Daddy lost his battle this morning

Shanty
Shanty Member Posts: 12
edited March 2014 in Esophageal Cancer #1
At around 4am this morning, my sweet daddy went home to be with the Lord. This cancer came quick and took him quick. I wanted to thank everyone here for there support, help, and information. I plan on staying on this discussion board and maybe be of some help to someone else that fights this nasty disease.

Thanks to all of you and God Bless!
Shantel and Family

Comments

  • dragonflymom
    dragonflymom Member Posts: 46
    Hugs Shantel, I'm so very
    Hugs Shantel, I'm so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

    Amy
  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    So sorry to hear about your dad
    Shantel,

    I am sorry to hear about your dad. I am glad that he had a chance to be home with his family during his last days and had the help of hospice to make him more comfortable.

    Now he is in a place where the pain is gone and he is no longer parilized. My God wrap his loving arms around your dad, you, and your family as you say goodbye for now.

    With sincere condolances,

    Paul Adams
    AKA "paul61"
    McCormick, South Carolina
  • faye082
    faye082 Member Posts: 14
    So sorry...
    I am so sorry for your loss. I know your Dad is up in heaven smiling down and you will see him again someday...Lots of hugs and prayers coming your way!

    faye
  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    Shantel,
    I am so sorry to

    Shantel,

    I am so sorry to hear your news. It is heartbreaking that so many sweet individuals are struck by this horrible cancer. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. NO words can convey my thoughts to you at this time but I will send you a virtual hug.

    Keep the faith and I really appreciated your committment to stay on this site to help others. I am sure your father is very proud of you.

    All the best to you during this difficult time.

    Cindy
  • Betty in Vegas
    Betty in Vegas Member Posts: 290 Member

    Hugs Shantel, I'm so very
    Hugs Shantel, I'm so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

    Amy

    I am so sorry
    Our prayers are with you and your family. So sorry for your loss...
  • ndmp
    ndmp Member Posts: 36

    Shantel,
    I am so sorry to

    Shantel,

    I am so sorry to hear your news. It is heartbreaking that so many sweet individuals are struck by this horrible cancer. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. NO words can convey my thoughts to you at this time but I will send you a virtual hug.

    Keep the faith and I really appreciated your committment to stay on this site to help others. I am sure your father is very proud of you.

    All the best to you during this difficult time.

    Cindy

    I am so sorry
    Shantel,

    I am so sorry to hear that your dear father lost his battle to this beast. My father also lost his battle to this beast. You have made a good decision to stay on and keep fighting this horrid disease. The cure can't come soon enough. It wont come in time to save our dear father's but I pray that it will be here to spare another daughter from lossing her dad.
    Hugs to you and your family.
    Nicole
  • Pghmomma
    Pghmomma Member Posts: 141
    ndmp said:

    I am so sorry
    Shantel,

    I am so sorry to hear that your dear father lost his battle to this beast. My father also lost his battle to this beast. You have made a good decision to stay on and keep fighting this horrid disease. The cure can't come soon enough. It wont come in time to save our dear father's but I pray that it will be here to spare another daughter from lossing her dad.
    Hugs to you and your family.
    Nicole

    I am sorry
    to hear that your father lost his battle, Im sure he is in a much better place now. My dad also lost is battle too soon. He was able to hear the words cancer free tho. Its hard but hang in there!

