

ron50 said:

Hmmmmm
I feel I should say something profound but I can't think of anything. I find that nothing is free with cancer. When my surgeon operated on me thirteen years ago he not only saved my life he broke all the playground equipment while he was doing it. One of the reasons my wife left me. Her new man got prostate cancer,sad.They fixed his cancer but I think they also fixed him,very sad. I was opened from groin to sternum to remove my cancer and when they went for the gall bladder they wentin from five places. If all the glue comes unstuck i will probably fall in half. Actually it may well be happening already,how many of you have hernias on your scar line. I have two,one below my sternum and one just above my navel. I cant imagine ever GOING out again it would be like show and tell at school:) Ron.

Ron
Oh Ron, there is someone for you out there.......we need to all plan a fishing trip. Where do you live?


Sorry about all the scars but I have had 6 major surgeries, I would probably fall apart too.

Wear those scars as metals of the battle

I wear my scars as metals of the war..

We are warriors and we are winning the battle if we can see the scar.

So move ahead proud of the scar that you made it thru....

Proud to still be here.....

 

Donna