Another huge step.....

bingles
bingles Member Posts: 120 Member
edited March 2014 in Grief and Bereavement #1
Hi All....hoping that everyone is coping as best as possible....I see that Fay is headed off on a big RV adventure....hope peace and contentment surround her and her travel buddies and they have an awesome trip.
Well the job is going well....I am offically now full time...while that was not my intent I am finding that I like the idea...five days/week I am up and out of the house and functioning in life.
Before Bill got sick we had started to work on going on a cruise...I had been on one in my single days and he had never been...and seeing as we never got past the planning stage when cancer knocked us out of the game....I took a leap of faith and booked my self on a 5 day cruise to Bermuda...I was going to go alone....and just spend the time quietly..but a dear friend of mine is going to go with me...she has been my rock though this whole ordeal...Its not until early spring as I just started the job...but its booked...and I am going!
I now have something to look forward to....its going to be sad...but happy at the same time...he really wanted to go on one....it just never happened and now it will.
Its odd how life just seems to right itself after a time...you think it will never level out and than one day..at least some of the pieces fall into place and things just seem to be ok...it will never be good...but I will settle for better.
Blessings to all..
Pat

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  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #2
    Thanks
    Double post. The Internet service is a bit spotty.
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
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    Thanks
    Thanks for your thoughts. I made it without a hitch. I am really beginning to gain confidence. We will see how the return trip goes. We drove from CA to PA in four and a half days. I was actually following a friend so I didn't have to worry about getting lost. There were six of us, three women, my two teen age granddaughters, and the teen age son of my friend. He opted to sleep in their car instead of with five females. Anyway, I feel really good about driving the motorhome here. We were going to trade off driving it, but I actually ended up driving the whole way. I am really tired, but wohoo. I did it!

    I am really glad you are taking that cruise. It will be another step forward. Each one we take makes us stronger. Fay
  • halsons
    halsons Member Posts: 76
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    grandmafay said:

    Thanks
    Thanks for your thoughts. I made it without a hitch. I am really beginning to gain confidence. We will see how the return trip goes. We drove from CA to PA in four and a half days. I was actually following a friend so I didn't have to worry about getting lost. There were six of us, three women, my two teen age granddaughters, and the teen age son of my friend. He opted to sleep in their car instead of with five females. Anyway, I feel really good about driving the motorhome here. We were going to trade off driving it, but I actually ended up driving the whole way. I am really tired, but wohoo. I did it!

    I am really glad you are taking that cruise. It will be another step forward. Each one we take makes us stronger. Fay

    making us stronger
    I am very glad to see both you both Fay and Pat taking risks and doing well with it. I really liked what you said Fay " Each step will make us stronger." This is something I need to remember. It has been 6 months since Sonny passed away and sometimes I feel like I am getting stronger and sometimes I feel worse than I did right when we died. I am getting out and trying to get involved in bowling and raquetball with some of my friends who have lost their husbands also. We all have great resourses here with this discussion group and I am very thankful for all of you. Thanks again for all the encouragement. Haley
  • closs86
    closs86 Member Posts: 85
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    halsons said:

    making us stronger
    I am very glad to see both you both Fay and Pat taking risks and doing well with it. I really liked what you said Fay " Each step will make us stronger." This is something I need to remember. It has been 6 months since Sonny passed away and sometimes I feel like I am getting stronger and sometimes I feel worse than I did right when we died. I am getting out and trying to get involved in bowling and raquetball with some of my friends who have lost their husbands also. We all have great resourses here with this discussion group and I am very thankful for all of you. Thanks again for all the encouragement. Haley

    encouragement
    Hi Fay, Pat and Haley,
    You guys are great, you are strong women and I am proud of you, you are my role models, I hope to find strength from your stories and your pushing ahead. I am trying to do that, I am working going with my friends for dinner, trying to keep busy most of the time, also trying to unclutter my life, getting rid of a lot of things, and trying to condense everything in case the day comes that i have to move. I know that Johnny is giving me strength from wherever he is, i can feel it. I have been driving as much as i can, I was disappointed today, I had to go to a dr visit, my doctor is about a half hour away, highways, my son had to take me, I was so mad at myself for not being able to do it, I wanted to so bad, but I wasen't sure of the route and a little weary of the highway. so mad at myself. I have to get past this. I have to.
    Take care everyone
    Hugs
    Karen
  • closs86
    closs86 Member Posts: 85
    #6
    halsons said:

    making us stronger
    I am very glad to see both you both Fay and Pat taking risks and doing well with it. I really liked what you said Fay " Each step will make us stronger." This is something I need to remember. It has been 6 months since Sonny passed away and sometimes I feel like I am getting stronger and sometimes I feel worse than I did right when we died. I am getting out and trying to get involved in bowling and raquetball with some of my friends who have lost their husbands also. We all have great resourses here with this discussion group and I am very thankful for all of you. Thanks again for all the encouragement. Haley

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    somehow posted twice
  • halsons
    halsons Member Posts: 76
    #7
    closs86 said:

    encouragement
    Hi Fay, Pat and Haley,
    You guys are great, you are strong women and I am proud of you, you are my role models, I hope to find strength from your stories and your pushing ahead. I am trying to do that, I am working going with my friends for dinner, trying to keep busy most of the time, also trying to unclutter my life, getting rid of a lot of things, and trying to condense everything in case the day comes that i have to move. I know that Johnny is giving me strength from wherever he is, i can feel it. I have been driving as much as i can, I was disappointed today, I had to go to a dr visit, my doctor is about a half hour away, highways, my son had to take me, I was so mad at myself for not being able to do it, I wanted to so bad, but I wasen't sure of the route and a little weary of the highway. so mad at myself. I have to get past this. I have to.
    Take care everyone
    Hugs
    Karen

    You can do it
    Karen,
    You will be able to very soon just keep trying. You are strong also and in time you will be able to things you can't do now. We all are here for you don't forget that. Haley

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