    God bless
    tina
  • mikesmom01
    mikesmom01 Member Posts: 27
    So very sorry
    I'm so very sorry for your loss Shantel. This horrible cancer may have won the battel, but your dad won the war! May God bless you and comfort you and your family as you grieve his loss.My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you.
    Martha
  • mdemetrius
    mdemetrius Member Posts: 22
    Your family is in our prayers...
    Thank you for sharing your story with us. We will definitely be praying for you.
  • K_ann1015
    K_ann1015 Member Posts: 500
    Shantel,
    I am so sorry to

    Shantel,

    I am so sorry to hear that you lost your dad today. I am glad he is no longer suffering, but the loss you feel is not consolation. I don't have great words of wisdom either, but hope you find comfort in that so many here care about you & your family even though we have not met in person! I am old enough to still think that is pretty weird, but I find this CSN support is a lifesaver! I know he was met with loving, caring arms and has his "heavenly body" now---no more pain or difficulties that have recently affected him. He was lucky to have you & the rest of the family there to support & love him----that love can live on by you planning to help others in this EC "rollercoaster". Maybe someday we can work together to get a national EC Awareness month! & more research $$$ specifically for EC detection, prevention & treatment...
    As a daughter to though---I know you need some time to rest & heal.
    Lots of love & hugs form all of us...
    kim
  • Donna70
    Donna70 Member Posts: 852 Member
    K_ann1015 said:

    Shantel,
    I am so sorry to

    Shantel,

    I am so sorry to hear that you lost your dad today. I am glad he is no longer suffering, but the loss you feel is not consolation. I don't have great words of wisdom either, but hope you find comfort in that so many here care about you & your family even though we have not met in person! I am old enough to still think that is pretty weird, but I find this CSN support is a lifesaver! I know he was met with loving, caring arms and has his "heavenly body" now---no more pain or difficulties that have recently affected him. He was lucky to have you & the rest of the family there to support & love him----that love can live on by you planning to help others in this EC "rollercoaster". Maybe someday we can work together to get a national EC Awareness month! & more research $$$ specifically for EC detection, prevention & treatment...
    As a daughter to though---I know you need some time to rest & heal.
    Lots of love & hugs form all of us...
    kim

    sorry about your Dad
    Shantel,
    So sorry about your Dad, thank you for sharing your journey with us and I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Your Dad is at peace and not suffering from this terrible EC. take care,
    Donna70
  • cfight
    cfight Member Posts: 69
    I'm sorry to hear about the
    I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your father. My thoughts go out to you and your family during this challenging time.

    Carolyn
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  • nancyann3
    nancyann3 Member Posts: 173 Member
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    Very sorry
    We are very sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with you.
  • Lylesmyprince
    Lylesmyprince Member Posts: 130
    nancyann3 said:

    Very sorry
    We are very sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with you.

    Shantel
    My heart breaks with you as you morn the loss of your dad. Yes...he is in heaven...how wonderful!!...I will pray for you and your family as you all regroup and discover life without him in it. That is what we are doing these days following Lyle's departure to heaven.

    Blessings,
    Susie
  • Ellie_E
    Ellie_E Member Posts: 50
    It is never easy to hear of
    It is never easy to hear of another brave warrior beaten by this horror. I am so sorry to hear of your father's passing. He is truly with the angels. Prayers with you and your family.

    Ellie
  • Hope_Faith
    Hope_Faith Member Posts: 150
    Sorry ~
    I'm so sorry to hear of your father's passing. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers.
  • DLS5419
    DLS5419 Member Posts: 34
    Shanty...
    I do not know much about your father's story, but I know losing someone so close is hard. I wanted to send this your way. This is my mom's testimony...and I truly believe it was meant to be shared to comfort those who have lost loved ones. God bless. You are in my prayers.


    My mom's testimony.

    I remember praying the night mom was in the hospital. I had just turned 14 years old (2004). Mom had stage 4 tonsil cancer that had metastasized to her left lymph nodes and reached to her carotid artery. They had given her 22 treatments of radiation and 2 types of chemo...which almost killed her. That night I had seen mom in the most severe pain I have ever seen anyone experience; no meds could touch it. She was burnt from the inside out (esophagus all the way up to her lips were sores) and she was on TPN through a port. She was deaf in one ear and her immune system was completely compromised. They prepared us for the worst. She was only 40 at the time. My dad was in total emotional shock...understandable. But there was something so disturbing about that pain...I could not stand it. I went home and begged God for His help. I just begged for her to have a peace that passes ALL peace...a peace like the sound of angels singing...a peace only HE could give her. I prayed for Jesus to hold her...to take her pain away. That night I gave it to Him. I found this letter from mom to a friend who was losing a father to cancer. Here is mom's version the story and her miracle:
    _____________________________________________________
    My dear friend,
    I did not know (and still do not know who) that you recently lost someone so dear to you. I needed to send you a special message.

