John Tinker ( JohnSFO)

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  • 2bhealed
    2bhealed Member Posts: 2,064 Member
    #22
    AceSFO said:

    Thank you, Paula
    Thanks for posting and thank you all for all the support we've gotten from this site over the course of John's illness. He was JohnSFO on here for anyone who didn't know him. We had been very active on here for quite some time and met some remarkable people here, but lately we hadn't been posting much.
    Here's what I put on our Caring Bridge page, just to complete the picture.

    John died peacefully and painlessly in my arms at 1 am on Thursday morning, November 4, 2010, and his suffering is finally over.

    On Monday, November 1, he started to go into terminal delirium, which was clearly very pleasant for him. Although what he was saying didn’t align with anything that I was perceiving, he was all smiles and soft, amused laughter while floating around between worlds; at times gesturing or pointing at things and at other times writing invisible words in the air in front of him. Some of the things he said made both of us laugh, though probably for different reasons. That night, after a day of him being completely incoherent, I suddenly realized around 6 pm that he was perfectly lucid - our old John again – just for a minute or so. We didn’t even feel the need to use the moment to make any goodbyes or anything like that – just greeted one another in an everyday familiar sort of way, and basked in each other’s smiles. It was a real moment of grace. We had both so hoped for a quiet, dignified death at home, and that’s exactly how it went. A beautiful death.

    Condolences
    Adrian,

    I cannot imagine a more beautiful death. I am sorry for your loss but relieved John's suffering is over. Thank you for sharing his death story with us. Life is amazing right up to the last breath.

    peace, emily
  • just4Brooks
    just4Brooks Member Posts: 980 Member
    #23
    AceSFO said:

    Thank you, Paula
    Thanks for posting and thank you all for all the support we've gotten from this site over the course of John's illness. He was JohnSFO on here for anyone who didn't know him. We had been very active on here for quite some time and met some remarkable people here, but lately we hadn't been posting much.
    Here's what I put on our Caring Bridge page, just to complete the picture.

    John died peacefully and painlessly in my arms at 1 am on Thursday morning, November 4, 2010, and his suffering is finally over.

    On Monday, November 1, he started to go into terminal delirium, which was clearly very pleasant for him. Although what he was saying didn’t align with anything that I was perceiving, he was all smiles and soft, amused laughter while floating around between worlds; at times gesturing or pointing at things and at other times writing invisible words in the air in front of him. Some of the things he said made both of us laugh, though probably for different reasons. That night, after a day of him being completely incoherent, I suddenly realized around 6 pm that he was perfectly lucid - our old John again – just for a minute or so. We didn’t even feel the need to use the moment to make any goodbyes or anything like that – just greeted one another in an everyday familiar sort of way, and basked in each other’s smiles. It was a real moment of grace. We had both so hoped for a quiet, dignified death at home, and that’s exactly how it went. A beautiful death.

    Both of you are very lucky
    To have the love of each other during that special time is a wonderful experience. I have worked with AIDS hospice patients for many years and have seen the person floating between worlds many times and talking to loved ones who have passed long ago. He was lucky to have you there for him and I'm sure you know how lucky you are to have seen what very few ever get to see. Soak in the experience.

    Brooks
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    #24
    Adrian
    I'm sorry for your loss
    -phil
  • coolvdub
    coolvdub Member Posts: 408 Member
    #25
    PhillieG said:

    Adrian
    I'm sorry for your loss
    -phil

    Adrian
    Adrian,

    I'm sorry John has passed, but as corny as it sounds, he is in a better place now free of pain. By the sounds of it, the last couple of days were what you hoped and expected. Once again so sorry for yur loss. I now you will miss John and so will we. Please stop in from time to time and let us know how you are doing.

    Prayers and hugs
    Don
  • dorookie
    dorookie Member Posts: 1,731 Member
    #26
    AceSFO said:

    Thank you, Paula
    Thanks for posting and thank you all for all the support we've gotten from this site over the course of John's illness. He was JohnSFO on here for anyone who didn't know him. We had been very active on here for quite some time and met some remarkable people here, but lately we hadn't been posting much.
    Here's what I put on our Caring Bridge page, just to complete the picture.

