Don't Tell Me....

hope0310
hope0310 Member Posts: 320
edited March 2014 in Grief and Bereavement #1
Don't Tell Me...

Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know,

Don't tell me that I will survive, how I will surely grow.

Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed,

That I am chosen for this task, apart from all the rest.

Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me,

Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.

Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie,

Don't tell me how to suffer, don't tell me how to cry.

My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see,

But I need you, I need your love, unconditionally.

Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share,

Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say,

"My friend, I really do care."

Author Unknown

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  • hope0310
    hope0310 Member Posts: 320
    #2
    I have posted this within
    I have posted this within one of my posts before on the LC and Caregivers site...

    Now that I have lost my mother it holds new meaning and I wanted to share with this group.

    Much love, be good to yourselves......Elysia
  • rubyslippers
    rubyslippers Member Posts: 53
    #3
    hope0310 said:

    I have posted this within
    I have posted this within one of my posts before on the LC and Caregivers site...

    Now that I have lost my mother it holds new meaning and I wanted to share with this group.

    Much love, be good to yourselves......Elysia

    Everyword so true

    Hi Hope, I lost my mum on 30 July this year, the pain is unbearable. On reading the poem you posted its all so true, everyline I was reading and nodding my head in agreement. I know this is a journey I have to do by myself, no one can help, I have to deal with not having my wonderful mum around. I do find myself being a bit nasty lately, my mum was 61 when she passed away, I find myself looking at older people, well older than my mum and I think how can you still be here and my mum cant be. My mum went into hospital 25th June, she was diagnoised with Ovarian cancer two and half weeks after going into hospital and she passed away 2 and half weeks after that. My mum did not even get the chance to fight the tumour which grew so big in such a short time, the tumour must have weighed about 8 stone in the end and you could physically see it grow day by day. It hurts me so much that Mum did not stand a chance and she is not here, the poem sums up a lot thank you Elysia

    love Kris xxx
  • hope0310
    hope0310 Member Posts: 320
    #4
    rubyslippers said:

    Everyword so true

    Hi Hope, I lost my mum on 30 July this year, the pain is unbearable. On reading the poem you posted its all so true, everyline I was reading and nodding my head in agreement. I know this is a journey I have to do by myself, no one can help, I have to deal with not having my wonderful mum around. I do find myself being a bit nasty lately, my mum was 61 when she passed away, I find myself looking at older people, well older than my mum and I think how can you still be here and my mum cant be. My mum went into hospital 25th June, she was diagnoised with Ovarian cancer two and half weeks after going into hospital and she passed away 2 and half weeks after that. My mum did not even get the chance to fight the tumour which grew so big in such a short time, the tumour must have weighed about 8 stone in the end and you could physically see it grow day by day. It hurts me so much that Mum did not stand a chance and she is not here, the poem sums up a lot thank you Elysia

    love Kris xxx

    Just wanted to bump this up
    Just wanted to bump this up to the top......

    May need some reassurance during this season that no one else holds our healing and answered in there hands. We all go through it differently and at different rates....

    Elysia


    <---My Angel, My Mom
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    #5
    hope0310 said:

    Just wanted to bump this up
    Just wanted to bump this up to the top......

    May need some reassurance during this season that no one else holds our healing and answered in there hands. We all go through it differently and at different rates....

    Elysia


    <---My Angel, My Mom</p>

    Excellent, hope
    Couldn't agree more.

    We all walk our own walks. You are right.
  • Hopeful720
    Hopeful720 Member Posts: 89
    #6
    hope0310 said:

    Just wanted to bump this up
    Just wanted to bump this up to the top......

    May need some reassurance during this season that no one else holds our healing and answered in there hands. We all go through it differently and at different rates....

    Elysia


    <---My Angel, My Mom</p>

    Thank You
    Thank you Hope - the poem and your words (along with the other posts in this thread) is the exact words I needed to hear today... (and every day).
  • Pennymac02
    Pennymac02 Member Posts: 332 Member
    #7
    hope0310 said:

    Just wanted to bump this up
    Just wanted to bump this up to the top......

    May need some reassurance during this season that no one else holds our healing and answered in there hands. We all go through it differently and at different rates....

    Elysia


    <---My Angel, My Mom</p>

    I needed this bumped up
    I needed this bumped up. Today I need to remember to be gentle with myself. I am missing my mom and was feeling a little hostile towards everyone today, including me.
    Thanks
    Penny
  • hope0310
    hope0310 Member Posts: 320
    #8
    Pennymac02 said:

    I needed this bumped up
    I needed this bumped up. Today I need to remember to be gentle with myself. I am missing my mom and was feeling a little hostile towards everyone today, including me.
    Thanks
    Penny

    We are all in this together,,,aren't we lucky.. ;( ;)
    (hugs)

    Be good to yourselves.............
  • HeartofSoul
    HeartofSoul Member Posts: 729 Member
    #9
    hope0310 said:

    We are all in this together,,,aren't we lucky.. ;( ;)
    (hugs)

    Be good to yourselves.............

    Hope0310, thank you for
    Hope0310, thank you for sharing, i wont forget the meaning and truth held within a very impressionable poem
  • hope0310
    hope0310 Member Posts: 320
    #10
    rubyslippers said:

    Everyword so true

    Hi Hope, I lost my mum on 30 July this year, the pain is unbearable. On reading the poem you posted its all so true, everyline I was reading and nodding my head in agreement. I know this is a journey I have to do by myself, no one can help, I have to deal with not having my wonderful mum around. I do find myself being a bit nasty lately, my mum was 61 when she passed away, I find myself looking at older people, well older than my mum and I think how can you still be here and my mum cant be. My mum went into hospital 25th June, she was diagnoised with Ovarian cancer two and half weeks after going into hospital and she passed away 2 and half weeks after that. My mum did not even get the chance to fight the tumour which grew so big in such a short time, the tumour must have weighed about 8 stone in the end and you could physically see it grow day by day. It hurts me so much that Mum did not stand a chance and she is not here, the poem sums up a lot thank you Elysia

    love Kris xxx

    **BUMP**
    I love this, and wanted to bring it back to the top for some members going through losses recently.

    Be good to yourselves, take time to heal....

    Elysia
  • luz del lago
    luz del lago Member Posts: 449
    #11
    Me too!
    I had read you posting of this poem before, before my love died. True words, to a true feeling! Thank you for having shared this.

    Lucy

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