    We have known each other for so very long and I believe with all I am that our Father is so faithful he puts people into our lives even if it is momentary to remind us that He is carrying us through our pain. I know death. I was so close to death in May 2004. I will tell you that I had people praying for me I did not know. I was in the hospital and had been septic and in so much pain for 4 days. Now, I want you to read what I am telling you and know for certain of God's comfort for His children at death.

    I could not see very well and had lost almost all of my hearing due to an overload of chemo and radiation. Nothing was helping and I was being treated for severe burns. I drifted off and woke up to music in the next room over. I was so surprised to actually hear music playing. It was Christian music and I figured I couldn't place the songs due to the level of drugs being forced into me. Each song was so familiar and beautiful, Brad. It did not stop all night. People came into my room and I didn't even care. I was so comforted by the songs being sung and the music of my neighbor. I couldn't see one person from the other because they had to dress in scrubs anyway. I rested all night into the next day feeling less pain than I had in days. I was so glad that the Dr.'s finally found a combination of meds to help me. When Dani and Van insisted I open my eyes to listen to them, I was a little annoyed because I was resting so well. I had lost my voice due to vocal cord burns, but whispered to each of them that I could hear the beautiful songs. I asked what the names of the songs were beause they were so familiar and I knew they would know them. I could not hear them try to talk to me, but remember wondering why they looked so sad when I was obviously feeling better and more rested. For the next 4 days I rested and listened to the beautiful choir sing and the melodies flowed through the room and quieted my thoughts and pain. Time was not important and I was able to focus on the love of my family without having to struggle with words. I thanked God for my neighbor in the hospital and prayed the person would get better, but also secretly wanted them to stay since I could hear music for the first time in so long.

    On the 8th morning, I awoke in tremendous pain with no more music. Doctors were in my room with Dani and Van. Nurses were poking and moving me. I hurt so badly and was upset I couldn't hear. I whispered to Dani and Van who were very very happy (which made me confused)...... did my neighbor leave? I miss the music I told them. I need better pain medicine again I explained tears streaming down my face. They were making arrangements for home health care so I could be transported home. I thought to myself that they were crazy! I was worse!

    Brad, I was better.......there was no neighbor. There was no music from another room. I had been barely responsive and my medicine had not been changed or lessened.

    I was given the chance to hear just a little of the sweet sounds of Heaven. Death does not hurt Brad. To everyone around me, it looked very painful and upsetting. To me, I felt better than I had in months and rested wonderfully to the songs of angels and saints singing. It was as clear as an ipod with headphones. Beautiful and clear. Comforting and soft. The melodies were as familiar as my husband and child. When God let me stay, the pain of life returned. I am so blessed to be here and felt The Holy Spirit telling me to explain death to you. I listen when Christ moves in me. I owe Him!

    You can count on prayers of your friends and the Love of your Holy Father. Death, although it seems bad to those around us, does not hurt.

    Love,
    Alison
    ___________________________________________________

    I hope to all who get the chance to read this understand: my prayer was answered. The next day after asking for mom to have peace, I walked in the room to her smiling. It was a strange smile and she could only whisper what she was hearing...beautiful music. The angels were singing. My Jesus is the Prince of Peace. Our heavenly Father is with you every second...even on death's door. My mom lived. She survived. I truly believe she was meant to share her miracle and help others who are going through such difficult times. God is with you. As you walk through this valley, do not be afraid. He is with you.

    Dani