A necessary break

Jaylo969
Jaylo969 Member Posts: 824 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Hi folks,

Unfortunately I will not have much time to be on the forum in the coming days.I have been off chemo 1 month and now cancer has hit my family again. Today my 81 yr old Mother was diagnosed with metastatic lung and possibly throat cancer. Her doctor called me and says surgery is probably out of the question due to several factors.She goes to a pulmonary doc Tuesday who will do some tests including a biopsy.PCP says the CT looks bad and it looks very aggresive. My Dad who is an invalid is at home on Hospice and we are being told that we might have to make other arrangements for him. We have little family, little money...not enough to hire sitters for him around the clock. Ah man, I hate cancer.

Just wanted to give you all a heads up that I am not leaving permanently. Just gotta' do what I gotta' do. I'll try to check in and at least read and keep up on you guys.

Much thanks to all of you...for the support, friendship, encouragement. You all have been such a blessing to me.

Best wishes to each & every one of you.You are all jewels.

-Pat

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  • pf78248
    pf78248 Member Posts: 209
    #2
    Oh, Pat, so sorry
    First of all, congratulations on finishing your chemo. I hope you feel better physically very soon. But I am so sorry to learn of your family situation. I am sad for your Mother and your Father, too. May you have strength to heal yourself and help the folks. I sure hope someone, a friend or family member, steps up to help. Are your folks members of a church? You would be amazed at all a church can do to help out. Please post as you can and know that so many on this board will be with you.

    Hugs and Healing,
    Priscilla
  • amyb15
    amyb15 Member Posts: 109 Member
    #3
    pf78248 said:

    Oh, Pat, so sorry
    First of all, congratulations on finishing your chemo. I hope you feel better physically very soon. But I am so sorry to learn of your family situation. I am sad for your Mother and your Father, too. May you have strength to heal yourself and help the folks. I sure hope someone, a friend or family member, steps up to help. Are your folks members of a church? You would be amazed at all a church can do to help out. Please post as you can and know that so many on this board will be with you.

    Hugs and Healing,
    Priscilla

    pat,
    that is terrible about
    pat,
    that is terrible about your mother. You must be devasted especaily after all you have benn through. Cancer is a horrible beast that effects almost everyone in some way or another. Post when you can with any updates about your mom.
    On a better noted, it is GREAT you finished your chemo. Hope you are back to great health soon. You will need your stength to help your parents.
    sending prayers and good wishes to you and your parents.
    Amy
  • AnnaLeigh
    AnnaLeigh Member Posts: 187 Member
    #4
    Thoughts and prayers are with you
    Pat,

    Sorry to hear about your mother's diagnosis and that you are having to deal with so much at this time.

    We will all pray for you and your family and especially for the strength you will need in the days ahead.
  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
    #5
    Oh Pat
    Pat,
    Oh, I am so sorry to hear about your parents. I don't know what to say except I will hold you all in the light and say a prayer for your precious family.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    #6
    Kathleen808 said:

    Oh Pat
    Pat,
    Oh, I am so sorry to hear about your parents. I don't know what to say except I will hold you all in the light and say a prayer for your precious family.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen

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  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    #7
    Pat:)
    Hi Pat

    It's always very humbling to find out what everyone elese goes through in their daily lives - it keeps me very grounded and less self absorbed. So many of us have so many challenges to overcome and handle.

    I wish you had more resources available, I certainly understand not having an abundance of either.

    I can't say anything magical to ease your burdens this morning - I can see the road you are about to walk down and it is troubling, but as a very strong woman, I hope that you can circle the wagons and do what you gotta' do as you said. This is really all that strength and courage is when you boil it all down. And you've got both.

    I'll miss you - I'll be dropping off as well in a couple of weeks to do surgery, so we'll both catch each other on the flip-flop, ok?

    All the Best
    Craig
  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #8
    Sorry
    So sorry that you are yet going to go through another battle. This is awful. Please remember to take care of yourself as you are going to go through another roller coaster. You are in my thoughts.

    Kim
  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
    #9
    Pat,
    I am so sorry to hear
    Pat,

    I am so sorry to hear of your mother's diagnosis. You really have your hands full, dealing with health issues for both your parents + yourself. Thanks for letting us know that you won't be as active on the board. I will miss you but totally understand.
  • Aud
    Aud Member Posts: 479 Member
    #10
    Pat, I am so sorry about
    Pat, I am so sorry about what your parents are going through. Holding you and your parents in the Light for strength, healing, and peace.
    ~Audrey
  • lizzydavis
    lizzydavis Member Posts: 893
    #11
    Aud said:

    Pat, I am so sorry about
    Pat, I am so sorry about what your parents are going through. Holding you and your parents in the Light for strength, healing, and peace.
    ~Audrey

    Hi Pat,
    Hi Pat,

    Please remember that we are keeping you close to us in prayer and spirit.

    Lizzy
  • Jaylo969
    Jaylo969 Member Posts: 824 Member
    #12
    lizzydavis said:

    Hi Pat,
    Hi Pat,

    Please remember that we are keeping you close to us in prayer and spirit.

    Lizzy

    Home for a minute
    Taking the time to catch up on you guys. The last few days have been very hectic. Tomorrow is the day...biopsy and a bunch of other tests for my Mom.I hope the Cat Scan lied...but I am a realist and I am frantically working to make sure my parents are well taken care of.

    I realized very quickly that I cannot tend my Dad anymore. Just changing a diaper pulled my guts badly and I am paying the price. I will have to get someone else to do it, huh?

    Thanks so much to those of you who replied. It truly helped to know that people care.

    Out again for a few days. Y'all take care and be well.

    -Pat
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #13
    Goodness
    Pat, I'm so sorry about all this. You and your family certainly do have a heavy burden right now. I'll be praying that things will fall into place to make it all a bit easier.

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • greybeard
    greybeard Member Posts: 24
    #14
    Damn!
    Sorry to hear this news, Ill be thinking of ya. And dont forget to take care of yourself during this "break". Bless you.
    Chris

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