Has Cancer Been ALL Bad For You?

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  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
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    computer
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    That is the reason why this happens
  • Hondo
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    Hi blessing

    Very well said, I enjoyed reading your post.

    Take care
  • dixiegirl
    dixiegirl Member Posts: 1,043 Member
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    RE said:

    I have put off answering
    I have put off answering this question as I thought it through. Cancer has been an in my face part of my life since I was 17 and my mom was dx with breast cancer. We battled it with her for 27 years, then my sister got it, then I got it. I lost my mom, sister,an aunt, sister in-law, two brother in-laws, and one very good friend all to cancer. It has done little to bring joy into my life, however there has been good that has come from my cancer battles.

    1) My father found religion and has a strong faith that God is out there.
    2) My husband found God which surprised the dickens out of me, but gave me much joy.
    3) Cancer has given me the special people I have met here.
    4) Insight into what is truly important and what is not worth arguing over.
    5) Has given myself, my husband and my children the reality that we do not live forever and we should value each other and everyday.
    6) Cancer is an illness it is not ME, I am more than cancer and I choose to be happy in spite of all that cancer has done to my family and myself.
    7) It has given me a greater awareness of my surroundings like the clouds, animals, beauty of the waves, mountains, birds singing and such.
    8) I do believe it has given my husband and I a greater appreciation for one another.

    I am sure there are other things I could come up with but for now this is my list. My best to each of you.

    RE

    ABSOLUTELY RE
    I couldn't say it better!
  • Shayenne
    Shayenne Member Posts: 2,342
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    Hondo said:

    Hi blessing

    Very well said, I enjoyed reading your post.

    Take care

    Me Too!
    Very well said, I totally agree.
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    Me Too!
    Very well said, I totally agree.

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  • PhillieG
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    You seem to be
    Miserable before and miserable after getting cancer.
    Mourning your "life" isn't gonna do you any good while your still alive.

    I appreciated my life before cancer but it gave me an even greater appreciation for it since then. No one says you have to be happy that you have cancer. I could do without if for sure but I've had positive things come out of it. You seem to be missing the point of the post. it's NOT about being HAPPY you have cancer at all.

    There is no scientific evidence of lots of things, that doesn't make them false. But studies have shown that positive thinking CAN help in recovery.

    Maybe if I had your type of personality I'd feel the same way. Thankfully I don't.
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    PhillieG said:

    You seem to be
    Miserable before and miserable after getting cancer.
    Mourning your "life" isn't gonna do you any good while your still alive.

    I appreciated my life before cancer but it gave me an even greater appreciation for it since then. No one says you have to be happy that you have cancer. I could do without if for sure but I've had positive things come out of it. You seem to be missing the point of the post. it's NOT about being HAPPY you have cancer at all.

    There is no scientific evidence of lots of things, that doesn't make them false. But studies have shown that positive thinking CAN help in recovery.

    Maybe if I had your type of personality I'd feel the same way. Thankfully I don't.

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  • PhillieG
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    I agree with you
    I have no clue who you are at all just as you have no clue who I am.
    Some people can not find anything good out of a situation that is not very good to begin with. Sorry that your perfect life is over...
    Bye
  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
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    Cancer
    I guess I can’t say it was all that bad; it made me thankful for the people in my life that I have somehow overlooked; It made my Wife, children and I grow closer together and to be thankful for every new day we live. The pain has been hard but somehow every time I help someone through there fight with cancer I find that it was worth all the pain and suffering. Being a Christian may be I understand a little how Jesus felt when he died for all like me.

    Good tread Phil
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    PhillieG said:

    I agree with you
    I have no clue who you are at all just as you have no clue who I am.
    Some people can not find anything good out of a situation that is not very good to begin with. Sorry that your perfect life is over...
    Bye

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  • PhillieG
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    Who said BITTER?
    I think I used the word "miserable". No one expects you to do cartwheels over cancer. You could be dead instead of getting through at least part of it or all of your cancer. You did not post anything about your background other than that you joined June 22 2010 so who knows how you wound up on this site and no one says you have to post anything.

