my husband

tina dasilva
tina dasilva Member Posts: 641
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
my husband has his chemo on and he keeps working with his chemo on is that good or should he be resting i dont know what to do with him
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  • betina61
    betina61 Member Posts: 642 Member
    #2
    Hi Tina
    I think that it is great that your husband is working as long as he feel strong enough, I worked through all my 6 months of chemo.
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #3
    betina61 said:

    Hi Tina
    I think that it is great that your husband is working as long as he feel strong enough, I worked through all my 6 months of chemo.

    He is beating the beast..He feels strong so let him continue to
    He will slow down when he needs to. He is in therapy or rehab in his own right now. Let him go for it..Its a man thing !!! LOL..Love to you both.......Clift
  • Lori-S
    Lori-S Member Posts: 1,277 Member
    #4
    Let him work
    Of course you know him well and would know if he's over doing it but, if he isn't then let him be. I know that work is a great escape and allows me to focus my mind and let all this other cancer stuff go away for a while. For me, work is good medicine. Maybe it is for him too.
  • Patteee
    Patteee Member Posts: 945
    #5
    my only good, productive
    my only good, productive working days were when I had the 2 days of fanny pack. Once I was unhooked, then I began the decline into, "man I feel like shet days". I say let him work as long as he feels like it cause his resting days are right around the corner.
  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    #6
    Tina:
    George worked full time through his chemo treatments, even went to work with the fanny pack attached. Our onc said he is free to do anything he did before but to make sure he rests when fatigued and eats well.

    Take care - Tina
  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
    #7
    I agree
    If he is up to it, that is great! It can really help by taking his mind off cancer all the time.
  • chicoturner
    chicoturner Member Posts: 282
    #8
    Tina, just support him! When
    Tina, just support him! When he's worn out let him just rest, but it seems we work so hard to be "normal" and tough! You are a great wife to recognize this! You are just what the Dr. ordered!! Best to you both. Jean
  • John23
    John23 Member Posts: 2,122 Member
    #9
    What would be really good for him, is if......
    .... he came over and changed my oil and filter on my E350 diesel!
    (it could use a good wash, too)

    He'll feel like a million bucks afterwards! Really!



    Trust me .
  • tina dasilva
    tina dasilva Member Posts: 641
    #10
    John23 said:

    What would be really good for him, is if......
    .... he came over and changed my oil and filter on my E350 diesel!
    (it could use a good wash, too)

    He'll feel like a million bucks afterwards! Really!



    Trust me .

    lol john and you everyone
    lol john and you everyone who has massage thank you so much it makes me feel better to know its ok
  • Kerry S
    Kerry S Member Posts: 606 Member
    #11
    The best therapy
    Tina,
    The best therapy I had after chemo/rad was I cut firewood for the following winter. My doc thinks it did wonders for me. I did crap in my pants once cutting firewood. I seem to have a lot of problems getting crap on me now that I think about it.

    I look forward to cutting firewood again this winter after I get my bag removed and my butt reconnected. If we just lay on the couch we croak. It is as simple as that. He will know when to slow down.

    Hell, I am 5 weeks post resection and I am going to brush hog with the tractor tomorrow.
    I mowed the back yard yesterday.

    Kerry
  • John23
    John23 Member Posts: 2,122 Member
    #12
    Kerry S said:

    The best therapy
    Tina,
    The best therapy I had after chemo/rad was I cut firewood for the following winter. My doc thinks it did wonders for me. I did crap in my pants once cutting firewood. I seem to have a lot of problems getting crap on me now that I think about it.

    I look forward to cutting firewood again this winter after I get my bag removed and my butt reconnected. If we just lay on the couch we croak. It is as simple as that. He will know when to slow down.

    Hell, I am 5 weeks post resection and I am going to brush hog with the tractor tomorrow.
    I mowed the back yard yesterday.

    Kerry

    Hey Kerry -


    Working during chemo is one thing, but working, lifting,
    or doing strenuous work after a resection, is quite different.

    Didn't your doc tell you "no more than 20 lbs", or about
    hernias, or adhesions that form when the loose intestine
    gets squished around inside that somewhat larger cavity?

    Be careful, bub; what you do today can come back to haunt you.


    John
  • Lori-S
    Lori-S Member Posts: 1,277 Member
    #13
    tina dasilva said:

    lol john and you everyone
    lol john and you everyone who has massage thank you so much it makes me feel better to know its ok

    Tina
    Good to SEE you! nice pic of you and hubby
  • Kerry S
    Kerry S Member Posts: 606 Member
    #14
    John23 said:

    Hey Kerry -


    Working during chemo is one thing, but working, lifting,
    or doing strenuous work after a resection, is quite different.

