My mom, my best friend, my hero, my rock

hope0310
hope0310 Member Posts: 320
edited March 2014 in Esophageal Cancer #1
***NOT EC but I have posted a few times over here...just wanted to share....much love***



Every day since August 9th, I have sat by her side. Caressed her face, talked with her, laughed with her, cried alone....

I have done her nails, helped bath her, change her, feed her, given her every minute of every day, much like she gave for me when I was a baby.

Work can wait, told them I would be back when I got back.

Hopsice has been great, we have the best nurse and CNA, social worker is great as well, although we do not need much of her services, we have great support.....my brother stepfather and I are here, constantly, soaking in every single thing we can.

Cherishing the moments, making memories, JUST BEING HERE FOR HER AND EACH OTHER.

Aug 6th, the onco said 4-6 weeks, we are well into our 5th week. Mom still eats some, communicates some, although silly at this point with the brain issues......

It breaks my heart that I will soon be losing her, but I would not trade the time we have spent together, and getting to have this time, for anything in this world....

My best to you all in your journeys...

Elysia

Comments

  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    #2
    Elysia,
    Thank you so much
    Elysia,

    Thank you so much for your beautiful post. I envy you being able to be there by your mothers side every day as she fights this horrible cancer. Your tenderness and love shine through the words on the pages. You demonstrate grace and the blessings of being there for your loved ones. I wish you peace and more wonderful moments with your mom and of course you will always have the cherished memories of your entire life to remeber and share with others in the future.

    I will keep you, your mom and your family in my prayers.

    Cindy
  • hope0310
    hope0310 Member Posts: 320
    #3
    unclaw2002 said:

    Elysia,
    Thank you so much
    Elysia,

    Thank you so much for your beautiful post. I envy you being able to be there by your mothers side every day as she fights this horrible cancer. Your tenderness and love shine through the words on the pages. You demonstrate grace and the blessings of being there for your loved ones. I wish you peace and more wonderful moments with your mom and of course you will always have the cherished memories of your entire life to remeber and share with others in the future.

    I will keep you, your mom and your family in my prayers.

    Cindy

    Don't Tell Me...
    Don't tell
    Don't Tell Me...







    Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know,







    Don't tell me that I will survive, how I will surely grow.







    Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed,







    That I am chosen for this task, apart from all the rest.







    Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me,







    Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.







    Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie,







    Don't tell me how to suffer, don't tell me how to cry.







    My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see,







    But I need you, I need your love, unconditionally.







    Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share,







    Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say,







    "My friend, I really do care."







    Author Unknown
  • K_ann1015
    K_ann1015 Member Posts: 500
    #4
    hope0310 said:

    Don't Tell Me...
    Don't tell
    Don't Tell Me...







    Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know,







    Don't tell me that I will survive, how I will surely grow.







    Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed,







    That I am chosen for this task, apart from all the rest.







    Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me,







    Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.







    Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie,







    Don't tell me how to suffer, don't tell me how to cry.







    My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see,







    But I need you, I need your love, unconditionally.







    Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share,







    Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say,







    "My friend, I really do care."







    Author Unknown

    thank you---
    one of the most touching posts I have seen

    thanks-------
  • dragonflymom
    dragonflymom Member Posts: 46
    #5
    Hugs and thank you for
    Hugs and thank you for sharing.
  • JimsBrother
    JimsBrother Member Posts: 94
    #6
    dragonflymom said:

    Hugs and thank you for
    Hugs and thank you for sharing.

    Beautiful
    Hope,

    I printed out a copy and have it next to my computer. I have read it over and over throughout the day. Thank you for posting that.

    Rob
  • sandy1943
    sandy1943 Member Posts: 824
    #7
    Thanks so much for the
    Thanks so much for the beautiful poem---It is so true. No one knows what we go through personally and a true friend will just hold our hand and offer up prayers to God to give us comfort.
    Sandra

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