her daddy

webozo
webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
i have a question may-be some one can help me out. our daughter has hodgkins stage 2. i have come to accept this and in fact she is getting very good treatment and getting better. the question is that her dad has not talked about it. he has not even mentioned it to our other children. his best friend dosen't even know. i don't think he should do more than he is comfortable with but i do not think that he is handling it but he won't even talk to me about it. i am worried because he is manic depressive and i could not take a relasp in he desease. we could not afford it in money or spiri. the question i guess is should i push him to at least talk to me? how should i handle this? any of you that know me and our story this is one of the reasons i am not in kanass with jackie i am scared to leave him here alone.

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  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
    #2
    Welcome Webozo
    Hello,
    I was a caregiver for my dad, Ray, who has recently passed away, 3/9/10. He had survived esophageal cancer, but in December he got mets to his liver, and could not beat it. You are right in being concerned for your daughter, and your husband. Your husband needs to see his counselor, if he has one. He needs to discuss his feelings. Sounds like he is afraid to. It is great news that your daughter is doing well. You are right, you do not need to go through manic depression along with hodkins. One or the other, but not both!! Your husband must get some help with this. Try the approach of not telling him what he needs to do, but nicely suggesting that he needs to get some help. Husbands never like to be told what to do! Ask him...what do you think? how should we handle this? Keep us posted, and the best of luck to your daughter with her progress!
    Tina
  • webozo
    webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
    #3
    Tina Blondek said:

    Welcome Webozo
    Hello,
    I was a caregiver for my dad, Ray, who has recently passed away, 3/9/10. He had survived esophageal cancer, but in December he got mets to his liver, and could not beat it. You are right in being concerned for your daughter, and your husband. Your husband needs to see his counselor, if he has one. He needs to discuss his feelings. Sounds like he is afraid to. It is great news that your daughter is doing well. You are right, you do not need to go through manic depression along with hodkins. One or the other, but not both!! Your husband must get some help with this. Try the approach of not telling him what he needs to do, but nicely suggesting that he needs to get some help. Husbands never like to be told what to do! Ask him...what do you think? how should we handle this? Keep us posted, and the best of luck to your daughter with her progress!
    Tina

    thank you for your help and
    thank you for your help and i have contacted his drs. and he has agreed to go so i at least can relax alittle and i have found out that he has talked to our brother-in-law about this whos has went through this himself. thank you again

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