    Didn't your doc tell you "no more than 20 lbs", or about
    hernias, or adhesions that form when the loose intestine
    gets squished around inside that somewhat larger cavity?

    Be careful, bub; what you do today can come back to haunt you.


    John

    Damn John you scared the hell out of me
    Damn John you scared the hell out of me. Not for driving the tractor but taking the box scraper off and putting the brush hog on. The brush hogging can wait until I talk with the doc next week.

    Kerry
  • John23
    John23 Member Posts: 2,122 Member
    #15
    Kerry S said:

    Damn John you scared the hell out of me
    Damn John you scared the hell out of me. Not for driving the tractor but taking the box scraper off and putting the brush hog on. The brush hogging can wait until I talk with the doc next week.

    Kerry

    Well....


    Didn't mean to scare the hellouttaya'... But ya'know..

    They kept yelling at me in the hospital, and I wouldn't listen.
    I got home and just wanted to do things. Some people on
    that UOAA board said that they did all sorts of things after
    surgery, and nothing happened!

    So..... Now I have some hernias, and adhesions, and other
    nifty complications.... none too serious, but I could have
    avoided all that by just taking it easy.

    For me.... they said it's a life-long thing. Lifting a too heavy
    item can pop part of my intestine through a muscle, or push
    my remaining intestines (or other organs) down into areas
    they don't belong.

    When they take out some intestine for a resection, it can leave
    a space where there was no space before.

    So yeah, if I were you, I'd take it easy until you get the go-ahead.
    Don't make the same mistake I did.

    Oh.... and stay sane!


    John
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #16
    John23 said:

    Well....


    Didn't mean to scare the hellouttaya'... But ya'know..

    They kept yelling at me in the hospital, and I wouldn't listen.
    I got home and just wanted to do things. Some people on
    that UOAA board said that they did all sorts of things after
    surgery, and nothing happened!

    So..... Now I have some hernias, and adhesions, and other
    nifty complications.... none too serious, but I could have
    avoided all that by just taking it easy.

    For me.... they said it's a life-long thing. Lifting a too heavy
    item can pop part of my intestine through a muscle, or push
    my remaining intestines (or other organs) down into areas
    they don't belong.

    When they take out some intestine for a resection, it can leave
    a space where there was no space before.

    So yeah, if I were you, I'd take it easy until you get the go-ahead.
    Don't make the same mistake I did.

    Oh.... and stay sane!


    John

    3 weeks post lung surgery and mowing 6 acreas plus bush hogging.
    I did however have BIL to connect the bush hog up for me. Nothing more than 10# pushing or pulling. Steering is hydraulic and ran bush hog slower than normal but still at 2200 rpm. Low speed 2nd and it does great and doesn't bounce me around much at all. But, I would make sure that you stay in the weight limits. Thats a big problem there waiting to happen if ya don't..........Buzz
  • tina dasilva
    tina dasilva Member Posts: 641
    #17
    Buzzard said:

    3 weeks post lung surgery and mowing 6 acreas plus bush hogging.
    I did however have BIL to connect the bush hog up for me. Nothing more than 10# pushing or pulling. Steering is hydraulic and ran bush hog slower than normal but still at 2200 rpm. Low speed 2nd and it does great and doesn't bounce me around much at all. But, I would make sure that you stay in the weight limits. Thats a big problem there waiting to happen if ya don't..........Buzz

    so yes Kerry you need to
    so yes Kerry you need to listen
  • tina dasilva
    tina dasilva Member Posts: 641
    #18
    Lori-S said:

    Tina
    Good to SEE you! nice pic of you and hubby

    thank you lori

    thank you lori
  • pepebcn
    pepebcn Member Posts: 6,331 Member
    #19
    tina dasilva said:

    so yes Kerry you need to
    so yes Kerry you need to listen

    keep normal life Tina
    l do work every day, it's a very good signal,too much time at home makes you think too much!
    Hugs!
  • HollyID
    HollyID Member Posts: 946 Member
    #20
    What a gorgeous picture of you both!!
    I too had to go back to work to stay sane.

    It really helped to keep some normalcy in my life instead of constantly thinking and wondering about "things". :)

    Love and Hugs,

    Holly
  • abmb
    abmb Member Posts: 311
    #21
    Great
    I think it is great that he feels so good that he wants to work. If he gets tired he'll know to take it easy. As a caretaker, I think we worry alot about our guys overdoing it. I wanted to keep my husband on the couch and just relaxing, but that's not fair to him. He kept up with his normal activity most of the time. Take care. Margaret

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