Help, please

chenheart said:

It probably isn't
It probably isn't chemo-brain talking! Chemo brain would make you more likely to forget what she said, or exactly just what you said to her! LOL

I agree with you~ Cancer does often make us a bit more "direct", and we speak our minds more freely. WE cut through the nonsense and tell it like it is, don't we? Sometimes we surprise ourselves!

It seems to me that you have done pretty much all you can with this co-worker, now subordinate. She is one of those walking whirlwinds, never satisfied unless commotion, gossip, drama and dirt are in her path. From what you described, she walks a fine line...disruptive enough to cause exactly what you see at work, but with just enough
caution to NOT be reprimanded or lose her job.

As far as FB is concerned~ yes! yes! yes! 8th grade antics! If you were in middle school I dare she she would be classified a bully! You may have to just avoid fueling your own emotional fire and stop reading her posts. They can do nothing but serve to raise your blood pressure and hinder your personal growth as an amazing, strong, survivor-warrior!!!

Take comfort in knowing that every day, you put your head on your pillow and wake up in the morning being YOU~whereas your employee wakes up every day being HER, and pity this obviously unhappy woman with little self worth. People who make it their life's mission to bring others down generally do so to hopefully raise themselves up. They rarely succeed.

Hugs,
Chen♥

sbmly53 said:

Oh, Linda,
I know what you're dealing with. Document everything. Give this person enough rope, and hopefully, she'll hang herself. It's an extremely difficult position to be put in and I'm sure that you are not her only target. She is a very unhappy person, however, no one should be at her 'mercy'.


Sue

MyTurnNow said:

She does sound like one
She does sound like one unhappy individual. That's too bad but don't let her drag you down to her level. I think if she is given just enough rope, she will hang herself. I personally wouldn't give her the satisfaction of knowing that I even read her trash posted on FB. Once we have gone through the journey of bc, I think we value life that much more and also are less tolerable of some people. I always like to treat the grumpy, unhappy individuals with kindness. Who knows what is going on in their lives to make them so unhappy???? It doesn't justify their actions but perhaps it could explain them.

Keep your positive attitude and continue to enjoy life. I truly believe that she will take care of herself as time goes on.

TereB said:

I agree with Chen
It's not chemo brain. When we become cancer warriors, our priorities change and many times we become more direct in how we deal with others and there is nothing wrong with that. About your co-worker, I think it is the seesaw effect. Some people feel so bad about themselves that the only way they can feel good is when they are at the top of the seesaw and to be there they have to put someone down.

Don't look at her Facebook page, don't give importance to what she says, it's not worth it. I'm sure all the other employees know her for what she is.