I Saw the Future This Weekend

virtual_voyager
virtual_voyager Member Posts: 37
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
and it was a horrible sight.

Since her dx with the tumors on neck, ribs and hip this was her worst episode of excruciating pain. At one point she was on the verge of hyper-ventilating trying to breath through the pain.

No warning, instant pain. It seemed so long for the oxy pills to take enough effect so she could at least breath.

My heart dies a little with each tear she sheds.

There is no greater cruelty in life than to watch a loved one die a slow, painful death.

and for that, I'm angry at ?????

V~V

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  • Barbara53
    Barbara53 Member Posts: 652
    #2
    you need better meds
    Oxycontin did little to impact my mother's pain, but she has responded extremely well to a combination of oral morphine pills and steroids. We are now seeing a palliative care specialist at her cancer center, so perhaps you can find a similar resource? You need better pain meds, and NOW.

    Good luck with this day and night.
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    #3
    agree
    There is no reason she has to be in pain and you have to suffer watching her, V~V.

    Get with hospice or her doctor right away to get this taken care of.

    Praying for you and her during this time.
  • sleepy524
    sleepy524 Member Posts: 20
    #4
    I am searching for the
    I am searching for the words...

    Terrified that one day I may see the same in my fiance', I am sorry I am at a loss for words to you today. I can only say I ache for you, and I will certainly pray for you. Remember she will never say her struggle was alone. I am sorry I wish I could offer more.
  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    #5
    Sorry
    So sorry you're going through watching her in so much pain. My husband wasn't in alot of pain, but had always been so healthy & it was so hard watching him lose his appetite, and lose weight & his hair. He was only sick for 2 months but I"m glad I didn't have to watch him in pain. He died very suddenly from a rare side effect from one of the chemos he got.
    Try to help her all you can and maybe you should talk to someone and tell them the pain meds aren't working. Take care! "Carole"
  • virtual_voyager
    virtual_voyager Member Posts: 37
    #6
    To each and everyone, tho

    To each and everyone, tho you think yours words of encouragement fall short believe me when I say THANK YOU. They seem so small when compared to the circumstances, but every one helps. Each post of kindness and heartfelt empathy is a brick in the wall of support.

    Again thank you one and all.

    V~V
  • kimmygarland
    kimmygarland Member Posts: 312
    #7
    virtual_voyager said:

    To each and everyone, tho

    To each and everyone, tho you think yours words of encouragement fall short believe me when I say THANK YOU. They seem so small when compared to the circumstances, but every one helps. Each post of kindness and heartfelt empathy is a brick in the wall of support.

    Again thank you one and all.

    V~V

    Helpless Feeling
    It's a helpless feeling when all you can do is stand by and comfort them, praying the meds will kick in. I hope you can find some better, more effective meds and the suffering is eased.
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #8
    Pain
    I, too, agree that she should not have to suffer that kind of pain. Both hospice and a pain specialist helped with pain control for my husband. Liquid morphine seemed to be the only thing that helped toward the end. They also combined that with some longer acting meds. Insist on better pain control. You really do have to be the squeaky wheel. It is hard enough watching a loved one die even in the best of circumstances. This is something that can and should be controlled. It is ok to be angry, too. It will help you get through this. Fay
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #9
    Pain
    Double post
  • Luv2lunch
    Luv2lunch Member Posts: 270
    #10
    I too am at a loss for
    I too am at a loss for words. I'm just sorry. You both will be in our thoughts and prayers. Maybe try and ask the doctor for a different pain medication.
    Linda
  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
    #11
    sleepy524 said:

    I am searching for the
    I am searching for the words...

    Terrified that one day I may see the same in my fiance', I am sorry I am at a loss for words to you today. I can only say I ache for you, and I will certainly pray for you. Remember she will never say her struggle was alone. I am sorry I wish I could offer more.

    sorry wrong post

    sorry wrong post

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