    John died peacefully and painlessly in my arms at 1 am on Thursday morning, November 4, 2010, and his suffering is finally over.

    On Monday, November 1, he started to go into terminal delirium, which was clearly very pleasant for him. Although what he was saying didn’t align with anything that I was perceiving, he was all smiles and soft, amused laughter while floating around between worlds; at times gesturing or pointing at things and at other times writing invisible words in the air in front of him. Some of the things he said made both of us laugh, though probably for different reasons. That night, after a day of him being completely incoherent, I suddenly realized around 6 pm that he was perfectly lucid - our old John again – just for a minute or so. We didn’t even feel the need to use the moment to make any goodbyes or anything like that – just greeted one another in an everyday familiar sort of way, and basked in each other’s smiles. It was a real moment of grace. We had both so hoped for a quiet, dignified death at home, and that’s exactly how it went. A beautiful death.

    I am so Sorry
    This just saddens me to no end...I just hate cancer...I am so sorry for your loss, I do know he is no longer in pain, and I believe he will always be with you..

    God Bless you
    HUGS
    Beth
  • chicoturner
    chicoturner Member Posts: 282
    #27
    Adrian,you are in my prayers
    Adrian,you are in my prayers today. It is never easy, but I will pray for your peace. Thank you for sharing and being part of our lives. Blessings to you and John's family. Love, Jean
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
    #28
    chicoturner said:

    Adrian,you are in my prayers
    Adrian,you are in my prayers today. It is never easy, but I will pray for your peace. Thank you for sharing and being part of our lives. Blessings to you and John's family. Love, Jean

    I'm so sorry Adrian. I know
    I'm so sorry Adrian. I know John is at peace, may you take comfort in that. Hugs! My condolences to the family. Raquel
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #29
    Oh, dear.
    Adrian,

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you and for all of John's loved ones.

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • nudgie
    nudgie Member Posts: 1,478 Member
    #30
    May
    God take him into his arms and allow him wings
  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
    #31
    nudgie said:

    May
    God take him into his arms and allow him wings

    Adrian
    oh Adrian I am so sorry to read this news.

    Thank you so much for sharing John's story.

    with great love

    maggie
  • luv3jay
    luv3jay Member Posts: 533 Member
    #32
    My deepest sympathy to the
    My deepest sympathy to the family.

    -Sheri
  • idlehunters
    idlehunters Member Posts: 1,787 Member
    #33
    luv3jay said:

    My deepest sympathy to the
    My deepest sympathy to the family.

    -Sheri

    Hi Adrian
    I am so sorry. My sympathies to all.

    Jennie
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #34
    AceSFO said:

    Thank you, Paula
    Thanks for posting and thank you all for all the support we've gotten from this site over the course of John's illness. He was JohnSFO on here for anyone who didn't know him. We had been very active on here for quite some time and met some remarkable people here, but lately we hadn't been posting much.
    Here's what I put on our Caring Bridge page, just to complete the picture.

    John died peacefully and painlessly in my arms at 1 am on Thursday morning, November 4, 2010, and his suffering is finally over.

    On Monday, November 1, he started to go into terminal delirium, which was clearly very pleasant for him. Although what he was saying didn’t align with anything that I was perceiving, he was all smiles and soft, amused laughter while floating around between worlds; at times gesturing or pointing at things and at other times writing invisible words in the air in front of him. Some of the things he said made both of us laugh, though probably for different reasons. That night, after a day of him being completely incoherent, I suddenly realized around 6 pm that he was perfectly lucid - our old John again – just for a minute or so. We didn’t even feel the need to use the moment to make any goodbyes or anything like that – just greeted one another in an everyday familiar sort of way, and basked in each other’s smiles. It was a real moment of grace. We had both so hoped for a quiet, dignified death at home, and that’s exactly how it went. A beautiful death.

    Beautiful
    That's a beautiful way to go. I know you're very sad about losing someone you loved so much, but at least he went out the way he wanted to, which is a blessing.

    I'm praying that you will have peace and comfort in this sad time.

    *hugs*
    Gail

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