The Children

kikiz
kikiz Member Posts: 94
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
I have been reading the posts awhile and have responded a couple times. After reading Dorian's post I had to write this. I hear in the media all the time about how bad the kids of today are. Well, I know they could not possibly be talking about the kids whose parents have this awful diagnoses. I have watched the young ones who may not even remember their mom when she was healthy stay by her side, behave and just give her a gentle hug when her skin is too sore from treatments too take more. I have watched teenagers (like mine) juggle helping me, school, activitie and friends and still find time to help a neighbor. I have seen grown children with families of their own helping to take care of their moms. I just wanted to let all the children that look on this board that have a parent that has this dx know that if you are an example of the future, what a bright one it will be for all.
Lori

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  • Lisa13Q
    Lisa13Q Member Posts: 677
    #2
    Thanks
    I am an adult child of a mom with this disease, but I am going to thank you for that nice note.
  • msfanciful
    msfanciful Member Posts: 559
    #3
    You are absolutely
    You are absolutely right.

    These beautiful blessings are often overlooked and not given enough
    credit.

    Kudos to you for that observation.


    Sharon
  • RandiK
    RandiK Member Posts: 31
    #4
    thanks
    I'm a grown child whose Mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer earlier this year. Even though I'm 33 yrs old when we got this diagnosis I almost went crazy. Thank God my husband understood that I had to be there with my Mom. She only lives 20 miles from me but I was there every day from daylight till way after dark just to sit and visit or clean and cook and bless his heart he never said a word when I climbed in bed to tired to talk most nights. Yes it is amazing how kids understand stuff. My sister has 2 small children, a 5 and 3 yr old. We were at Parkland in Dallas and finally MD Anderson in Houston, where she finally got treatment, but had nobody to leave the kids with. We drug those babies with us every step of the way, and they never once complained. Thank goodness for my husband and their Dad that stayed behind with them in hotel rooms, lol. While all of this was going on, the only way my sister could explain to her kids what was going on was the "Mamaw had a round ball in her stomach that the Drs had to take out because it was making her sick", we did give the 5yr old the name "tumor" to go with it, but this was all the explanation these kids needed. They were so good, even now 9 months later, after surgery, they are very defensive of Mamaw, they want everybody to be careful and not bump her because she had surgery. It's cute now how they watch over her, but I do think it's sad that at 3 and 5 they now know words like "tumor" and "cancer" and "chemo".
  • queenieb52
    queenieb52 Member Posts: 48 Member
    #5
    RandiK said:

    thanks
    I'm a grown child whose Mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer earlier this year. Even though I'm 33 yrs old when we got this diagnosis I almost went crazy. Thank God my husband understood that I had to be there with my Mom. She only lives 20 miles from me but I was there every day from daylight till way after dark just to sit and visit or clean and cook and bless his heart he never said a word when I climbed in bed to tired to talk most nights. Yes it is amazing how kids understand stuff. My sister has 2 small children, a 5 and 3 yr old. We were at Parkland in Dallas and finally MD Anderson in Houston, where she finally got treatment, but had nobody to leave the kids with. We drug those babies with us every step of the way, and they never once complained. Thank goodness for my husband and their Dad that stayed behind with them in hotel rooms, lol. While all of this was going on, the only way my sister could explain to her kids what was going on was the "Mamaw had a round ball in her stomach that the Drs had to take out because it was making her sick", we did give the 5yr old the name "tumor" to go with it, but this was all the explanation these kids needed. They were so good, even now 9 months later, after surgery, they are very defensive of Mamaw, they want everybody to be careful and not bump her because she had surgery. It's cute now how they watch over her, but I do think it's sad that at 3 and 5 they now know words like "tumor" and "cancer" and "chemo".

    My kids have been my hero's
    i watched my own Mom fight breast cancer- for yrs past when they said she should be gone. I did what I could...all that I knew to do anyways- to help her. She passed @ 63 in '97. Fast forward to May of '09 and I was dx with stage 3 OVC. My kids have been here for me- hands down. And I know the thoughts that are most likely in their heads.I prayed every night before I fell asleep for Mom...please God, help my Mom get well. My 2 sons' gave up their apartments & moved back in with me ( 22 & 26 at the time), to help me out, as I had lost my job right after surgery. My daughter, who still lives in NY pitched in financially also to help. Most importantly...they have all been there for Mom - without question. My husband ,who passed away in July '07 would be proud of our kids. I know I am... Beth
  • Barbara53
    Barbara53 Member Posts: 652
    #6
    I could not agree more
    My mother's disease has brought our family together in strange ways, and the few sibling issues we had are now laid to rest. But one of the loveliest developments has been the weekly phone calls, invitations for ice cream, and other attentions paid by my nephew (her grandson, one of many) and his wife. They're a busy young couple with two preschool kids, but they make time for Mom. It would suit me fine if they were someday elected to be king and queen of the universe.

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