    I have found some people are worse off than than me and some are better off. Most people have found something positive that came out of this although I will say that I was surprised how many Christians used the word "hate" when talking about cancer and they found nothing good out of it. One might think that if God has predetermined our lives and only gives us what we can handle that they would look at it differently. I do not believe in all of that so it's moot to me as to how I got cancer. The point is I have it. Now I can look at things in a positive way or I can be miserable about it (or bitter and angry). I see no point in that at all, it's a waste of time.
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  • Glenna M
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    PhillieG said:

    Who said BITTER?
    I think I used the word "miserable". No one expects you to do cartwheels over cancer. You could be dead instead of getting through at least part of it or all of your cancer. You did not post anything about your background other than that you joined June 22 2010 so who knows how you wound up on this site and no one says you have to post anything.

    I have found some people are worse off than than me and some are better off. Most people have found something positive that came out of this although I will say that I was surprised how many Christians used the word "hate" when talking about cancer and they found nothing good out of it. One might think that if God has predetermined our lives and only gives us what we can handle that they would look at it differently. I do not believe in all of that so it's moot to me as to how I got cancer. The point is I have it. Now I can look at things in a positive way or I can be miserable about it (or bitter and angry). I see no point in that at all, it's a waste of time.

    I know better...
    I know better than to get involved in this discussion but I am going to anyways ;-)

    Cancerite says she has been in mourning since June of 2008. Two years of mourning??? Unless you enjoy being sad,angry,bitter or depressed about something that happened to you 2 years ago I would like to suggest counseling. I have had several family members die from cancer and I mourned them, but not for 2 years and I loved them dearly.

    As you said Phil, she has not posted anything in her profile which makes me wonder...hmmmmm why she came to this website in the first place. If she was looking for help, advice or encouragement it is understandable as this is an excellent site full of many helpful people. But she hasn't, so I wonder about her reasons for posting at all. Granted, anyone can post but we get enough angry, depressing posts (understandably) from those who are still in treatment or have been given a terminal diagnosis.

    I have not been cured, I am in remission (from two seperate types of cancer)and the doctors have told me that this is as good as it gets but I am not bitter or angry. I also loved my precancer life but I have learned to live my "new" life and enjoy it. I'm not bitter or sad because those emotions would take away from the quality of what time I have left. I prefer to be happy and live my life to the fullest everyday.

    I hope this post doesn't "open a can of worms" and I do not want to hurt anyones feelings but I just had to say how I feel and what I think. Sometimes I just don't know enough to keep my mouth shut ;-)

    My best to everyone,
    Glenna
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
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    Glenna M said:

    I know better...
    I know better than to get involved in this discussion but I am going to anyways ;-)

    Cancerite says she has been in mourning since June of 2008. Two years of mourning??? Unless you enjoy being sad,angry,bitter or depressed about something that happened to you 2 years ago I would like to suggest counseling. I have had several family members die from cancer and I mourned them, but not for 2 years and I loved them dearly.

    As you said Phil, she has not posted anything in her profile which makes me wonder...hmmmmm why she came to this website in the first place. If she was looking for help, advice or encouragement it is understandable as this is an excellent site full of many helpful people. But she hasn't, so I wonder about her reasons for posting at all. Granted, anyone can post but we get enough angry, depressing posts (understandably) from those who are still in treatment or have been given a terminal diagnosis.

    I have not been cured, I am in remission (from two seperate types of cancer)and the doctors have told me that this is as good as it gets but I am not bitter or angry. I also loved my precancer life but I have learned to live my "new" life and enjoy it. I'm not bitter or sad because those emotions would take away from the quality of what time I have left. I prefer to be happy and live my life to the fullest everyday.

    I hope this post doesn't "open a can of worms" and I do not want to hurt anyones feelings but I just had to say how I feel and what I think. Sometimes I just don't know enough to keep my mouth shut ;-)

    My best to everyone,
    Glenna

    Glenna
    Very well put. You have a much smoother style than I have.
    I've found that I have had several "new normals".
    I find you can either roll with the punches or you can sink like a rock.
    (or you can Rock & Roll)
    -phil

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