12 year old told me she was bi sexual, do they know at that age?
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Laura
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I wouldn't make a big deal out of it
At this age, kids are bombarded with too much information and "labeling." I remember being young and kind of experimenting (Gah! I hope my family isn't reading this) Grade school-ish age. It was just something you did. We all turned out "straight." No biggie. Remember playing doctor? Wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
But, if one of my kids did come to me at an older age and said he was gay...it is what is is. My kid is my kid no matter what.
Cindy0 -
Had the same experienceSnowkitty said:I wouldn't make a big deal out of it
At this age, kids are bombarded with too much information and "labeling." I remember being young and kind of experimenting (Gah! I hope my family isn't reading this) Grade school-ish age. It was just something you did. We all turned out "straight." No biggie. Remember playing doctor? Wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
But, if one of my kids did come to me at an older age and said he was gay...it is what is is. My kid is my kid no matter what.
Cindy
My daughter told me she was "bi" when she entered college....she thought. However, she decided that that was a moment of confusion. She had been abused by a family friend earlier in the piece, and that probably pushed her over the edge for a bit.
AT the age of ANYTHING I think kids get a sense of who they are. Mine was confused for awhile, but you know, dh and I never stopped loving this adorable child. She has been married for 10 years to a wonderful man who knows of her past history, and is at peace with it. That's all that matters.....we love our kids, we want them happy.
AT the age of 12, you kiddo may be a bit confused...or could know right on. Either way, you'll work though this. It seems that you've started, and are an excepting and loving parent. What more could your children ask?0 -
Had the same experienceSnowkitty said:I wouldn't make a big deal out of it
At this age, kids are bombarded with too much information and "labeling." I remember being young and kind of experimenting (Gah! I hope my family isn't reading this) Grade school-ish age. It was just something you did. We all turned out "straight." No biggie. Remember playing doctor? Wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
But, if one of my kids did come to me at an older age and said he was gay...it is what is is. My kid is my kid no matter what.
Cindy
My daughter told me she was "bi" when she entered college....she thought. However, she decided that that was a moment of confusion. She had been abused by a family friend earlier in the piece, and that probably pushed her over the edge for a bit.
AT the age of ANYTHING I think kids get a sense of who they are. Mine was confused for awhile, but you know, dh and I never stopped loving this adorable child. She has been married for 10 years to a wonderful man who knows of her past history, and is at peace with it. That's all that matters.....we love our kids, we want them happy.
AT the age of 12, you kiddo may be a bit confused...or could know right on. Either way, you'll work though this. It seems that you've started, and are an excepting and loving parent. What more could your children ask?0 -
Had the same experienceSnowkitty said:I wouldn't make a big deal out of it
At this age, kids are bombarded with too much information and "labeling." I remember being young and kind of experimenting (Gah! I hope my family isn't reading this) Grade school-ish age. It was just something you did. We all turned out "straight." No biggie. Remember playing doctor? Wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
But, if one of my kids did come to me at an older age and said he was gay...it is what is is. My kid is my kid no matter what.
Cindy
My daughter told me she was "bi" when she entered college....she thought. However, she decided that that was a moment of confusion. She had been abused by a family friend earlier in the piece, and that probably pushed her over the edge for a bit.
AT the age of ANYTHING I think kids get a sense of who they are. Mine was confused for awhile, but you know, dh and I never stopped loving this adorable child. She has been married for 10 years to a wonderful man who knows of her past history, and is at peace with it. That's all that matters.....we love our kids, we want them happy.
AT the age of 12, you kiddo may be a bit confused...or could know right on. Either way, you'll work though this. It seems that you've started, and are an excepting and loving parent. What more could your children ask?0 -
I dont know if you had seensurvives said:Had the same experience
My daughter told me she was "bi" when she entered college....she thought. However, she decided that that was a moment of confusion. She had been abused by a family friend earlier in the piece, and that probably pushed her over the edge for a bit.
AT the age of ANYTHING I think kids get a sense of who they are. Mine was confused for awhile, but you know, dh and I never stopped loving this adorable child. She has been married for 10 years to a wonderful man who knows of her past history, and is at peace with it. That's all that matters.....we love our kids, we want them happy.
AT the age of 12, you kiddo may be a bit confused...or could know right on. Either way, you'll work though this. It seems that you've started, and are an excepting and loving parent. What more could your children ask?
I dont know if you had seen an earlier post a couple of days ago about my now ex boyfriend or not. But when you mentioned that she had been abused by someone, i froze and my heart dropped. She told me that he did something to her too and i am going to take her to childrens to be evaluated if she ever gets out of bed. She told me this info last night as well, so maybe she just doesnt want anything to do with any boy right now, which is totally understanding. This AS* forced me when i shouldnt have done anything because i had just had a total hysterectomy and my dr even said four more weeks because my vaginal cap wasnt healed. Im starting to see a connection and some light on how she is feeling. Im so glad you replied. I feel blessed too that she was able to come and talk to me about it. All my kids talk to me and i tell them that i will never judge you. I might be dissapointed with them on something, but will always love them. Thank you again so much!!!
Laura0 -
Great momlolad said:I dont know if you had seen
I dont know if you had seen an earlier post a couple of days ago about my now ex boyfriend or not. But when you mentioned that she had been abused by someone, i froze and my heart dropped. She told me that he did something to her too and i am going to take her to childrens to be evaluated if she ever gets out of bed. She told me this info last night as well, so maybe she just doesnt want anything to do with any boy right now, which is totally understanding. This AS* forced me when i shouldnt have done anything because i had just had a total hysterectomy and my dr even said four more weeks because my vaginal cap wasnt healed. Im starting to see a connection and some light on how she is feeling. Im so glad you replied. I feel blessed too that she was able to come and talk to me about it. All my kids talk to me and i tell them that i will never judge you. I might be dissapointed with them on something, but will always love them. Thank you again so much!!!
Laura
How great that
Great mom How great that your kids know they can talk with you about anything. There are so many parents out there who aren't there for their kids when it comes to that sort of thing.
It may be a phase, she may be confused, may be from the abuse, or even a combination of all these things. Just be there for her and keep assuring her that you'll love her & still be her mom no matter what. I have a 9 yr old daughter myself and we also have a very open communication & she knows she can talk to mom about anything.
*God bless and big hugs to you and your daughter*
Heather0 -
How neat that she is opening up to you...Heatherbelle said:Great mom
How great that
Great mom How great that your kids know they can talk with you about anything. There are so many parents out there who aren't there for their kids when it comes to that sort of thing.
It may be a phase, she may be confused, may be from the abuse, or even a combination of all these things. Just be there for her and keep assuring her that you'll love her & still be her mom no matter what. I have a 9 yr old daughter myself and we also have a very open communication & she knows she can talk to mom about anything.
*God bless and big hugs to you and your daughter*
Heather
Like everybody else has said, I would'nt worry about this. She could be testing you just to see how you will react. My son tried to tell me he as gay about a year ago. He now has a girlfriend and chuckles every time he and I talk about this. He said he was just considering an alternative life style because he didn't think a nice girl could possibly interested in him. She'll be just fine and keep having those open conversations with you. Those talks will work miracles as she gets older.0 -
loladmrs gadget said:How neat that she is opening up to you...
Like everybody else has said, I would'nt worry about this. She could be testing you just to see how you will react. My son tried to tell me he as gay about a year ago. He now has a girlfriend and chuckles every time he and I talk about this. He said he was just considering an alternative life style because he didn't think a nice girl could possibly interested in him. She'll be just fine and keep having those open conversations with you. Those talks will work miracles as she gets older.
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